Hey! Write what problems did porn and excessive masturbation caused you. It will personal help me to understand this journey more. Me for example had problems with my erection because i was desensitized by porn and I couldn’t have normal sex without thinking about porn(especially threesomes,) also I was masturbating 2 or 3 times the normal amount that I could handle.plus I had anxiety issues
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My personal problems…
- Depression and deep down pain.
- Feel drained, sleepy and tired all day long.
- Less motivation.
- Less focus
- Less confident
- Lower back pain ( when do excessively)
- Couldn’t keep concentration for a long time.
- Bitter attitude, specially after relapse.
- Didn’t feel the vibration of heart while praying. It violates our souls.
- Anti social. Hadn’t any close friends.
Etc etc.
Pmo just sucks whole life. It’s not like that while doing it is bad and other times it’s ok. It destroys whole life, the present and the future.
No more. Let’s fight until the end.
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Great, thank you brother!
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(a bit long, but I wanted to share this)
What I experienced:
- Dirty thoughts, any time, anywhere
- Lack of self-care, I would put off washing my hair, or going to the hairdresser’s, or other self-care routines, because they were not rewarding enough (dopamine desensitisation).
- Anxiety when talking to girls, even ones I knew quite well, as I would always be thinking in a sexual way.
- Always being on-edge, because I had something to hide. I remember that one of my friends mentioned something about one of my arms being bigger than the other. I got so red, horrible feeling of humiliation.
- Not being motivated to eat enough, as I’ve always been quite thin. I am now eating enough and working out to gain muscle. ( I’m writing this while I should be working out :p)
- Not feeling anything. I really mean that I felt next to nothing. Family members died, parent was diagnosed with cancer, but I didn’t feel anything. I was completely apathic. I also felt butterflies in my stomach for the first time in years when I was on my longest streak yet (180-190 days). I actually had feelings for a girl!! I hadn’t felt this for half my life.
- Not daring to look people into the eye when talking to them. When your mind has been corrupted by porn, you’re afraid that everything is creepy. Again, relates to anxiety.
- Being afraid to enter a relationship, or something that looks like it. I remember, 5 years ago, and before that as well, the girls were practically fighting over me. This was before my problem was too bad. I had one girl drop literally all the signs you can think of, and hug me too! However, I was too afraid of what others would think of it. Because of this, I let her go. This is what personally keeps me going, the fact that one, even two, girls tried to start a relationship with me. This is kind of the bright point in my otherwise completely loveless adolescence. I know I have potential, I just need to stop wacking off.
That’s all I can think of at the moment. Good luck and stay safe!
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My problems:
_Less focus
_Cause emotional stress
_ seeing my past life rise before me
_causes one second of happiness to not be reality
_hurts the brain
_ makes you be less focused if in a relationship
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1-no happiness even after achieving big goals
2-lost self confidence
3- successive relapses damage more
4-forget about the real beauty of life
5-time & money wasted
6-lost fitness
7-depression on minor problems of life
8-fearful life
9-forget my hobbies
10-unbalanced emotions
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Nice brother! What streak do you have now?
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I have short time so I will detailed few for now
Erectile dysfunction
Depression
Anxiety
Premature ejaculation
Always angry
Tired
Zero motivation
Zero focus
Sexual orientation changes like straight to gay
Bad sleep
No achivement
No money
That’s it I just have 5 min to use this app
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Currently at 5 days. I failed big time for a week or two. My longest streak ended a month or so ago. I’ve set a countdown timer in months to half a year again, as that is what made me stick with it for so long the first time. The timer is a widget on my home screen. If I relapsed, I would need to go through all the calculations again and set the timer up again, which is a hassle. This motivates me to keep going. I can also see myself chipping away at the days. The half year mark happens to be a music performance I’m going to in November, so that’ll be the celebration. Add me if you want to: kii4x0
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it ll be 30 days after 4 hours
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Ok brother add me too
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I agree with the most, however regarding the straight/gay problem, that might be a product of bisexuality, which is not bad at all
Did you just say that if he experienced bisexual emotions due to prn is not bad at all?
I think that it’s another example how pmo can undermine someone’s identity. It’s harmful.
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- decreased self respect
- decreased self control over useless & filthy thoughts
- decreased self control over my own actions
- insenstiveness towards day to day life situations
- decreased focus, affecting studies harshly
- low motivation, to study or exercise or to do anything which needs effort & sincerity
- less control over negative thoughts, while conversing with the opposite sex
- harmonal imbalances
- mood swings
- affected my sleeping patterns.
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I have less patience and lose my temper very easily. I quickly get mad and blame others for things.
Low self control in all areas of life.
I am always afraid of people finding out that I am addicted, so I live in constant fear.
Those are I think the top three negative effects of my addiction. I have seen improvement in all of those areas as I do better to stay clean.
Edit: I want to add lying. Being an addict to pornography has turned me into a liar. I think of lies before I think the truth.
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Brothers, I went through most of your problems and could relate to almost all of them. See what this fucking porn industry have done to us, making millions through our misery. But this is the time to reclaim our greatness. All we have to do is, take a strong commitment and never look back.
#BEASTMODE
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Ya brother you are right p*rn industry screw us. But we will win.
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- When ever i wanted to focus on studies, pornstars and video scenes came in front of my eyes.
- looked at females with porn filter in eyes.
- loss of confidence to speak in public, especially with females
- no value for the relation between me and any female friend/relative/strangers.
- getting into uncomfortable situations in public.
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No brother and I didn’t want to insult you. I just told you that maybe it’s not porn, maybe it’s your sexual orientation
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I have many PMO related problems. But the most importsnt thing is that I am a XXI century man addicted to instant gratification as almost all others.
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