Week 9 - Sep 29, Sun - Streak: 35 days!
@Invincible_Knight Of course man! Glad you decided to join in And yes the dialogue here is amazing and it literally has been the reason for my streak. Never realized the power of journaling until now.
@Positivebloke Get back up man! The deed is done, but your future is not. You can come back from this and you will. There’s no other way to go. The path of PMO holds nothing for us.
I encourage you to take your next post to analyze your relapse: what were your exact thoughts, how did you combat the urges, what went wrong, and where can you really make improvements. Maybe you need to better remind yourself each day of the consequences of PMO or maybe you need to eliminate an arousing situation in your routine. Whatever it is, write it down, it helps to make it official and keep it in memory.
You can do this man, we all are behind you!
@Rohitash Hey bro, if I’m catching your drift right, I’ve been there as well or maybe a similar place. I think what you are dealing with is just a flatline. I’ve been there as well, it is especially prominent on those early days of the streak.
I can only speak from my experience, but what you said resonated with all the times that my streak is low. I may know a girl or have known a girl for a long time that I really like, and maybe I could approach her and make an effort to get to know her. But I don’t, mainly because I get stuck in this limbo of not wanting to out of insecurity. and wanting them to approach me. But I know that will never happen. So I feel like I will never have a chance with them. Which in turn makes me think about them more and how if I could just be a certain way, I could be with them. But I feel that I will never be that way or am not good enough. It’s amazing tho, how that all goes away once I am clean for a good amount of time. Obviously it doesn’t go away completely at my point, but it gets better, especially with consistent, positive thoughts.
I realized now that you may be talking about a completely different situation . However, it does indeed sound like a flatline. Stick with it man! We all have your back here:slightly_smiling_face:
As for me,
It’s really late. Got to wake up in 4 hours and I am indeed sick, so I am expecting a miserable day tomorrow. Need to be on high alert, especially considering today.
Dealt with a big ton of urges. I knew last night that they would be coming today because I was getting sick. But they were made worse by my extensive and stressful hw today that made me stay up super late.
It started with me scrolling through Steam on my phone for a second to escape my hw. I came across this game that I was genuinely interested in, but while I was searching the community forums to see what it was all about I came across the warning that it had nudity in it. I should have just clicked off right there, but instead under the guise of “Oh I am just trying to see if this game is good”, I searched for some scandalous screenshots that someone might have posted.
A few seconds in, I realized that this was my excuse and that I was searching, I told myself not to scroll any further. But I told myself no, and kept scrolling. I eventually and briefly ran into a semi-nude pic. It wasnt very appealing thankfully, but my inner concious finally got loud enough to make me exit the app.
That whole situation made the urges worse and I was mad at myself for the decision. But I knew anymore would lead me to destruction, so I immediately kicked out all the thoughts and reimaginings of the image out of my head (with the Xs technique). I had a few more situations later where I was battling myself over sticking my hands in my pants but I held out. A lot of the urges arguments today were about relief and saying how much better it would be to PMO and get my stress out.
But I wasn’t going down the rabbit hole. I had to remind myself of the consequences. Sure, one relapse may not equal all of the suffering and depression. But it’s never one relapse. It’s never enough. And that’s when it all goes down.
I imagined myself having to open this app and push the reset button. To tell all of you that I had relapsed, even after saying this was my streak and that I was going to make it. I couldn’t help but cringe in the imagined guilt. That was a reality I didn’t want to see. And it wouldn’t take much to get there.
Well that’s it for tonight. Time to sleep briefly and brave the urges that come tomorrow.
This is my streak, I am going to make it.
“Little Alice fell
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the hOle,
bumped her head
and bruised her soul”
-Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland