I think i can comment on your diary. Usualy people cant take my criticism.
I like you as my younger brother. Hence it is my duty to help you here. If you think i am unnecessarly wasting my energy… you can tell me straight. Atleast we will be clear afterwards.
Anyway…
I wanna say… There was nothing wrong in the girl picture. It was a picture.
Yes… the girl was wearing small clothes revealing her parts of body in the picture.
The picture invoked your animal… hormones… dopamines… male instinct… that is perfectly normal.
After that you got scared because the lust nearly submerged your mindfulness. You almost fell in the ^nature trap^ Further the desire arrived which asked for more dopamine… more such pictures… your mind wanted that pleasure again.
So… You are in trouble… Yes you are brother.
Think for a second… if one day you are on a beach… there are women wearing short clothes … You will be in trouble. If you goes by your thinking.
At that point . . …either you will run from there Or you would fapp in your dreams.
Very Grave Situation.
There are two Ways to go further now.
Accept the Reality
… dont try to fight or Run… just witness the Truth.
It doesnt mean you follow your desires and submerge yourself in lust.
There is very thin line which you have to learn.
Like swimming … without getting drowned … just on the surface.
Use your sexual energy to swim this ocean of Life.
Meditation is the key to come closer to the truth.
Dont listen to the Brain Wishper’s
Brain is a fucking idiot. If you keep talking and reasoning with it. It will never allow you to get close to Reality. It will always keep you in a loop because that its comfort zone.
Learn & Move Forward with courage & determination like before.
Thanks man. I love companions like you poignant, exactly to the point. Yeah, I know Iam in trouble. Still Iam. As you said, these kind of erotic images, pictures etc will be there around us. Even when we go to an hypermarket the ads in their shows these kind of pictures.
Iam choosing the first option.
What had happened was, brother I was very confident. I thought nothing can stop me. Then I searched for the image of an actress. From their suggestions came and I went on. But suddenly when I saw the picture of a girl on bikini I closed it. But my old neural pathway suddenly awakened. Even today I had a nightful. A huge one .
I don’t ever want to go back. Iam not at all working now. Reading motivational books again and again. Trying to pick myself up.
Brothers all I want to say is, Don’t become over-confident like me. Don’t ever search the picture of any girl online. Your neural pathway for porn is very sensitive. A single picture can easily trigger it. Be very concious and serious!
Brother… you know everything. Just keep your faith.
Actualy mind likes to do stuff which it finds pleasurable. Let me tell you… there is pleasure of spirituality… which is 1000× times good than the ■■■■ pleasure. Actualy there is no comparison.
Meditation is the key to taste that source of bliss.
Increase your awareness.
Truth is the most beautiful thing.
Living in present moment is the real joy.
Bathing in God love & Power.
It cant be explained in words.
Words are for the brain. We are not brains … We are immortals.
Wake Up Again … Things are easier now. We are almost on gates of heaven. A little more ascending.
@Tagore despite not having reached yet amazing results like you or other incredible people in this forum, I want to remember you one thing:
tough times don’t last, tough people do.
I believe in you man
@Tagore … hey brother… I read some of your diary… you are doing incredible things… I can see the benifits of NoFap in your diary clearly… you are awesome man… just keep going like this man.
Welcome back @Tagore so i don’t know the issue ur facing is that much of a big deal and the reality is u can’t change ur past,it always be a part of u but what u can do is let go of the past. The reality is there are always going to be urges, there is always goings to be depression and sadness and there is always going to be a half naked girl when u go out, even u might find porn accidentally, at some point one of those things can and will happen and instead of trying to avoid all of those things and being afraid of them u must accept them as ur reality and find ways to deal with them. The thing that i do is I believe in freewill, i don’t have porn blockers on any of my devices and i am one click away from porn but i give myself a choice either to click that button or not. So i believe u can’t force someone to change but u can give them a reason to change. All i am trying to say is u will always have choice, either u can live in this motivational and inspirational state where eventually it will run out and fear of inevitable triggers and urges and eventually that fear turns to ur worst fear which is relapse or u can accept reality and understand that u can’t control everything u will always going to be attracted to girls and always going to have urges
But what u can do is control ur environment and ur thinking, and things u can’t control, understand that they are normal but u are not going to act on them and with discipline and reason ur going to say No and in ur mind ur going close ur eyes and say this thing fucked up my life for smth years it took a lot for me (or whatever reason u have got) so i am not going to do shit and i am going to let it pass through me without fear. Whatever it is when its gone u say to it next time try harder.And eventually ur going to this all the time and ur streak going to be high and at some point its going to be normal and easier then u let go of ur past and start over.
Guys, your accountability and help means a lot. Now, when I get urge I’ll open my diary and always I find the words of you brothers here. After going through your words my urges suddenly drops dead!
Yes together we’ll do this!
Brothers, today evening I looked into my eyes in the mirror and really thought about life. Why, what is happening?
Is it really the urge or the hollowness that you are feeling that’s holding you back. There is a hollowness within me. When I look deep inside all I see is a weak human will all the animal instinct. My purpose is not strong enough. My self respect is very low. My interest and passion for my goals are weak.
I understand, it is a big challenge to achieve greatness in this 21st century. Technology, porn, internet all these things are trying to make us small every single day and every single hour. We have to take extreme ownership for everything that’s happening to us.
I fucked up two days, saying Iam getting strong urges.
