I was definitely more aggressive in pushing away thoughts and I didn’t even get any cravings!
It was a more than easy day, while I thought that facing day 7 would be a struggle!
I felt proud of myself!
Having reached the first goal of the 7 days, it’s time to change it: 10 days!
Well done king . When you have an urge, fight it tooth and nail every time! I find that being aggressive in my pushing away of urges (as soon as I see them) hurts them the most.
You should feel proud of yourself . Smash the next 3 days, completely professionally! Don’t give PMO room to breathe!
Sorry this will be a long message. I will try my best to help you.
A fighter will win a fight because he is strong, trained in the right methods, and has the endurance.
Well done on fighting. Any time you fight you train your willpower and discipline. It is good that you know methods like playing games in your head, but that is part of the package , from my experience. Well done on looking for advice.
your greatest aid will be mental strength. Train this through doing difficult things. Workout when your body feels unable to move - force it to move, study when you cannot focus - force yourself to focus. Go to sleep at a time that is good for your body (e.g. 10pm), even though you want to stay up later. Do not worry that you do not fall asleep immediately, it is the point of discipline. Do things that require discipline and mental strength, and you will gain that discipline and mental strength that you need.
be fast. When PMO attacks, lash out immediately and strike it down. Allow it no room to breathe. Every second entertaining an urge lights up the same circuit in your brain that is used when doing PMO. Fantasizing about something (even slightly) sensual? The same. Thinking that you “might” PMO? The same. To your brain, imagining PMO is the same as watching PMO, to a lesser effect. For your brain to rewire, you cannot entertain these thoughts, because it sees that this circuit is still being used. This is difficult but very important. Redirect this energy to good things, as @SonGoku22 does.
consistently do these things. Consistently be disciplined, as that is what discipline is. Consistently be focused, and you will become more focused (and then better able to direct your thoughts). Consistency is key. Every single day, push yourself. Do not excuse yourself from this standard, and remember that PMO is a curse, not a reward by any measure. @FaithfulWalker once said to me, when I had fallen down a lot and was in a very poor state: “discipline yourself to be better”. It was and is the answer for me. Thank you again man .
Do not forget the pain that it has caused you and those around you. Never forget the life that you are striving to live. The man who you are striving to be. One who will try his very best, always, be focused always, and benefit others because of it. This is not just for you, but it will help others too. It is a righteous man’s duty to do all that he can to help others, and so I see it as my duty to quit PMO, as otherwise I will continue to hurt myself and those around me.
If you are quitting, then a “one more time” makes no sense, at all. Never do it.
trust the process. Stay the course. A ship does not reach its destination if it turns around or even goes sideways. Stay on the path, trust it, and know that you will grow stronger. As you grow stronger, PMO will grow less of a threat in comparison, and you can strike it down even harder. Trust the process. Stay the course.
I hope that this helps. You have the full support of this incredible community behind you man. You clearly have the determination. You have the strength within you. It is up to you to pour it out of yourself. I apologize for how long this was.
So, to all of us who are still rising, still fighting, I want to say: Keep going. The victories you are experiencing may seem small, but they are significant. The victories of today are the foundation for the victories of tomorrow. Keep trusting in your purpose, in the process, and in the strength that lies within you. You are not alone in this fight. Together, we rise.
It is positive to listen to music, music can be relevant in the progress of the path. House and Dance music can create agitation in the brain and decrease mental clarity, leading to a state of disorder in thoughts. Many contemporary music of other musical genres have a very low quality both in the lyrics and in the instrumental part, I do not recommend listening to them.
Classical music, especially piano-solo, on the other hand brings calm to thoughts, slows them down, reduces anxiety and restores the mental clarity that we all need.
If composed using non-12-TET 440 Hz sounds, the benefits are much greater. In Pianoteq you can choose the frequency of each of the 12 notes individually and if a consonant tuning is discovered, once the song is exported, it can give new energy to the path we are facing. C at 256 Hz is recommended as a starting point.
This information cannot be understood by most but often curiosity pushes you to delve deeper.
Chill-hop music, as it is constructed, can provide additional inspiration to the journey. The artist Lakey Inspired is recommended, perhaps the best chill-hop composer of all time.
The Play Store app “Music Speed Changer” is recommended and by listening to your music tracks by lowering them to -0.53 semitones (don’t ask me how I found this value, otherwise I would have to write The Divine Comedy in a single post ), you will enjoy sounds that are more pleasant to listen to. The playback speed should be kept at 100%.
Watching a lot of movies and getting addicted to a game on a console or mobile phone can destroy all the discipline you have worked so hard for.
Video game addiction is totally against discipline. I haven’t had a console for many years and I don’t want to get a console as a gift.
I haven’t watched ■■■■ for 4 and a half years but for a long time until a week ago, I was doing MO (without P) once or twice a day and unfortunately the destruction of will was only slightly less because the ■■■■ of women I know were still in my head.
As a social network I only have WhatsApp and everything is easier this way.
Practicing sports (the best for me is rowing, which trains all parts of your body) is a huge help in tackling the journey and makes you even more disciplined, increases willpower and you will also be more virile.
Day 24 checking in for 2 days ago. Apologies I was very busy, but do not see this as an escuse. Accountability is extremely important and I must not make excuses. It is a case of duty and diligence.
@WarriorBhism I realise that this is a daily checking in place. Would you like me to reset my checkin streak?
very focused study. 4 hours I think. I learnt a lot, but must improve. This is a low number and I am not making good my goal of 7 hours.
4 hours study. Excellent quality, but not up to standard duration-wise. When I feel like I cannot focus, as I do not want to waste questions, I will find other questions and will myself to be laser sharp. This is good practice.
good workout, very intense.
my baseline focus is improving. I think more properly, perhaps because I have been forcing myself to focus when I find it difficult. I must keep at it.
urges came and I shot them away. I will never let them succeed, and then strike PMO back with good habits.
The slightest thought of meeting a woman I like, just imagining her face or a handshake, is already enough to cause very light pulsations or loss of semen. I have understood that in this phase even the smallest thought leads to a slight excitement, so aware of this, even those innocent thoughts have been thrown away.
How I feel: my emotions light up and the things that happen to me seem more beautiful, something is slowly happening inside my heart, it is less gray.