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Chapter 7
What am I giving up?
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Absolutely nothing! ๐ฏ๐๐๐ is difficult to give up because of the fear weโre being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. Fear youโll be left unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, itโs the effects of brainwashing deluding us into believing that sex โ and by extension orgasm โ is a must for all human beings. Even further, itโs the belief thereโs something inherent in internet ๐๐๐๐ that we need, and that when we stop using we will be denying ourselves and creating a void.
Make this clear in your mind: ๐ฏ๐๐๐ doesnโt fill a void, it creates one!
Our bodies are the most sophisticated objects on the planet. Whether you believe in intelligent design, natural selection, or a combination of both, our bodies are thousands of times more effective than man! Weโre unable to create the smallest living cell or the miracles of eyesight, reproduction and various interlinked systems present in our bodies or brains. If this creator or process had intended us to handle supernormal stimulus, weโd have been provided with different reward systems. Our bodies are provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril.
7.1 Thereโs nothing to give up
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Once you purge the little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, youโll neither want to masturbate often nor use internet ๐๐๐๐ for it. There are many knowns and unknowns when it comes to ๐๐๐๐ addiction, with many in the medical community having no concept of questioning or determining someone as a ๐๐๐๐ addict. A lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. Itโs not that users are generally stupid people, itโs just that theyโre miserable without ๐๐๐๐. Caught between the devil and the deep blue sea, abstaining and being miserable because they cannot use ๐๐๐๐, or miserable because theyโre guilty and begin despising themselves because of it. When they get symptoms such as low back pain or sexual dysfunction, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.
Another smoker analogy: all of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff and we see the true addiction in action. Addicts donโt do this for enjoyment, instead they do it because theyโre miserable without it.
For many their first sexual experience ended in an orgasm, so they acquired the belief they canโt enjoy sex without one. For men, ๐๐๐๐ is marketed as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education in confidence during the act. This is nonsense, the conditioning of supernormal stimulus only succeeds in bringing it down.
Not only is there nothing to give up but massive positive gains to be had. When users contemplate quitting, they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are valid and important reasons, but I personally believe the greatest gains are psychological:
- The return of your confidence and courage.
- Freedom from slavery.
- No longer having awful black shadows at the back of your mind and despising yourself.
7.2 Void, the void, the beautiful void!
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Imagine having a cold sore on your face, so you go to the pharmacist and he gives you a free ointment to try. You put the ointment on and it disappears immediately. A week later it reappears, so you go back to the pharmacist and ask if they have any more ointment. The pharmacist says โSure; keep the tube, you might need it later.โ
You apply the ointment and hey presto, the sore disappears once again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful, with the interval getting shorter and shorter. Eventually, the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful, and itโs returning every half hour. You know the ointment will remove it temporarily, but youโre very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor and they canโt cure it, so you try other things but nothing helps apart from the ointment.
By now youโre completely dependent on the ointment, never going out without ensuring that you have a tube with you. If you go abroad, you make sure you take several tubes with you. In addition to your worries about your health, the pharmacist is charging you a hundred dollars a tube. You have no choice but to pay up.
You stumble across an article discussing this and find out it isnโt just happening to you, many people are suffering from the same problem. In fact, the medical community has discovered that the ointment doesnโt actually cure the sore, and instead only takes it beneath the surface of the skin. Itโs the ointment that caused the sore to grow, so all you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment and itโll disappear in due course.
Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower to not use the ointment? If you didnโt believe the article there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realised the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go. Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldnโt! You had an awful problem which you thought was incurable but now youโve found the solution. Even if it took a year for the sore to go away, each day as it improved youโd think about how marvellous you felt. This is the magic of quitting ๐๐๐๐.
The sore isnโt the body pains, lack of normal lust, flagging arousal, fading penetration, the wasted time spent on two-dimensional images, feelings of infringement on entitlement, and despising the people who caught you or even worse, despising yourself. These are all in addition to the sore.
