Day 29
In a couple of hours I’m completing 30 days. I started this sprint on hardmode and moved again to classic mode at some point. Tomorrow I’m starting the sprint for October. I’m doing sprints over and over, getting great results if done right.
What’s a sprint?, you may ask yourself now. A sprint is a powerful tool that sums up everything you need in recovery: a goal, a reason, awareness, a consequence, a reward, active commitments and someone to share this path with. Let me split this in parts.
a goal
Basically you set the goal “I want to be free of PMO” for 30 days, so for an entire month. We all know that this fight is day by day struggle but it’s easy to forget that on this journey. Thinking in bigger time frames, for example 90 days, often seems really difficult to manage or too far away. What happens is: we either forget our reason around day 60 or one struggle in one day seems to much and we relapse. So the sprint splits this journey in manageable junks, you’ll see that this positively impacts your thinking.
a reason
this is your selfish reason to go P free. Ideally it’s that one sentence that reminds you of the importance of this journey. It’s a sentence you know by hard and it’s always part of your sprint. Mine for example is “I’m tired of hiding and acting against my values and I want more integrity.”. Note that my reason has one part of what I’m tired of and the second part is what I’d get out of being free of this addiction. I do have way more costs and benefits in mind too but the things mentioned in that sentence are the most important for me. I’d recommend you build a sentence like that for your journey too.
awareness
in this part of the sprint you write down threats, mistaken beliefs and weak links that you think might be the case in the upcoming 30 days. Examples can be “warm showers”, “ignoring healthy habits”, “boredom” or an “unsecured” device. With each sprint you’ll get better at identifying the root cause of your relapses and this list gets shorter and better in detail.
a consequence
this provides extra motivation. A good consequence is not just a torture, it’s a tool to make you reflect and connect with others. Good consequences can make more time for the important things or make you connect. Good examples are: “No gaming for 30 days”, “Calling my accountability partner every day for a whole week”, “inviting my family for dinner” or “doing the dishes for my family for 30 days”. If you relapse during these 30 days, you execute the consequence and do better next time. A good consequence will remind you of the relapse and also help you keep your word.
a reward
we must celebrate success to remind ourselves that being free is more than worth it. A reward can be something you’d like to treat yourself with or something that makes you connect with others. For example getting a new game in a limited edition or treating yourself with an extraordinary meal with your loved ones. This is like a “high five” to yourself: I’m doing well!.
active commitments
recovery is about actively committing to a better life, it’s not something that “just” happens. So in this part of the sprint plan you write down what you’ll actively be doing during the upcoming 30 days. Good examples are: F.A.S.T. check-ins on a weekly basis, keeping a morning routine, writing a dairy, scheduled workouts, a fix number of healthy habits per day, calling someone daily or using an accountability reporting software (e.g. Accountable2You or Covenant Eyes) on all your devices. Note how these are all active commitments. Instead of saying “I’m not doing this or not doing that” these commitments all phrase what you’ll be doing. Keep it simple and preferably controllable too, in a sense that you can count it in numbers or easily tell if you’ve been doing it or not.
someone to share this with
so you put all these parts mentioned above together, have that written in a document and share it with one person. That person is your accountability partner and you regularly check your progress during those 30 days. I’d recommend doing this on a weekly basis. If you do have F.A.S.T-check ins as one of your active commitments, then you’ll do the check there.
Haven’t tried doing a sprint yet? It’s about time!