"Check-in" Daily - diary challenge

You didn’t read that thoroughly then , coz after reading easypeasy 2 times thoroughly u get to know that ■■■■ is useless and its a misbelief that ■■■■ is fascinating.

try to read it again and make notes of each chapter to understand better.

I hope it helps. :smile:

I’m back to day zero and not getting l feeling great and it but I’m glad there is still forward.

@anon67854825 @Gk-00

I did read it thoroughly and I have made notes so maybe don’t be so quick to jump to conclusions

All porn addicts know that porn is useless and empty and yet we return to it because of the dopamine withdrawal and fear of living without it.
The essential beliefs are normally: I need it, I can’t survive without it (same thing)
Life will be empty without it. It’s beneficial in some way (not fascinating) but serves some purpose which it does: it relieves the urges it creates

All porn addicts know the behaviour is bullshit stupid and want to quit or we wouldn’t be on this forum but after a period of abstinence the urge to watch becomes so strong it overrides our better selves.
I’m sure you’ve experienced this and if you’re an expert on easypeasy method I’d be interested to know what your streak is?

The fact you are using this forum makes me question how thoroughly you have overcome pmo using the easypeasy method?

We are all here to support eachother let’s please try and do that without patronising eachother but by trying to understand where the other person is coming from… I intend to keep re-reading it until I fully grasp all of the concepts in their full entirety.

If ultimately it doesn’t work then I will find another way or adapt my method until it works

Maybe give a little more thought to your replies next time?

Maybe we agree on this : that easypeasy method is definitely worth trying let’s see how we get on…

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Unfortunately I can’t add a working link for this or attach the pdf but if ya search for it and download the pdf should be helpful

Simply swap the phrase ’ pmo’ in place of ‘smoking’ worked for me anyway

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I’m back to day one. Exhausting day and a close call but I’m good.

@anon67854825 @Gk-00

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@Rebooter81 Thanks for sharing this with me the other day bro :+1: it’s a really helpful medium for the method :grin:

@Forodwaith @Gk-00
Forgive me for not checking-in for ages, I have been grappling with a few personal issues recently.


I’ve had a few relapses over the past couple of months but all in keeping with the easymethod; pmo does not have a hold over me thanks to the method.
My choice to pmo did not resolve any worries. Pmo is no different from smoking weed or drinking whiskey alone.
They do not fill a void but create one; one after another and it gets bigger.

All the while we are not pmo-ing we seize to be a pmo-er.
In church, at work, in conversation, eating, getting washed, going to bed for a good night’s sleep, or writing a post here, there are no withdrawal pangs or desire to pmo.

Thanks be to God for it all :pray:

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Best advice I can give is read the book as many of us have done.

It isn’t your usual or logical approach but I believe it can work and has worked for the author/s

You start with victory and elation not simply willpower ‘must not fap’ ‘must not fap’ etc but rather 'I’ve quit and these urges mean nothing.

I’m already a non ■■■■ addict,
I’m already a non pmoer ,
I am already free.

Thats how we start we don’t wait until we reach x amount of days No we start with 'I’m free now that’s it I’ll never watch ■■■■ again ’ and just read the daily affirmations out, every day.

Affirmations

I’m free from the slavery of ■■■■.

It’s easy to ignore my thoughts about ■■■■.

Bye bye thoughts, bye bye urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.

I focus my subconscious mind to overcome ■■■■ addiction.

■■■■ steals my time, energy and vitality.

Beating ■■■■ gets exponentially easier day by day and in every aspect.

I enjoy and value my ■■■■-free, strong, happy, light and easy lifestyle.

If I look back and think about my progress, it gives me great joy and pride in myself.

Every time I see other ■■■■ users I get more motivated to see myself break that chain.

All that pent up energy is healing my body and mind.
Then, I can do more productive and challenging work towards my values and goals.

My brain is getting back in correct shape, getting exercised by me not doing what I was previously doing.

Now all that pent up willpower is being utilised to handle lightweight stresses and strains of life.

Great, I’m free and no longer a slave!

