What usually you do if the desires of watching porn and fap come to your heart and mind?

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lets Share, i usually take some ciggaretes and smoke with read or watch movie

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:sweat_smile: Thats exactly what you theoretically shouldn’t do. You’re fighting one addiction with two new ones :sweat_smile:

  • Cold shower
  • go out for a 10min walk
  • meditate (observe my urge → pretty hard but works)
  • do some work out (push ups and stuff)
  • easy but effective: just stand up and walk around
  • write yourself a list of goals / things you wanna do this week. Look at them with the knowledge that you can either achieve your goals and be happy or fap
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For me, it’s changing my environment in general. It’s either my mood/something on my mind or something triggering me in my environment that leads to a relapse. Changing the place I’m in usually changes either one or both those things.
Going out for a walk works best. I can distract myself, connect with things or people around me, get some sunlight and it’s a short workout as well since walking/sports release small shots of dopamine as well. And while I walk, I can make a plan what to do when I get back to my place and try to follow that plan through as best as I can, so I won’t end up in the same place as I was in before I went out. I usually don’t go back to my house before I have a specific thing I want to do when I come back.
Also, after a while I teach my mind to react this way to urges or the feeling of urges, so everytime I get triggered again it gets easier and easier, until I connect the urge with doing something productive and feeling good about it :slight_smile:

Although I also think at some point it is important to learn to just accept urges, at least sexual urges in general (not the same as cravings for ■■■■ IMO). Those are just natural, the unnatural thing is how you react to them. Plenty of people wake up horny and still go to work :wink:
So meditating may be a good way to tackle that.

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important point. the differentiation between cravings and just normal horniness. we don’t wanna be zombies :slight_smile:

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Strategies to RunAway from Fapping

  1. Study German
  2. Go to a relative’s house
  3. Talk to a friend on the phone (Be more busy and have more human contact e.g. voice, face-to-face)
  4. Immediately share with the NoFap guys in accountability groups I’m in.
  5. Go anywhere else (movie theater, friend’s house, church, Cultural Center of my city)
  6. Sleep early
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I normally try to observe what my triggers are and do my best to avoid those triggers. It sounds cliched but really all addictions are a journey of self discovery.

I found that when I’m overly stressed I feel the need to relapse but then I realise that being stressed is okay and normal and a part of being human. I don’t need to escape from it.

So for me, I guess just general mindfulness works.