Whatsapp - Gay, Bicurious, Bisexual Men's Self Improvement

Our Whatsapp group description: We do Not tolerate sexual harassment & sexual jokes. This group is Not for dating, romance and sex. You may be one of those individuals in the gay or bisexual community who want to be different & better, who want to stand up for himself against the tide to reach your highest potential. This is the group where you can discuss your thoughts with us. We may not be able to offer you professional help or give expert advice, but we will listen to you, try our best to help you. We practice self-discipline.

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This book talks about sex and porn addiction in gay men. Amazing book. Look at the rating! It’s worth it. I’ve myself read this book. It gave me a huge insight into porn and sex addiction in gay, bicurious and bisexual men. Pick this up and read. So much of knowledge out there.

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This is a great video about how to improve* self esteem. Must watch, here is the YouTube

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Freedom cannot be achieved without honesty and practice of self-discipline. Freedom comes through knowledge, wisdom and orderly life.

How to build your Self-Discipline.

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Stop selling your soul to porn movies. Stop giving your time to people who take away your focus.

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The wisest way to protect ourselves is through knowledge and awareness. That’s a sureshot way to a happier, problem-free life.

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Depression and addictions come from idleness. Use this NoFap journey to start something better in your life. A lot of relapses occur in the nofap journey because you have not built a daily routine or if you have a daily routine, you are not sticking to it.

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Schools all over the world need to introduce awareness programs in their curriculum. It should be about perils of watching porn, how it affects the mind (brain) and rigorously introduce sex education as well. If schools take out the taboo feelings out of sex and porn, kids when they grow up, they will able to handle these issues better than feeling completely helpless.

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G/B Men Self-Improvement ☆ Check In Daily & Remain Accountable.

0 days - :white_circle: (nebula)
1 day - :orange_circle: (protostar)
2 days - :yellow_circle: (yellow dwarf star)
5 days - :red_circle: (red giant star)
10 days - :large_blue_circle: (blue giant star)
20 days - :star2: (supernova)
Relapse - :heavy_multiplication_x:

e.g., 23 days; 2 relapses; 6 days = :star2::yellow_circle: :orange_circle::heavy_multiplication_x::heavy_multiplication_x::red_circle: :orange_circle:

A good habit could be something like reading one chapter of a book per day, during those times when you usually get urges.

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My opinion exactly! I don’t think porn should be illegal. Everybody has the right to decide what they do with their body
(i neither believe in those ridiculous conspiracy theories circling here that porn is a secret weapon to slave the population by some mega world government)
But everybody should be aware of the consequences and the addictive dangers of consuming porn. Just like no smoker nowadays can say “shit, i did know that cigarettes causes cancer or emphysema, or diabetes”

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Reminder! The weekend is just around the corner. The relapse rate is higher during weekends due to inactivity. Remain active, mentally and physically. Be vigilant. If you don’t have work on the computer (laptop) or no work/chores at home, then go outside, walk outside, spend more time at the park or shopping mall or go out bicycling. But do NOT stay at home if there are no chores to be done or no work to be done on laptop whatever.

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I agree with you. Freedom of choice. We are free to choose. Information must be available to learn the pros and cons of consuming something. And we should have the option to choose using our knowledge and awareness. Banning porn in a country will not help because it will be easily available in the black (underground/illegal) market. So banning does not make sense. This is where knowledge comes to rescue, and when knowledge is spread across communities, we become aware of our choices, that make us wise beings.

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Great! Great! Great! Thank you @ncubeanelem This is going to help many in the community. I want to thank you for coming up with this creative plan that concretizes our commitment. Thank you again.

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Diagnosis and Treatment of Sexual Addiction in the Digital Age

Very informative, and a must-watch.

Testosterone peak is good in men. Low testosterone is unhealthy for men. So that is a good and very healthy sign. It is those negative thoughts that cause stress and that stress in the body wants to seek pleasure to be rewarded. Because our body system seek something that gives it pleasure and happiness, which is a nature’s way to taking care of itself. But that is a misguided way to seek pleasure. That’s why we have to interfere, start thinking and reasoning more critically. If we get negative thoughts, our body is giving a signal that something is wrong. And the autopilot response to that stress is porn or sex or doing reckless irrational things. That is when you need to use your thinking skills with the help of your philosophical knowledge bank. Respond to that stress by doing some productive work and that will give pleasure in return. It will release dopamine in limited amount that is healthy for the brain and mind.

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I have some truth to tell you all. Practicing Nofap as a gay or a bisexual man is harder than a straight man. Because the gay/bisexual culture is MORE hypersexual than the straight culture. Plus, you will seldom find ANYONE admitting in the general gay/bisexual community that there is a serious problem going on. Nobody admits it. So now, give yourselves some credit because you all are those rare wise men who decided to speak the truth and cure this addiction. You guys have taken the 1st big step in your life to do nofap. You all are already 50% toward your goal, you just have to work (action) for it, to reach 100%.
Keep calm and carry on.

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You need to love yourself selfishly. And you should know that your time does not belong to you because you cannot undo / turn back time. Time is a part of reality. Reality will not change the clock time according to your convenience and wishes. Be selfish of the time that reality has allotted to you, how you spend time because one minute spent on something, you can’t have that one minute back. Therefore, you must be conscious of how you spend time, where you spend it, with whom you spend that time ( a man is known by the company he keeps). In reality, you will have only ONE life to change yourself, to achieve happiness. Since you cannot turn back time, since there is no second life, like for example if your age is 25, you cannot just go back to 23 or 20 and say I want to re-live that time again, you cannot. So better start making changes for a better life right now so that later on when your time is gone, you will not have regrets. And you should find ways to achieve happiness that is realistically sustainable and available endlessly through healthy life-sustaining sources. That will make you truly happy.

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Whenever you are alone, and going through hell or crises or chaos or helplessness, visualize your idol. What would he or she do in that same situation? Visualize them in that same situation, think like what actions they will take in that situation and that will give you some strength to embrace the storm and help you move forward. By “idol” I do not specifically mean god. By “idol” I mean, someone whom you admire the most and your role model in life.