CM2018: My Journey to Porn-Free (+ Advices)

You are going smooth bro, keep it up :+1:
Benefits are real, you will get more later in the journey, keep climbing , don’t stumble, don’t doubt yourself, keep going :checkered_flag:

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Thank you @tuku! I read your story and you are definitely one of the heros and idols in this community! Your encouragement means a lot to me!

It is 35 days / 5 weeks PMO-free for me now. Cheers!

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Day 37 now. Feeling not so well this weekend. Kind of tired and depressive. But I will stay away from porn. Please do so, too! Cheers!

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38 days PMO-free now. Very low mood, fatigue and bitterness this weekend. Feels like another flatline kicking in. I see it as one of the obstacles that have to be overcome to become sober. But it is very very hard today.

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38 days is wonderful achievement.
Keep hope. After hardship comes easy time.

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Thank you @ERNOL! :smiley:

39 days now.

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Finished day 40 now. The flatline got a little bit easier today. Stay strong, cheers!

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Awesome work bro! Keep going!

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@Forerunner Thank you bro!

41 days now! Super busy times these days at work. It is good not to have time for PMO. But urges kick in regurlarly. It looks like this is a crucial time now in my fight against PMO:
urges vs. willpower. Willpower is leading at the moment.

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Hey @Alastair!

Thank you so much for your compliments! I am glad to hear that you read my postings and that my story motivated you.
Congrats on one week PMO-free! :slight_smile:

Have you already started journalling? It definitely helps to stay accountable. Even after many weeks the urges for PMO still kick in sometimes. And then I often look at this app and think to myself: You have to stay strong, look at your streak, look at this community, look at your own story! Do you really want to let them down? Do you really want to write “sorry guys, I relapsed again”?? NO! YOU DON’T WANT TO!
Stay strong! And keep fighting!

42 days now - 7 weeks PMO-free. Still a decade without ■■■■. :wink: Cheers!

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43 days now. I expect a weekend with urges and try to keep myself busy.

46 days now! :slight_smile:

Hey @Alastair, that sounds really good! Stay strong! Being busy helps so much. Meet friends, follow your hobbies, start a project. There is so much fun to do instead of PMO. Btw: I realize now, how it is getting easier to talk and be with girls. I often feel very good and more self-confident. But still flatlines kick in heavily inbetween.

Oh nice, thank you for the podcast tip. I will listen to it! Do you know the podcast of Matt Dobschuetz? “■■■■ free radio” - also a very good one!

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I worry about the flatlines though,I haven’t experienced it yet and I need advice on how to go through this phase.Since my exams are a few months away,I need to feel motivated to study…

It sounds great that it is getting easier to talk to girls! I suffer from inferiority complex due to excessive PMO and hoping to get rid of it through nofap.I hope I could reach 46 days just as you do and more.

The podcast that you mentioned seems intriguing,I don’t know about it yet.Perhaps I’ll try hearing it sometime.Thanks for the suggestion👍

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@Alastair, everybody is different and not everybody experiences a flatline though. :slight_smile:
Plus: Sometimes a flatline even can be an advantage when it comes to study for exams or tests. Often it means that you are not interested in sex or feel low during a flatline - but then you have time to study.

And you always can text into this forum if you need advice! It is a wonderful community. :slight_smile:

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47 days now - quite a time. Didn’t have such a long streak for a while.

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I see,I was very worried that the flatline period might interfere with my studies but when you said I have more time to study,That relieved me!

By the way,I have heard The Porn Free Radio podcast by Matt Dobschuetz.It was an eye opener for me.In the second episode “Unlovable”,It hit me deep,What if my family knew about this?(I never told my parents about my porn addiction because I am too ashamed).

All my life,They have been supporting me in everything I do except bad things but the fact I was addicted to PMO could destroy them…That is one of the reason I embarked on this journey and I’m forever grateful to God that led me to this community to express my feelings…Its true when Matt Dobschuetz says its liberating and you feel the first step to freedom when you finally come clean to someone…

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@Alastair I am happy that you like the podcast.

I don’t think our parents suspect anyone to be addicted to ■■■■. This is mostly a problem of our generation, the generation of high speed internet. Once I tried to talk about that with my dad. He didn’t understand anything I said haha! :smiley:

50 days now - feeling great today!

Finally made a big step regarding career oportunities as well. I will get a better position in my company next month.

But there is one thing that annoys me very much: has anyone of you guys seen the ads for sex-comics on Facebook? “Toomics” or something… WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT!!! Sponsored porn posts on facebook!?! Where will lead us all this?

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Congratulations on 50 days brother! :grin: :fireworks: :champagne:

Climbing back up there again - keep it going man!

Yeah, it’s both sad and disgusting to see where things are heading. But more and more of us are waking up every day. When we reach a critical mass, they won’t be able to avoid us anymore. Just like smoking, it will be illegal to advertise such filth, and much harder to access.

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@Forerunner @Alastair Thanks for your answers! Sounds good that you don’t let the ads influence you guys aswell. Joshua, I like your comparison with smoking and cigarette ads.

52 days now. Even though I had a hangover there was not one dangerous moment for a relapse today. Feeling good!

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