Fuck urges! What really happening is the hollowness within is harrowing my heart every single second.
Tomorrow onwards Iam putting down my phone. I installed an app called stay focused and locked this shit.
My life is very precious. Iam taking extreme ownership from tomorrow onwards.
I want to Challenge two great men @_TIGER and @Martial_Beast in completing the daily tasks. Tomorrow onwards no more excuses. I’ll give every ounce of my power and energy to get things done. This is war. Either I’ll die or I’ll succeed.
As will smith said:
**"The only thing that I see is distinctly different about me is: Iam not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be outworked, period. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me. You might be all of those things. You got it on me in nine categories.
But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things: You are getting off first or IAM GOING TO DIE! It’s really that simple.
I am new here can you all plz give me some quick tips regarding no fap my highest streak ever is of 15 days only (pathetic,I know) and I am on day 4 of the new streak since I started using this app.Thnx in advance
The application works as follows:
There is a “counter” in the first menu of the application which counts the number of days while you have followed the NoFap rules which are “no PMO” (no porn, no masturbation and no orgasm) ). (If you have PMO, there is a thumbs down in the counter menu that allows you to “reset” your counter to 0)
To better succeed in this challenge, you also have a “companion” window where you can add people using their companion code (which you generally find on their profile on the forum here) that allows you for example to compare your score with them or then to look at where a person is located (how many days they lasted) to have motivation etc …
“The heat”, the trigger what?
The trigger, basically “trigger” is when you get the urge to PMO after seeing / hearing etc something pornographic / sexually explicit.
The point is that in NoFap you have to avoid at all costs obtained this initial “trigger” which causes a vicious spiral until you reach the “relapse” (the relapse is due to PMO, basically you have lost the challenge ). So to avoid this initial triggering I advise first of all aiming at social networks, seeing the media where there may be sexually explicit content, then doing meditation also helps and finally the best way to suppress a desire for PMO it ’ is a cold shower.
Thanks for the help brothers.
Tbh I never used any social media app except for whatsapp(2 yrs ago) and YouTube ,I used to watch P*** about twice a week and I want to quit this forever bcz I feel lazy, demotivated and I seriously want to have to have six packs (not to impress any girl) . I don’t have any set target rn but first I’d want to break my highest record of 15 days and then reach as high a streak as possible.
Find a purpose for your life…Set a goal and work on that …Do the things which you like the most…Make your day busy as possible and see the magic…I was also could not make up a streak 9days max but now I made up to this.if I can you can…This whole Forum is with you brother…Start a diary and post your daily routines…So many brothers will motivate you…All The best
Today I felt somewhat more depressed than I earlier used to be but I realise now that it was this depression (fear of facing my problems) that I was escaping with PMO which ultimately made me more depressed.Day 6 was tough but I won’t stop.
Iam on a break from this app and phone too. I use phone only for max. 30 minutes a day. I’ve made some goals and updated my vision board. Depending entirely on myself and working my asses off these days. Not to get a girl, not to show anyone. Iam here for a reason. This world needs my literary works. God gave me this life for that.
Still going on with my daily routine. One again I promise all my brothers here
I’LL CHOOSE DEATH INSTEAD OF PORN.
Strong men are born through hardwork and pain. My brain, You won’t get it. Don’t crave. No matter what I won’t feed you with poison again.
Iam keeping an eye on the streak of all my brothers.
Brother @neo_150 what happened? You were going strong. Remember your dreams. Grow through the pain. @StevenSuccessJourney brother, you are one of my dearest companion in here. It makes me sad when I see you relapsing. Get back up. Brother there is nothing in this world that can actually stand in the way of man who has unleashed his power. Nothing! Once a strong decision and total commitment is made there is no going back. @NEW_CHALLENGER I saw that you recently relapsed too. This time no more excuses. As I said before make 100% commitment. Greatness is waiting… @Saim brother, I believe this time you are on DO OR DIE attitude. Never look back. Take in the pain. There is a very important quote I always keep in mind,
“Never even give up once. If you give up once it’ll become a habit” @aman40 keep going. Bring out the inner beast! @_TIGER you are my beastmode companion. I know whatever happens you’ll be there with me till we reach 1000 days streak. You are one of the strongest I’ve seen in this forum bro. @babi brother our Challenge is getting to the its end on 18th Aug. Iam challenging you in advance for the next challenge for 120 days. It’ll start on 18th August itself. What say?? @Martial_Beast you are back on track. Whenever I come to this forum I check out your diary. It shows me the power of human commitment. @Hubinho its time to build the best life. You have unlimited potential within, I know you man. Switch on beast mode!!! @richard21 man you are very strong. I’ve never seen you relapsing after coming in this app. You are unstoppable.
@Deadpoolgupta keep going. Iam 100% sure this time you’ve committed yourself. Stop only after reaching 1000. @Angelo34 man, yes. This is the last fight. This is fought only to win. We’ll destroy the fucking ■■■■ industry. Together! @Brahmachari_17 nothing to say about you man. I texted you the first day I came in this forum. From that day on I’ve been seeing you going up and up. You are a real inspiration for all of us. @strongwillpower I believe in you. This time switch on rage mode. Together we’ll do this! @hensmkekdmrme man you are like my younger brother in here. Keep going. PM me if you have any problems. Iam with you. @TheFinalFrontier you are beast man. Keep going with your retention. Focus 100% on your life. We’ll achieve incredible success!
Don’t quit! Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.
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