If you commit to this then. You’re already free

But read the book at least twice to get the concepts clearly in your mind
And make notes

Yes there’s more to it. I recommend you read the book but I think that’s the essence of the book

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Kuch samj ni aaya bro

Starting Again.
Goal 1: 14days

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That’s okay bro. Good insights. I have found that they not only create a void but mask is from dealing with the voids we already have, the caverns within we need to pass through with the Spirit’s guidance to heal and be filled and well.

I’m on day one and have been struggling with a void related to abandonment.

@anon67854825 @Gk-00

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theek hai, googlai anuvaad ka prayaas karen

Thanks Google Translate I now speak Hindi :slight_smile:

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Yesterday, I fell. I know this could be said a thousand times, but I really mean it. I want this to be the last time in a long time. Maybe forever.

The context of my fall was stress from transition, fear, excitement from freedom, wanting to feel loved, and wanting to feel better because I also drank way too much the previous night, more then I ever had in my life.

@anon67854825 @Gk-00

@Forodwaith
Please don’t be so hard on yourself :pray:
Quittung with willpower can be the most difficult way - God loves you regardless. He knows our thoughts, and every word before it is on our tongue :pray:
There are no winners and losers, only those who want God close and those who forget :pray:

Please try the easypeasymethod.org
There is nothing to lose
And no willpower needed

With the original no smoking version, it is part of the course to not-try to refrain from smoking - it’s a vital part of the treatment.
If studied with diligence, refraining is not an option because its obvious there is no loss or sacrifice made.

We often have it back to front… “I must give up xyz” :sob: (but it is a sacrifice because I love it)

But the other way around;
“I am NOT giving up anything Lovely”
I have already sacrificed what is Lovely for an addiction.

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I also relapsed deliberately and binged after 7 days nearly 8. I was in a lot of emotional pain and I know that drove me towards pmo. I still had a choice but the pain and sense of deprivation and intense anger at being deprived and missed opportunities and disappointment fuelled a hunger for pmo. Actually it wasn’t a genuine urge in a sense it wasn’t a biological need it was just my emotions and the drug I always use crying out to me. I’m back and listening to easypeasy this time rather than reading it.
Also Allen Carr has written other books on addiction on Amazon available as kindle also I think this gives an insight into his method.
How much does pain drive our behaviour?
How can we handle our emotions without acting out?

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Please add me too… I also want to join
My code- q5hkhn
Country - India

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Hi @Ishida and Welcome :hugs:
Please feel free to post and converse

Peace be with you :dove:

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This has happened with me many times , that I have cried and sometimes repent over the opportunities that I have missed coz of Pmo . But the past is past , you need to remember that we cannot change past . So the basic rule of nofap is that forget the past and start new.

There is no point to cry over the spilled milk . Work towards better future.:blush:

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I’m starting to believe that its all about our mindset. Though i recently relapsed after my longest streak of 6 days but I’m beginning to sense a change on my mindset. Before whenever i relapsed i thought if i could ever get out of this vicious cycle making me anxious nd nervous nd in fear i relapsed continuously for days. But for d 1st time in my life I’m not thinking if i could overcome my addiction but instead I’m asking myself what if i could overcome my addiction. If this happens then i would master my greatest setback nd fear.

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I probably missed good opportunities partly due to pmo and partly due to poor mental health. I had ocd before I became a porn addict, way before but by fuck pmo made it worse. When ocd really fucked me over actually that might have been before or around the time I got into pmo more seriously … Jeez I’m 40 so it was dial up internet and static pictures and thank God it wasn’t high speed streaming videos on the phone back then, I was spared until I reached late teens and it was page 3 models. Bloody peers at school talked about porn and naked women obsessively guess they were addicts back then when all they had were magazines, sometimes found in a dad’s cupboard ! It sparked a curiosity in me but having a religious background it was totally forbidden but by hell that makes it all the more appealing… so I guess school and biology set me up for it but doesn’t male biology set us up for porn addiction anyway? I guess the problem is that we fall into it so naturally and it seems so normal but then we realise it’s become a problem and we can’t stop and also its escalating. I’d be curious to know the statistics on guys and girls who watch porn and sex addiction generally. Those who claim they aren’t addicted to internet porn are often getting sex but deny them sex and see how quickly they start reaching for porn? OK I know they’re not the same but a lot of people kid themselves that they aren’t addicted but on closer examination abstinence for them would be impossible