What do you want instead of porn?

Hi everyone
Everyone of us spent so much time each week or day on porn. In my case up to 4hrs a day.
I feel like, the more we fight against porn, the harder it is. The more we focus on not fapping, the more we will get reminded of porn and it will get harder and harder.
What we need is a goal. Something that we can focus on when urges hit us and a good reason why we should stop fapping

We should replace porn with something we wanna reach and not just fight urges.
Having a goal in mind makes this journey so much easier.

So, I ask you, what do you wanna replace porn with in the long term. On what do you wanna spend all this time you have, once you are free of porn? what are your goals in live?
(not what are you doing to prevent you from fapping but what do you WANNA do, your GOALS and DREAMS)

I can do an example:
I’m a very curious person and want to understand everything. I wanna thoroughly understand my surrounding and I wanna share my knowledge with others. That’s a reason why I wanna be a professor at some point. That means that I wanna spend more time reading and learning. On the other side I would love to learn how to sing. It has been a huge dream of mine. Not to be a good singer but to be able to hit the right tone and sing with friends. Also I would love to be good at dancing tango.

  • Reading / Gain knowledge about the natural processes around me
  • Learning how to sing
  • Being a good tango dancer

These dreams help me to stay away from porn. Each time I wanna open a porn I think of these things. Either I can now waste another 4hrs or I can start and PURSUE MY DREAMS!

I ask you! How could you better spend your time? What do you wanna do if you could choose anything

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These are just some of many things i wanna achieve this year :
I want to be a Runner .
Beside running i want to crack a government job exam.
I want to become socialy active.
I want to earn respect of my family and people.
I want to quit antidepression drugs.
I want to complete a nofap Reboot.

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great goals buddy :grinning:
I know that you have the strength and skills to do it :muscle:

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Thanks,
You tell have you finished your reboot ?

it’s looking pretty good.
i’m now on day 20 and feeling strong with almost no urges anymore (except day 16 to 18 but i figured out why i got them and got rid of the problem).
yesterday and today i was back in my flow

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Yes you are right. There is always some Triggers before the urge. Good point. Thanks.

I want to become a scientific researcher;
i want to write a science fiction;
I want to gain weight and muscle;
I want to learn to play the piano or violin.

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I would become a reader and a sportsman and maintain an ideal wieght

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I have soo many goals
One of them being 3 years of nofap
I would like to play guitar
I want to learn coding
I am very interested in philosophy
I want to build a house later on
And overal be a healthy person

This are just a few of my goals

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Nice idea for a thread!

My goals are:

● Be PMO free for 90 Days
● Attend and complete my Yoga Teacher Training
● Attend and pass my Driving Test
● Follow through with getting a job and keep it
● Continue to love myself more and more deeply
● Learn how to harness my sexual energy around women

These are some of them :slight_smile:

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some of mine is that i want to :

be respected where ever i go .
be ready for every situation.(without postponing cause sometimes the chance only come once and i missed alot.)
be social.
be more fit.
physically and mentally recover.
truly love myself and the people i care about.
give up depression.
learn alot of things guitar, web development, …

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I want to be one of the best 10 bassists of the world. And I will.

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So many amazing goals! We need to remind us of them when urges are strong.
We can either lead a poor life as a fapper or we can start pursuing our dreams!!

Each one of us has the strength, power and determination to reach these goals, we only have to make the right choices and stay strong.
Our life was full of shame, guilt, pain and neglect but we are old enough to choose on our own, the way we live our lives. We can raise our head, look ahead with straight back and walk towards our goals!

Also for other guys, join us. Write down your goals in life, your wishes and expectations. Strengthen your determination by it, so that we will all be porn-free someday.

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marry my girlfriend
got a decent job
got a laundry machine lol

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I want to live social life without any days of contai ment , dependency or anxiety.
I want to become the best manifestation of myself by harnessing positive and optimistic energy.
I want to tame this beast and become great again.

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Keep the positivity high guys!
you goals are stronger than your urges.

What really helps me is to write down my goals and placed them where I typically relapse.
If I’m close to relapsing (or if I would relapse) I could see my goals. I wouldn’t be able to fap while looking at my most important goals. It reminds me that there is always something better to do than fapping. That is also why I love to keep my goals tangible. If I wanna learn to sing it is really easy to find an activity from that. instead of watching a porn I could watch how-to-sing videos or I could practice.
@cable that’s why I personally would recommend goals which are a bit less nebulous. Because it is very hard to answer whether or not you tamed your beast or what you could do to tame your beast.

at all new people, join this group and fight your addiction with a strong determination and goal

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