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This won’t happen magically.
What I’ve learnt is that basically in order to create attraction and seem interesting for someone you’d like to get to know, you’ll need self love to some extent. I’d go as far and even say that if you don’t truly work on the relationship you have with yourself and your inner voice, you won’t be able to have a steady long term relationship. The relationship with yourself will improve if you succeed at self improvement and NoFap, which is why (I think) most guys mention this “superpower”. There are other parts to it though (e.g. accepting your and others’ boundaries, empathy, using forgiveness etc.).
If I were able to give you one advice that sticks with you during your dating life, then it would be this one: Focus only on what you can actually control, as others don’t play by your rules. In detail this means, if you see other guys being chatty with some girl you like, then don’t even bother with that situation, because it’s beyond your control. Or let’s say you are starting to date one girl and she’s unsure and still talks to another guy too. In that scenario, her actions are also beyond your control, so don’t bother trying to shape her into things she is not or telling her “this or that” is forbidden. You can’t control that. If people want to move on to another person, they will.
What’s within your control though? That’s the important question. You can control what hobbies you go after. You can control who you speak to. You can control your reactions to rejection in dating life. You can also decide who is worthy of your time. You choose to commit to someone and give them your love, you don’t make that decision for anybody else.
So long story short, keep working on yourself and become that version of yourself you’d like to hang out with too. Then over time, you will see who is a potential love match for you and who isn’t.
Take care.