For a long time I felt like something we (or at least many here) are doing is not helping or not leading to the goal I want.
Finally I got time to start watching all youtube videos of “pornreboot”.
He is a porn addiction recovery expert and former addict.
He confirmed what I always thought (it’s too much to write everything down but following just two points)
staying abstinent is the last part of recovery not the first!
Porn spread it’s fingers to every day of our life and changed how we behave. We first have to know why we have this mental illness and fix it. Our main focus here should be to help each other fixing our problems because that is what brings us towards our goal. You will never ever recover just by not fapping! It’s simply not possible (since most of us are all ready too far down in this shit cycle)
it’s also what I experience. My longest streak was around 55 days and it was the first streak I had when i started using this app (6 months ago). Currently I almost can’t get 2 days without porn but never the less I feel closer to leave it behind than ever before.
Just because you have 360 days of nofap doesn’t mean that you beat your addiction. it just means that you have a high willpower. If you relapse after 360 days and you only focused on nofap instead of recovering you just start binging again and you are as far as you were on day 1
We shouldn’t focus on benefits and bickering around whether this or that destroys this or that benefit. Porn addiction is one of the hardest addiction to beat. Even he as a therapist tells that he is not able to help every single client. There are people who never make it past it. My goal is to be one of the successful. I don’t care if semen retention is beneficial or not, if sex is good or not, if I relapse because I touched my dick or not.
I wanna be clean! This is my main goal. And I wanna reach that as fast as possible.
To do that, I don’t care how many days I haven’t fapped. I care about how far my brain is!
I recommend you to watch every single of his videos. Sure, it won’t give you THE solution and he often says that a therapist is the best option you can pick. But that’s just because there is not a solution which fits everyone.
(link of the youtube channel) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbqaPKeiNW6R6LECHwQkRug