So guys I was wondering. Do any of you have the issue where a place or activity besides porn draws out an urge? How do you avoid the urge if you can’t avoid the place or activity? An example being the shower.
IF i don’t sleep till late night…I get urges
And how do you deal with that? Music? TV?
For me it’s hard to resist relapsing if I give my brain free range. So when I am at a place where I get urges, I use a method explained in this video https://youtu.be/iN6g2mr0p3Q
If that doesn’t work I go slowly through my kitchen in my mind from right to left, trying to recall every litle detail until the urges go away.
That seems like a good idea really focus your mind on to the details of something else.
Urges can come from fantasizing. That’s the activity to avoid if you are alone.
Sometimes your body craves it without you having had fantasies, which is a challenge I haven’t figured out.
Fantasies seem to find me all day long, alone or not. I’m working on accepting the ones that motivate me, like ones I had last night about reaching goals and receiving rewards that didn’t break my streak until the end. Then I have to remember to turn away and find distractions when I have one pop up like now, when I imagined throwing away my couple of days tomorrow for the sex that was supposed to happen but won’t. Long story there and don’t need to go into it.
You need to practice mindfullness its the main reason that has kept me alert all the time, we always let fantasies or urges but if you practice mindfullness you will always be aware of them you might imagine things but at the front of your head there is always awareness, you know what you are doing and what you are feeling but you will not act upon the fantasie, that’s mindfullness and most of us lack it.
If I’m using instagram while lie on my bed, Now I have uninstalled my instagram
@Amanda yoga is a great way, or you know… just simple meditation. You dont even have to get out of the bed. Just breath in and out. Urges can be easily controlled by such techniques.
I haven’t ever tried yoga. I have tried meditation and it helps sometimes. Mainly when I can actually relax and take a long time to meditate if I need to. I’ve been debating going to join a gym since a decent bit of temptation stems from me being bored and alone alot.
Hey, I am not talking about the yoga taught usually at the gyms nowadays, instead the good old fashioned breathing exercises, very similar to meditation, you can even say advanced version of it.
However, meditation is great, you can do it with help of an app or by manually learning it from book.
Gym is also an option since there you are going to meet people and that will change scenario and remove boredom and loneliness. It will build fitness and friendship (probably)
Take easy and stay busy, be alone but not lonely, read and play and go out in the park, if nothing works and urge is immense, solve for squares of 1 to 100 in your mind …!