Gvnfck's diary [m/16]

Hi all,
this topic is supposed to provide help for me through learning myself and maybe others can learn fron my experiences too.
My goal is to continue with nofap hard mode until 30th March 00:00, today at 15:00 Ill have a streak of four days.
Usually this topic will be updates once a day, during weekend or holidays maybe less.
I will try to describe everything strange that I experience and would like everyone to participate if he wants.

EDIT: @fenila

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#4 Again during school I dont feel any urge, but while at home after school, when I am pretty exhausted and lazy as usual I have to control myself and use to exercise. At night it seems hardest.

I dont really feel any benefits yet, maybe I am a bit more dedicated

EDIT: I handle dirty thoughts not as a relapse. In my opinion surfing porn websites or masturbating is a relapse and nothing else. How do you see this?

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I agree with you… But bear in mind that thoughts may lead to gradual action … Be aware

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Hi I am new. I am in nofap and it’s hard. A horrific fall down at day 130. Later I binge for 3 days. It was nasty. Please help.

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You had 130 days ?
Strong performance👌

What u are suffering from now is taking the past to important I guess. You have to let go what has been. See every relapse and mistake as possibility to learn. Besides you should make sure that you live in the present. Only those who achieve this are at peace.

As you have managed to stay clean for such a long time i suppose you dont need help from me in this hindsight, otherwise feel free to ask.

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Still #4

I found that the best method to avoid jerking off when being triggered by girls in the public that I think about at home is getring clear about the fact that I dont want it, only my brain wants it!

And this is an inportant difference in my opinion! I dont need to feel an inner conflict, I only nees to ignore nasty hormones!

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#5

Again only wet imaginations, generally no real struggle, I can stay strong.

Only problem is that avoiding relapsing still costs way too much attention and energy, I have to get busy at home, thinking and laying around is way too demanding and dangerous.

Does anybody have tips for this?

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Still #5

Again this feeling of laziness and remembering all the hot girls in public. Although I can resist it would for sure be easier not to remind these images. I will try to meditate now and exercise a little, we’ll see how it goes.

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I decided to stop practicing nofap in hard mode
I think its better to change the masturbaring times, e.g. only in the evening without porn and max 5 times a week or something like this.

Otherwise i lose focus because i habe to concentrate on not jerking off

Yes I know this feeling, I used to think it was much harder and time-consuming to resist the urge then to accept a relapse. This would always frustrate me when I was doing an important project that was due soon. I would want to stay clean but I also didn’t have the time to resist the urges all day. So in the past, I would just give in and relapse.

However, I realized this view was all wrong. I realized that a lot of my “resisting” was just me moving closer and closer to a relapse by edging then stopping then edging again. I would waste the day basically relapsing but not fully so until the end.

It wasn’t until I realized that resisting an urge and only using my willpower is not effective that I was able to learn new strategies that deal with urges much more swiftly and permanently. The biggest one of these strategies I developed was mindfulness. When I get an urge, I write down everything that it is saying and get to the bottom of it and deal with the real issue at hand.

Because often we get urges, not because we want or need sex, but because we have an unmet need that our body has learned to go to porn to “fix”. When we start to discover what our body actually needs and the arguments our urge is presenting for relapse, we can easily counter-argue it and commit to healthy activities that take care of our need.

This is my strategy in a nutshell that has changed the whole game for me and made urges less of an all-day struggle. Although I should mention, that when I first started using this technique, sometimes it did take all day and I often had to couple it with other strategies.

If you like the sound of that strategy and more I used, I write more in depth about it on my 90 Days PMO Clean After 5.5 Years of Addiction

That’s what’s really worked for me, but obviously everyone is different. Maybe give it a good try for awhile and see if you like it.

Good luck man, hope that helps :+1:

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