Can’t move ahead

Guys it’s been 2 weeks, I’m not able to cross 3 days.Whenever I start from Day0 , I’m always scared of urges , urges will come and I will relapse . I need help from u guys​:cold_sweat:. I am noT able to change this mindset , I’m a lot scared from these urges.Everything I have tried nothing working . Papers coming , pressure is building like hell …I’m stagnant at a position since 5 months . I want to get out from this relapse cycle , I’m not able to . I need help how to get back from this fuckin cycle .:sob: Will everything become normal again ? I’m sacred !

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Bro, just don’t take pressure ?
In which class you are ? @Dean_Ambrose

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I’m in class in which u are

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@Dean_Ambrose Brother I am assuming that your preparation is not going that well. So don’t lie to yourself. Admit the fact and stay positive. If you are stressed out and in pressure then you will ruin everything your board exams too. Focus on them atleast you will feel less stressed. Even though you didn’t get selected in iit, but you will have a chance to reappear but if you failed in 12th you will lose everything. And if you did good in boards your parents will feel good.
Brother I was in the same state as you are. But taking stress caused me nothing rather than hair loss. So, stay calm and study.
I hope this helps.
And the nofap thing, Just don’t feel stressed keep yourself busy, I am currently watching harry potter series. To end my exam stress and keep urges away from me.

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Thnx brother for your suggestion , but my policy is simple ‘I don’t believe in giving same paper again , I have got 1 opportunity, I’m lucky I got the opportunity that many don’t get

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Let me tell you a story…

Imagine you are in a pit… Lets say its 50 feet deep. Its totally dark, you can’t see anything, you dont know what to do and somehow you need to come out of it because eventually you wont have any food or water… You are walking in dark, and suddenly you hit something, you felt it and you realized they are the stairs to the top. Now you gotta take step after step, probably 100s of steps to reach to the top. But you cant see, so you have to carefully feel those steps so that you wont take a misstep, and find your way back…

You are in a pit called porn and masturbation. Now those steps are urges, each step you take, you are closer to the surface, being yourself, being better. Without those steps, you will be in a pit. Urges are not bad, they are the ones that help you to be free of your addiction. So invite them in, and each step you take, and each urge you conquer, you get hopeful of seeing the light, you get more confident. Challenge those urges, tell to them… I am strong, try me and you cant break me. Dont get scared of them, when they come, just say fuck off, they will go in like 2 mins… For the next urge, you tell even more confident fuck off… So you build on it step by step and someday those urges are gonna loose their power over you and leave you alone. And that is the day you are better, free of addiction.

Hopefully that helps, stay strong and good luck.

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