I was doing great in the beginning but now I feel like I am doing excessive masturbation using porn. And I can’t control urges. I feel lazy all day. Less energy.
The problem i need help with is I need a companion who is already doing nofap seriously with atleast <10days… I need motivation for doing this nofap and guidance to control these urges I feel in night.
I relapse mostly in the night time. That is the only time I can use my mobile. In workplace its not allowed.
.* doing competition with other companions to stay clean for more days.
. * I do this cold showers.
. * I tried stay focused app(blocking apps)
. * I tried meditation but not understanding why I can’t feel anything… Talking to myself most often especially when I feel hurtful.
Currently I feel I am not that much inspired to do this nofap. I am feeling depressed, fearful (infront of others) I can’t face anyone who try to bring me down.
I need companion who can motivate me and have conversations on daily basis.
Bro one month ago I made it to 16 days because I was fully motivated that time but after I relapsed I got caught in a vicious PMO cycle and kept on relapsing daily. After struggling for a month I decided to achieve a goal. That goal was that I’ll gift myself a +10days streak on my bday which is coming this week. This was my strong reason to be motivated and achieve it. That’s because I have decided that I’ll confess my feelings to the girl I love on my birthday. And this is far more important than relapsing. Urges were strong in the first 5 days and then gradually they decreased.
So the basic point is setup a goal that is far more important than relapsing. It will give you a good reason and motivation to resist the urge and you’ll be able to break this chain.
No one bro !!! Everyone tell you new new trick and strategies but you have to decide which is good for you…and you said that in night time you are doing…so make a proper routinee in night like at 9 pm give your mobile to your mom…and you will get at 6am…
And you are worried for your condition but don’t worry this is the path which is going towards 15 days streak… and
1)waking up at 4 am??
2) daily exercise without missing single day
3) eating in proper time and healthy
4) motivational videos and effects of porn on human body…
This is a long process man !! Make a small target 2 days then think you can relapse after 2 days and then be a master of two days .then focus on 3 then 5 … You cant do 15 days directly…
Look budddy… I have relapsed tons of times… But i have been successful in keeping clean for almost 20 days… Why?? Bcuz i knw when im gonna relapse… So heres the thing u just need to bear the urge… Hold it in…urge will pass… So my suggestion is… Face the urge and u better not relapsw when i see your streak