The sore makes us close our minds to all these things โ itโs that panic feeling of wanting a fix. Non-users donโt suffer from that feeling. The worst thing we ever suffer is fear, the greatest gain being rid of that fear. Itโs caused by your first session, further strengthened and caused by each subsequent one.
Some users are โhappyโ, blinded by their cunning little monsters and so go through this same nightmare, putting up phony arguments to try and justify their stupidity.
Itโs so nice to be free!
Summarization 7:
What am I giving up?
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In this section, the chapter discusses the difficulty of giving up ๐๐๐๐ and the fears associated with it. The fear includes the belief that one might be deprived of pleasure, face challenges in coping with stress, or create a void in their life. The chapter emphasizes that ๐๐๐๐ doesnโt fill a void; rather, it creates one.
Thereโs nothing to give up
This part argues that once the influence of ๐๐๐๐ is removed from both the body and the mind, the desire for it diminishes. It acknowledges the challenges in identifying ๐๐๐๐ addiction in the medical community and suggests that many symptoms are incorrectly attributed to other causes. The chapter compares the addiction to that of smoking and highlights the psychological gains of quitting, such as the return of confidence and freedom from enslavement.
Void, the void, the beautiful void!
This section uses a metaphor of a persistent cold sore and an ointment dependency to illustrate the concept of quitting ๐๐๐๐. It encourages the reader to consider the psychological dependence on ๐๐๐๐ as similar to relying on the ointment for the sore. The chapter suggests that quitting ๐๐๐๐ is not about giving up something valuable but rather freeing oneself from a harmful dependency, leading to a sense of liberation.
The magic of quitting ๐๐๐๐
Drawing parallels to the scenario with the ointment, this part emphasizes that quitting ๐๐๐๐ is not a loss but a solution to a problem. It discusses the various negative aspects associated with ๐๐๐๐ use, including physical symptoms and emotional distress. The chapter argues that the fear and panic associated with wanting a fix are eliminated by quitting ๐๐๐๐, and non-users donโt experience such suffering. The conclusion expresses the joy and freedom that come with being free from ๐๐๐๐.
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Chapter 8
Saving Time
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Usually when users try stopping, the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery of it; man has fought hard to abolish slavery in many parts of the world โ yet the user spends life suffering self-imposed slavery. Theyโre oblivious to the fact that when theyโre allowed to use ๐๐๐๐ they wish they were a non-user. The only time that ๐๐๐๐ becomes precious is when weโre โtryingโ to cut down or abstain, or when abstinence is forced on us.
It cannot be repeated often enough that brainwashing makes it difficult to stop ๐๐๐๐, so the more we dispel before we start, the easier youโll find it to achieve your goal. Confirmed users, who donโt believe that ๐๐๐๐ has any negative effect on their health (๐๐๐๐-induced erectile dysfunction, hypofrontality, etc.) and arenโt having a mental tug of war are typically younger or single with an occasional sex partner. Thus, the internal feedback is lost due to the nature of their youth or is too infrequent to be observed and registered.
A better argument for a younger user is the time spent, rather saying โI canโt believe you arenโt worried about the time you are spending.โ Generally their eyes light up, feeling disadvantaged if attacked on health grounds or social stigma, but on timeโฆ
โOh, I can afford it. Itโs only x hours per week and I think itโs worth it, itโs my only vice of pleasure.โ
โI still canโt believe youโre not worried. Letโs assume a half hour daily average which includes the physical drain of dopamine withdrawals, youโre spending approximately a full working day every fortnight. Iโm sure youโd agree that half an hour a day is a very conservative estimate. Have you thought about how much time youโll spend in your lifetime? What are you doing in that time? Developing real relationships? No, your favorite ๐๐๐๐ star doesnโt have sympathy for you, just because you spent so much time on their videos โ youโre throwing time away! Not only that, youโre actually using that time to ruin your physical health, destroying your nerves and confidence in order to suffer a lifetime of slavery, pain, melancholy and peevishness. Surely that must worry you, right?โ
Itโs apparent at this point โ especially with younger users โ that theyโve never considered it a lifetime addiction. Occasionally, they work out the time they waste in a week and thatโs alarming enough. Very occasionally, and only when they think of stopping, theyโll estimate what they spend in a year which is frightening โ but over a lifetime is unthinkable. However, because weโre in an argument the confirmed user will impulsively say, โI can afford it, itโs only so much a weekโ, pulling an encyclopedia salesman routine on themselves.
