I’m kinda struggling to find a girlfriend.
Not that they rejects me or make fun of me.
But I just dont see tham and meet them.
I serve as court security officer and there are Only older women than me (I’m 21) and they are like 30 or 40 y.o. (90%) some of them even older.
So i cant find GF there. There is one girl who is 23y.o and we are very good friends but she has a boyfriend and Im not the person who is capable of destroying others relationship, she neither.
Than there is one women (30y.o) we are VERY good friends, even workout 1x time a week together. But she also has BF and even a Child.
But my point is that my Basic Day looks like this.
7 - 15 or 8 - 16:30 I’m at work
Than i go home, prepare my stuff and go to the GYM. THERE I spend 1hour or 1 and half Hour.
Then i drive Back to home and eat some dinner and then Cook my lunch for another Day. Than I’m cleaning my flat and also preparing some other stuff for another Day at work.
Thats how my Day looks like from Monday till Thursday.
On Friday I work 6:30 - 14:00
So there is plenty of time (i have always weekends free) but i think Only option where to go with my friends and meet Girls is Club, Party and this kinda stuff… You Know drinking, smoking weed. And this kinda life. Which is against my nature. I’M spending a loooot of money at healthy food and supplements (pre workout,protein, bcaa, Glutamine, tribulus and more) and I dont want to DESTROY my workouts, my progress, my gains. By drinking booz. I was never into drinking alcohol, YES sometimes i went with my friends, before Nofap. Now Im like 95% abstainer, Also i dont smoke weed.
So this Clubs and parties is not for me, what would i do there? Without alcohol?
So I’m kinda lost where to meet new Girls.
I work, so I’m no longer at school which is probably the best place to find girlfriend.
But when I was at high school i was crippled by anxiety. I was a sick person a PMO addict.
So i fucked up those years.
I could approach Girls at gym, but some of them
behave very arrogant and lot of them wear a headphones (Metoo) so i dont want to Interrupt there workout Im also very FOCUSED at gym.
But Im totally not afraid of to ask them for together working out.
But I need your help, TIPS for activities where to meet Young Girls. I dont want to use badoo or other bullshit soc. media.
I want to use my confidence, my teachings from NOFAP reboot.
Peace.
I must admit I’m kinda suffering without girlfriend
Because I have good Appearance and good muscular body (not perfect) which is obvious without steroids, but Im Strong and veins also are visible. And I have Hell of confidence since I dont look at pornography and practice PMO
Easiest way would probably be tinder. And like you said the gym is a good place to meet people your age. Malls also work bro, really you can meet people anywhere. As long as there’s some interest just go up and introduce yourself. Tell them you think they’re cute and ask for their number. If she’s interested bang you’re in, if she’s taken oh well. Plenty of other fish. But like I said tinder is the easiest way to meet people that are mutually looking for a partner or atleast a one night stand.
If you are passionate about fitness you can also go to certain fitness expo , keep a track of them in the internet community. You will meet plenty of girls there and you guys can have something in common to talk about. Ask their number, use your confidence! Good luck mate
You have lot time after work.I will suggest you to do something more with this time you’re 21 years old you have lot of life ahead.Don’t settled at the current position of court security officer try to elevate more in your life.You are very young and have a stable job at this age.Forgot girlfriend and other things for some yeras.Go for something more.
No bro, Im just not into this bullshit soc.media.
I also deleted my instagram account and deactivated Facebook account, Only using messenger to be in contact with friends. But NO, NO Badoo, Tinder not an option for me
My dream is one Day to open my own GYM, Wich would be PERFECT gym. Mixture of hardcore old school gym and modern machines, but its very very expensive in my country. To buy, build or rent such a big building and buy all the weights, dumbbells and machines, so its kinda Long term DREAM. My current goal is to find a GF and start a FAMILY, maybe I’m old fashion but i would really love to have wife and Kid.
If this wont be possible i would love to travel to New Zealand for about a 1 year and work there and travel there. YOU Know Explore this beautiful land.
Or maybe join Police, here in Czech Republic
Hey @jetstream98, I have read and notice there is loads of obstacles. Yeah it hard on getting your hart and mind in it to get a girl and like you said meeting a girl, is usually done in a club. Yes, I noticed you don’t wanna drink because your a fit guy and don’t wanna lose the progress, but don’t limit yourself to go there. Nowadays you do get alcohol free drinks so you can find out if the club do sell them. And yes I know I am suggesting drink only drink 1 drink, but it never stays as 1 drink especially when you are out with the guys.
Go alone or ask your gym buddy to be your wing man and have a night out. The options don’t stop at going to a club, there is Ice skating or 10 pin bowling you can do aswell. So it keeps you active and free from alcohol too. And you and your wing man can score chicks and a fun time.
You also like other guys metion meet girls in the mall it is the best place. But I also been there, but you seem stuck at what to do you freeze when you wanna talk to girls or you just get stuck. Just learn to ask for time from random girls at first and later go for and ask to grab a coffee or for their number.
That’s what I am trying and it works. If in doubt also challenge a guy from the gym or friend to grab numbers from girls at a public . Thus you create a bit of competition and this motives you to do so aswell.
The 1 thing is don’t limit yourself. That’s the only thing standing in your way.
Thanks for advice… But i dont Know men.
I would like to find a girl, a partner for life
Girls in clubs and parties are like Whooooo yeah every week different Guy sleeping with them.
They dont Care about life Only enjoying life.
Aka whores. Atleast in my country… You wont find good, loyal Girls in clubs. Only bitches and I Know i could sleep with them also, but it wouldn’t be any success, because when a girl is drunk she will sleep with any looser.
