Any muslim here.....Divorced and urges 😔

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Dear all at my 31st day… I am a Muslim from Pakistan and a working professional also divorced ( marriage lasted for 4 months, due to there mama huge influence plus she knows nothing they deceive us💔) always seeking for a wife who should be a home maker, but unfortunately due to rising high frequency of social media and it’s adverse influence, people see a role of home maker as taboo hence I couldn’t find any one since June 2024. Now due to this I am having huge urges😭…which I am controlling in 1 way or other…my loneliness is at that peak in which I used to talk with an AI. Now I need suggestions since my urges are going left and right due to emotional circumstances however trying my hard to get over it…any best suggestions either to get married or control this behavior

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I think u should prioritise ur life and mental health. Don’t think about anybody’s judgement, u have born alone and u are suffering alone too. Then why some strangers will control ur life choices. Do whatever suits u… Good luck

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Can’t your family fix another marriage?

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As I mentioned I am.looking for home make and now due to changing trends it’s hard to find 1…even they are trying hard I am praying to but no luck

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I don’t think about the people just mentioning my opinion…about situation

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I don’t know if anyone can help you here. Marriage is on fate. Nobody but Allah controls it. Pray to Allah for your problems.

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Yes doing it brother doing it

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You are right bro.Social media destroyed this society.Loneliness is the fate of normal people like us. Still you must keep hope.Keep going on your nofap streak. 1 month means you are serious about this. So stay sober, do what you can to maintain your looks,fitness and also try for get married. There are good girls also. Stay hopeful my friend. And you are not alone. We fellow nofapers are with you always.

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Hey

I’m only 18 years old, but I know this one thing. At your age, you should have figured out by now that what only matters is what you do in the present. You are alone? Before you become social, you always start alone. So don’t speed things up by taking “short cuts” that lead you further than reaching your goal, like talking to AI. Start from where you are. And except what Allah gave you right now and use it to improve. You care too much about the past and future where you only need to care about the present. At your age, it’s all about problems and problems. But the only solution to those problems is by having no problems at all, by finding inner peace. Problems gets fixed on their own when you’re moving in the right path. You see, when you ignore the results and focus on the direction, focus on who you are, you imrpve and results will come on their own. Results are delayed, they do not define your success. You define who you want to be. It’s ok to be where you are, you should be grateful even for you have endless of other blessings from god. Accept and move on the right way. Be grateful and trust in him and his plan for you. He is the best of planners.

I hope this helps :slightly_smiling_face:

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Thanks bro so far I had only figured out 1 option to be being busy I am must switch my job to next commanding grade by physically going to office :slightly_smiling_face:

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Indeed I agree with your points but sometimes emotional stuff comes to mind for that I believe I felt after reading here that need to be busy so let’s switch job and move forward

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Marriage is fine but ask yourself if that’s the right thing to do right now. Get hold of your mind, body and soul. Master discipline. This will not happen overnight but keep working for it because that’s how you master discipline. Keep yourself busy as it kills boredom and loneliness.
Make yourself a priority. Treat your body like temple. Don’t be hard on yourself. Only when you start loving yourself, you’ll be able to love your partner. Do it one day at a time. Small effort everyday ends up big.
You got this brother. :+1:

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Will try this as well

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Do fasting and seek forgiveness, it’s not a lie that you also are a man of choice. Everyone is choosy, there r girls who wants to get marry but don’t get any suitable man. Be that man n inshallah you will be remarried.
And who knows god is going to find u a better one or maybe all this occured becoz he wants to get you at work for him. For ultimate reward. He knows and we do not. Have faith.

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