Feeling emotionally dead on a date
Anyone relate to this?
I’ve not had a huge amount of dating experience but this issue has come up at least once on a date. Plus the general feeling of deadness or even anger at times instead of whatever I should be feeling. I’m guessing emotional issues but mainly I’m thinking it’s a porn related feeling of disconnection…
Not good obviously
What is it that you think you “should be feeling”? Your journey starts by allowing yourself to feel whatever you are feeling including “deadness” and anger, and then take it from there. In time, as you stop covering your feelings (especially the unpleasant ones) with fapping and other addictions, your emotional system will start responding to your environment in more productive ways and allow you to connect with people more deeply. Until then, be easy on yourself with regard to how you feel around other people, and yes, keep away from porn.
Sounds like you’ve burnt out your ability to fall in love. This can be very harmful. It happened to me about 9 months ago. Sometimes it’s just gone forever but other times it’s possible to rekindle your ability to fall in love. The best way to do that is just to avoid romance and sexual activity (including mastrabastion) for a while and deprive yourself. After being deprived for long enough you will start to need a partner. Let this need fester and grow and eventually re-enter the dating scene. Don’t do it for sex, do it to find someone you can marry. Because if you do it just for sex and then leave a couple years later that will hurt your ability to fall in love even more. But once you’re married, you’re set for life.
I was able to experience the difference between fap and no fap.
Nofap creates an explosion of emotions and colors, creates magic and makes feelings re-emerge, makes the heart re-emerge, makes you fall in love really.
Nofap, done without impure thoughts, enables one to love, free from attachment and jealousy, always wrong.
Create empathy.
Instead, those who always fap become apathetic, unable to love and his only purpose with a woman is to feel pleasure, not love. Women become an object.
He becomes unable to fall in love, unable to fall in love with the eyes of a child, life becomes empty, his soul is buried by tons of body of death and sin.
His life is filled with sadness and unhappiness.
@adequatemonty, i totally agree with what you said.
I just add my cintribution to the advice: work on yourself, by deeply knowing the real roots of your fap-need (e.g. Traumas, psicosis, causes of stress, …) with the technique you feel mostly fit with you (i.e. Emotional freedom technique, self analosys, psycotherapy, …).
To me, that is the ultinate way to go. 
I too regretted the days when I didn’t have dates at 12 years, for example, when I was sure I would feel very strong emotions.
On the other hand, having dating later in life, the excitement and magic of each date are almost dead for me and there is sadness for this fact and sometimes, instead of rejoicing, arguments can happen.
The sadness of all the lost magic, of all the magic that fades over the years. 