I only started my Nofap journey 3 days ago and have read how common it is for someone to relapse. This made me wonder whether a relapse could be deconstructed, so that it could better understood and avoided. I do find it inspiring that despite so many who do relapse and fail, they do not quit - instead aim to do better and start immediately instead of wallowing in self-pity and regret. I think it is safe to say, unless you quit you have not really failed.
When someone says they have relapsed, I want to know what they went through before the relapse, did they intentionally weaken their resolve(fear of success, etc), what they tried to avoid it, why they could not hold out any more, if the enjoyment during a relapse was less than the previous time and how they felt afterwards? I started this topic, because if something positive can come from a relapse, it could help the next person to go a little further and so on. Me included. I have never been strong on will-power, I kind of expect I too will relapse, but till then I am going to take it one day at a time and work towards my own goal of 90 days.
In my situation, fapping was a way of dealing with stress and anxiety. It was short-lived, but for that brief time I was calm again. But I have come to realise that my addiction to PMO has affected me in ways I never considered and it is hurting me. What makes it worse is that I did this to myself and I had no idea of the harm. Had it not been for the negative effects of PMO that started to escalate within me, I don’t think I would be here now. But if this leads me to being a better version of myself, I am all for it.
Thats it from me. Thanks guys.
Have NoFap Day