I am close to ending day 2, But I peeked. Its just an excuse to blame external factors for my relapse. It was my mistake and I know two days isn’t a great achievement also but it means alot to me and I know it’s not a hard blown relapse but it is actually making me feel bad with the whole scenario I might end up in. I don’t wanna do these things again and don’t wanna even think about ■■■■.
So please, tell me what you all do to prevent peeking.
Especially for laptop, can you guys suggest something that blocks these ■■■■ on Laptop?
I did not relapse. The moment i wrote the above message I started working on Resume and all, which diverted my concentration and urges faded, ended up working till 8:00 PM. Now I don’t feel any urge at all.
Also, talked to a friend about various topics, it was a very healthy conversation.
Now, I will do some assignments and then start a new webseries. 
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Unfortunately, blocking software doesn’t work very well for advanced addicts. Pornography is everywhere on the Internet, you can find it even when you’re not looking for it. So if you’re motivated to find it, you definitely will.
If you block Instagram, there is TikTok. Block that, but there’s YouTube. You need YouTube for your studies and other productive tasks. So put YouTube in Restricted Mode. Ah, but now you can’t read the comments and those are useful to you. And you can still find unclean videos in Restricted Mode anyway, so what’s the point? Even with Google SafeSearch on the highest setting, you can find pornography if you search long enough - trust me. And if you manage to block everything on your laptop, what about your phone?
Blocking software isn’t made by addicts. These people don’t know that an addict will try his very best to find a way to bypass their software and find a loophole so he can view his beloved pornography.
You can decide to completely stop using the Internet and get an old keypad phone instead of a smartphone, but how would you live in this modern world? Plus, if you are so inclined, you may use someone else’s device to relapse, or masturbate to images in your imagination.
But, there is still hope. The best and most effective blocker will always be your commitment to never watch pornography or masturbate again. No one can make you do something against your free will. Many people who are free from PMO have no blocking software. I know someone who has been clean for 10 years, no peeking or edging, completely clean, and they have no blocking software.
This journey isn’t about stopping yourself before you release semen. It’s about cutting out all addictive behaviour that is running your life. Peeking is a relapse in itself. Why peek when you want to quit pornography and masturbation? You cannot quit PMO by doing PMO. Leave all behind you and the journey will get much easier. You can be permanently free and lead a much happier, more fulfilling life. Pornography has never done anything good for us, and it never will.
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Very beautifully expressed thoughts
One thing i have experienced is as my pmo free days increase from day 4 onwards, i start getting the urge more intensely and then i think more about not seeing ■■■■ or jerking off, which inturn creates more mental pressure which in turn leads to more intense urge and this becomes a positive feedback loop which keeps on mounting. In between the urges you add more blocks on the internet which only steepens the curve of urges and the want to get a release.
So i was reading “subtle art of not giving a fuck” by mark manson. He calls it a feedback loop from hell.
He says, “Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure.”
Which reminds me of buddhas saying that pain is an inseprable part of life. Acceptance of pain and emotions attached with it and not avoiding is tough,but important. Overall, what he means that you’ll feel pain and you don’t have to escape the feeling of pain, you just have to not give a fuck about it, just let it be and accept that yes there it is and i am suffering and feeling it very much. Only then would we be able to truly get over it a.k.a vipasna meditation.
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I am not free from PMO for years. But I have never used a P blocker.
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You definitely have the right to speak, you’re on 100+ days with no blocker.
@iamanxious “What you resist not only persists but will grow in size.” Carl Jung
I’ve been there, spending hours and hours battling urges. I remember one night I fought myself until 6AM.
It comes back to that idea, “Don’t think about a pink elephant.” But that’s exactly what pops into our minds. And the more we try not to think about it, the clearer the picture of the pink elephant becomes. When it comes to urges, we fight ourselves trying not to think about pornography, yet the flashbacks of sexual images and videos become more vivid and attractive.
We will have to accept that we will get urges. They aren’t going away. People who have been free for decades still get the odd thought here and there. But we can change the way that we respond to urges. They are thoughts that draw their power from us; if we remove our power, they can’t force us to do anything against our will.
Observe the thoughts, allow them to pass through us. Who cares if I get a flashback of some old pornographic video? I’m here because I agreed I wouldn’t watch that anymore. So that’s just a memory from my past that will fade with time. It doesn’t need to cause me any problems.
Right now, with this knowledge, I am on day 40 and my urges die within a minute. They no longer draw any strength or power from me, and are easily defeated.
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That is very nice but for me personally, blockers are working very effectively for mobile. I don’t even get urges to watch ■■■■ in mobile but the alternative of a laptop is what’s making me fall once in a while now.
That is why, I want to know if anyone has any blocker suggestions for laptop, cus it would actually help in the initial phases like 1-15 days as I have been in a hard chaser effect for a long while as you all know.
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This might help
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I think you may try separating yourself from your craving, I mean, when you see a cue and the craving comes, you say to yourself: ‘Alright, craving.’ The craving would last for some while, just observe the mental and physical reactions, see them come and go, take some deep breaths, remind youself the reason of nofap, and release. In my experience, even if we block the cues on internet, we still face cues from friends and on the street, some cues are even seemingly irrelevant stuff. The only way to tackle them is to separate ourselves from cravings, not recognizing them, just observe and let go.
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