Feeling emotionally dead on a date

Feeling emotionally dead on a date

Anyone relate to this?

I’ve not had a huge amount of dating experience but this issue has come up at least once on a date. Plus the general feeling of deadness or even anger at times instead of whatever I should be feeling. I’m guessing emotional issues but mainly I’m thinking it’s a porn related feeling of disconnection…
Not good obviously

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What is it that you think you “should be feeling”? Your journey starts by allowing yourself to feel whatever you are feeling including “deadness” and anger, and then take it from there. In time, as you stop covering your feelings (especially the unpleasant ones) with fapping and other addictions, your emotional system will start responding to your environment in more productive ways and allow you to connect with people more deeply. Until then, be easy on yourself with regard to how you feel around other people, and yes, keep away from porn.

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Sounds like you’ve burnt out your ability to fall in love. This can be very harmful. It happened to me about 9 months ago. Sometimes it’s just gone forever but other times it’s possible to rekindle your ability to fall in love. The best way to do that is just to avoid romance and sexual activity (including mastrabastion) for a while and deprive yourself. After being deprived for long enough you will start to need a partner. Let this need fester and grow and eventually re-enter the dating scene. Don’t do it for sex, do it to find someone you can marry. Because if you do it just for sex and then leave a couple years later that will hurt your ability to fall in love even more. But once you’re married, you’re set for life.

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