this is the exact thing, why I always believed that our journey should start in our mind, figuring out what our problem really is. And I’m sure, for most of us, the problem is not simply porn.
I was highly addicted to computer games when I was younger. From one day to another I stop playing (had my reasons) and found joy in playing squash. But I soon started to train 7 days a week until my ankles and knees were irreversibly destroyed. I stopped playing squash and started watching youtube and twitch for hours each day.
In therapy I found out, that the reason for my problems is a lack in self-confidence. That I fear to do things in which I’m not good at. If there was something that I still had to do (buying presents, socializing and stuff), then anxiety hit me and i tried to hide from these feelings. This is why I went to porn and internet stuff in general. For me, it is the most efficient way to procrastinate stuff.
I relapse back to the internet every time that I wanna procrastinate something. Could be simple things like “I’m tired but should still do some work” or “I should apply for jobs but that scares be”.
What helps me is mindfulness meditation (I’m using headspace) and (in contrast to what many people will tell you) having enough time for myself were I do nothing (For my problem, the “keep yourself busy all the time” thing was the worst advice. Sure it helps with not relapsing but it is just another way of procrastination.)
Right now, I made a fire and I will just have some time for myself, thinking about how I feel and how life is going. These are the most important things for me.
Hope it helps you a bit