Having urges the kind of where i relapse. Constant fantasizing. Mind is telling it’s Okay to relapse. What should I do ?
If you relapsed you will start from day 1…this is the motivation
Suffer now and live the rest of your life as champion
Thanks bro. Truly said.
you are the hero of your own life ok you can do anything you are stronger than any addiction
Yes, If you release, You will start again, of day 1. Depends What’s your fantasy. You will can reset your brain only after 60 days and without Fap (porn) . It’s the best moment.
Bro, you have already received some wise advices here. But, apart from that, what I’ll suggest you is to quit thinking about it. Honestly, its of no use. Your mind is addicted and it wants its dosage, but you can control it. Its hard, but you can tell “no” to it. If you’ll keep thinking about it and fantasizing about it, then it’ll bevome hard to fight urges. Just don’t think about it. Resist the urges, no matter how small. This is how you become ready to fight the big urges.
Also bro, remember that its not real. None of those women that you’re fapping for, actually even care about your existence. Even if they get to know about this, they’ll be disgusted with you you at best or laugh at you at worst. But remember that more than a human, you are just a customer to them who pays them for fucking their favourite men (none of which is you). Do you want to fap for that?
ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION ABOUT FANTASIZING AND THOUGHTS
Never fantasize (duh!)
If a sexual though comes, just focus on something else. It just takes 5 seconds to redirect to a new thought. Entertaining a thought will increase its power and make you more horny and create powerful urges. So focus on something else.
Other points to avoid a relapse
POINT 1. Just avoid visual and auditory i.e. ALL TRIGGER. Stay the hell away from screen, social media and movies (also series and animes). Don’t check out girls or opposite gender.
POINT 2. Stay busy to defeat physical urges. Don’t fight the urges, it will get powerful if we concentrate on it. Staying busy is the ultimate weapon to defeat horniness. Staying busy for a lifelong goal and dream is better. Follow a routine. Don’t divert from it.
POINT 3 ALREADY DISCUSSED
POINT 4. Don’t touch your privates ever. Don’t put your hands in the pants. NO Touching!!!
THESE ARE JUST LAME MIND TRICKS
POINT 5. Remember your horrible feelings after EVERY. SINGLE. RELAPSE!!!. No porn will satisfy you. No masturbation will make you happy. PMO will not decrease your stress. It will not relax you. You don’t need PMO to feel good. You don’t want PMO anymore. YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED BY PMO ANYMORE. YOU VIEW PMO AS DISGUSTING, HORRIBLE AND VOMIT PRODUCING. YOUR PAST IS PAST. NOW YOU ARE A NEW AND BETTER PERSON. AND YOU WILL NEVER EVER GO BACK TO THAT CRAP!!!.
After breaking from the conscious mental attraction of PMO, now just take a cold shower or put cold water on your privates (if you know for sure you won’t touch yourself). Then stay busy in your task. Or take a walk, socialize, eat or drink something and exercise.
Practice these 5 points. Make it a habit and you will NEVER relapse!!!