Hard Truths / Unpopular Opinions (Learning Journey)

Here are some hard truths I’ve learnt after 30 days on hard mode and some unpopular opinions of mine:

  1. NoFap is not a magical way to solve problems or fix your bad habits. You will not change completely from your old ways if you do not continue to work on yourself.

  2. Set realistic goals for yourself. Don’t “punish” yourself by aiming for one year when you haven’t cleared 20 days. Baby steps — set milestones instead of large goals.

  3. You need to have a reason stronger than your urges in order to succeed. Personally, my reasons are studying and my relationships with friends and family.

  4. Keeping off social media is great way to avoid triggers, but eventually you’ll need to be able to face your temptations to conquer them. I still have Instagram and Twitter, and I’m finding it easier to handle than before.

  5. Edging can and will destroy your progress.

  6. Having a community to encourage each other is amazing and helpful. But you’re by yourself when you relapse. It’s not the fault of any others, but a personal decision made during a moment of weakness.

  7. Don’t give up on yourself. Addiction is real and we’re all trying to fight it. Don’t punish yourself unnecessarily or feel too bad about failing. It’s all part of life and the path to greatness.

If you agree or disagree with any of my points, or if you would like to add on anything, please feel free to do so! I would love to discuss your thoughts on this.

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  1. Stop trying to get upvotes for encouragement. Internet points mean nothing.
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  1. Your streak is not an indicator of your level of productivity. Although I’m glad I’m pulling through.

I’ve actually been highly unproductive these past weeks but I’m working to change that.

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This is also another source of dopamine which mind craves for… like on social media platform :+1: gives happiness to some users.

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Yes! I think temporary highs only make people feel worse in the end. Like feeling you failed those people who encouraged you, but really your only enemy is yourself

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At what phase would you guys recommend going back to them? I don’t even like using social media to be honest.

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I think it’s different for each individual! If not using social media works for you and you’re doing well without it then please continue to do so.

Going back to social media would mean triggers don’t affect you or that triggers aren’t there in the first place. Personally I’m not affected by social media because the content I view isn’t sexy/pornographic. Also, I live away from family so it’s a place I can update family and friends on my life haha.

But I understand that other people abstain from social media because it affects their productivity. The mistake people make is saying that social media is completely harmful, when people can also use it for good.

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  1. Just your imagination and mind can destroy you. Sad to say I’ve relapsed but it is what it is.

Won’t be posting much here for a bit. Will update once I’ve climbed back up and realigned my goals

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