I recently came across some pics of a girl that was in my college. At that time i was not much interested in her(although she was gorgeous even back then). But now the images that I came across feature her in ethinic Indian Dresses because it was her sister’s wedding recently, and that just made me loose control over my thoughts. She looks fabulous in those clothes. And now I am unable to get her out of my mind.
I am keeping my will strong against relapsing, but I Am not able to reduce my liking for her. I really wish I showed more interest in her in college days so that we could be in touch at present.
I just don’t know what to do to get her out of my mind.
A little adivce from you all might help.
Bro while I appreciate your efforts to help me, I believe these images won’t be of any help because this would just make the concept of having a relationship useless, FOREVER!!! While it is indeed the biological reality, it shouldn’t be used to make the concept of liking someone futile. It is like you are trying to dissuade me from indulging in any physical relationship with a woman Forever in its entirety.
Also I don’t plan on being on NOFAP throughout my life. Nofap for me is way of life that steers my thoughts and my emotions in the correct direction so that I am able to achieve all my aspirations and desires.
Hit her up bro, you waited during college and you missed your chance. But I think you still have a chance through social media. Text her for a while and ask her on a date! All the best man! And don’t jack of to her images no matter what the reason, it’ll send you down the simp spiral
Definitely bro. I won’t jack off to her pics. She looks nice but I am still not sure if I would like her personality, her behaviour. For me that holds priority if I am looking for a relationship. If I jack off to her then that would be similar to treating her like a pornstar, or a model. And I definitely don’t think of her like that.
It’s a good thing that you feel that way! Keep that up! Now about behaviour, the only thing you can do to understand her personality is to go on a date with her. If that’s not possible due to well covid or something, text or call. You can’t just observe her all the time and see what’s she’s upto right? That’s fucking creepy! Approach her first, via text, WhatsApp, Instagram or wherever you prefer. Get to know her a bit first.
Thank you so much for advising me brother. People like you are really an asset in this journey of Nofap
You’re welcome bro! Glad I could be of some help! Keep us updated here on how it goes yea?
Will surely do brother. I would like to add you as my friend
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As @GOVIND-19 said either talk to her or stop thinking about her. Getting obsessed with someone without interacting is what is called simping. At any point of time if you start obsessing over someone you will lose respect yourself and you will seem pathetic to the person you are obsessing over.
Getting rejected is better than having regret. At least you will know nothing is gonna happen so that you can focus on other things.
I believe it is necessary to mention that I wasn’t looking for her pics in the first place. There is a college whatsapp group on which that girl shared the photos of her sister’s marriage. That’s how I came across those pics. I havent been stalking her in any way. Also it was yesterday that I saw those pics.
So I believe that won’t be counted as obsessing over someone.
But still I appreciate your advice.
Okay bro. It was a misinterpretation. No issue. I still think you should talk to her.
I think most of us are sansarik, and no one can become a sanyasi here. According to me, your goals should be your priority, and other things are secondary. So try achieving your goals first and then think about that girl?
It happend with me too, i used to like a girl , but i realized that it is of no use right now in my life so i deviated my attention from her. Many users here adviced me also.
I still feel very little attraction but i say in my mind " goals first"
And its fully up to you, do the thing you want to
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