WHY WE RELAPSE?
What we think before
We Relapse because we need that rush of dopamine we are addicted to. (for the body it’s the horniness you feel in your testis but that’s another discussion for tomorrow. Right now I’ll discuss just brain) The desire for Dopamine motivates us. It makes that action the most desirable and hides and smokes everything else in its way. You forget your reason for nofap. You forget how you felt the guilt and regret the last time you relapsed. It’s like wearing glasses that makes everything appear of similar color. Of similar goal. One goal… Dopamine. You see you mobile or computer as a means for PMO. You see the chair as a means to sit and fap on. You see the door as a means of privacy during your secret bad habit. You see the shower as a means to clean the filth away when you are done.
What happens after the relapse
And when you Relapse, the sunglasses are off and the real color of everything appears as it was. Now you see the reality. All is left is regret, guilt and weakness.
How can you stop?
You don’t wear those glasses immediately. You only wear it after facing a trigger and not guarding your Initial thoughts and actions. When you see a trigger, just say no. Look away. Don’t focus on the initial thought of jerking off. It will die when you don’t concentrate on it. You only wear those glasses when you continously react to the trigger in your old ways. Just change the reaction to the trigger. Soon this new way will become your old way and you won’t relapse to a trigger.