Hello brothers in this struggle

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Hi guys I want to discuss this to understand your thoughts on this as it might give me a different or maybe a wider perspective on how you guys deal with similar situation if any one is facing or even if not facing

Before starting just a small back story
I am 35 yrs young wasn’t aware this was an issue that is affecting other aspects of my life till I got married which i thought would give me some sence of achievement and direction in life but when that didn’t happen i started looking for solutions online and figuring out how these things and many others interlinking and have affected many aspects of my life was a very good realisation and i ended up on this app and also found other online content

Cut to present I have gained lot of insight and yes improving every moment

But after understanding how many of my decision that I took or didn’t take have affected my current life condition which were due to many ill habits including pmo

Few examples

*) I realised how I have not looked after my health and lacked being my 100 percent this is something I am working on will be life long practice

*) how because my late teens and entire 20ties where wasted in getting high and drunk made it impossible for me to figure out who I was what I wanted in life and how it’s not all about sex and party

*) how I would have chosen someone very different if i had realised it before settling down
It’s not that my wife is not good but many aspects of her i don’t relate to and maybe i would have looked for those things in someone before getting married
it’s not that I am not happy I am now working with her to solve her problems also and we are improving together and having someone else will come with other issues as no one is perfect

*) my job my academics are lacking behind completely I would have been ahead or maybe doing something different

And feellings of a major loss
Loss of time ,opportunities feelings of having less time now is overwhelming at times I am running to catch up but still

Do revert

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When you are lost in a forest, don’t stay where you are. Start walking.
When you start walking, you will find clues and obstacles. Use them.
It’s like solving a complex puzzle; don’t force two pieces that don’t fit together.

As you keep walking, your direction might change. You find a better way.
And though you stumble and fall, it hurts, and so you crawl. But you rise again.
And keep walking; you will meet new people. You’ll get closer to your destination than ever.

In the heart of the forest, shadows can mislead, yet light seeps through.
Listen to the whispers of the trees, they might guide you to a path anew.
Every step, whether sure or hesitant, is a dance with the unknown.

Keep moving forward, with courage as your guide, and dreams as your map.
The journey molds you, and with each stride, you find your inner strength.
Until the forest clears, and you stand at the edge, ready to embrace… what’s next.

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That’s Deep… … nice thanks best way to advise someone is a deep parable

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Life is full of ups and downs.
what’s the meaning of remembering past’s regrets? This is only going to make you fall again and again So just forgot about all the past The God of Ghost want to say that you need to face the situation with all your might instead of complaining about it go and do those things that can make your life better it’s never too late till you are alive live in present to make future wonderful.

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