Would you refuse a job offer which pays your current annual salary and also gives you a month off every year? Any user would sign in a heartbeat and would get busy finding holiday deals to exotic locations. Figuring out how to spend a full month with no work would be the biggest problem to solve. In every discussion with a confirmed user (and please bear in mind thatโs not someone like yourself who plans to stop) nobody has ever taken me up on that offer. Why not?
Often at this point, a confirmed user will say, โLook, Iโm not really worried about the money aspect.โ If youโre thinking along those lines ask yourself why you arenโt worried. Why in other aspects of your life will you go to great deals of trouble to save a few dollars here and there, but spend thousands killing your happiness and hanging the expense?
Every other decision you make in your life will be the result of an analytical process of weighing up advantages and disadvantages to arrive at a rational decision. It may be the wrong decision, but itโll be the result of rational deduction. Whenever any user weighs up the pros and cons of using internet ๐๐๐๐, the answer is a dozen times over, โSTOP USING! YOUโRE A MUG!โ Therefore, all users are using not because they want or decide to, but because they canโt stop. They have to use ๐๐๐๐, and so brainwash themselves, keeping their heads in the sand.
Confirmed users should keep in mind that the situation will only get exponentially worse, with more studies coming out and more people talking about the ill effects of internet ๐๐๐๐. Today, itโs non-medical people discussing the effects, tomorrow itโll be on your doctorโs list of diagnostic tests. Gone are the days where the user can hide โdowntimeโ behind work stress in their sex life; your partner is going to ask why youโre on your laptop late at night. The poor user โ already feeling wretched โ now wants the ground to open up and swallow them.
The strange thing is that though many people would pay good money for gym memberships and personal trainers to build muscles and look sculpted (and many of them in their imaginary (and real) desperation turn to treatments such as boosting testosterone, with dubious and dangerous side effects), there are many people in this group who would benefit from stopping a practice systematically destroying their brainโs natural relaxation systems.
This is because theyโre still thinking with the brainwashed mind of the user. Wipe the sand out of your eyes for a moment. Internet ๐๐๐๐ is a chain reaction and a chain for life, and if you donโt break that chain youโll remain a user for the rest of your life. Estimate how much time you think youโll spend on ๐๐๐๐ for the remainder of your existence. Obviously the amount will vary from person to person, but letโs assume itโs a year and a half of work hours. Imagine if there were a cheque from the lottery for a year and a half of your salary lying on your carpet tomorrow? Youโd be dancing with delight, so start dancing! Youโre about to start receiving those benefits!
If you think this is a tricky way of seeing it, youโre still kidding yourself. Work out how much time you would have saved if youโd never taken your first peek right at the very start.
Shortly, youโll be making the decision to use your final session (not yet, please remember the instructions!), remaining a non-user by not falling for the trap again. All you have to do to remain a non-user is not using ๐๐๐๐ and avoiding โjust one peekโ. Remember if you do, itโll cost you whatever you estimated your salary gain will be.
If youโre mentoring someone for their ๐๐๐๐ addiction, tell them they know someone whoโs refused a job offer that pays their current annual salary and also gives them a full monthโs worth of paid time off. When asked who that idiot is tell them, โYou!โ Itโs rude, but sometimes you need to get the point across in a less than polite way.
Summarization 8:
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Recognizing the Reasons to Quit:
- Users often express the desire to quit pornography due to health, religious, or partner-related concerns.
- The chapter highlights the enslaving nature of pornography, comparing it to self-imposed slavery.
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The Impact of Brainwashing:
- The text underscores the role of brainwashing, making it challenging for users to quit.
- The importance of dispelling misconceptions about pornographyโs impact before attempting to quit is emphasized.
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Time as a Powerful Motivator:
- The author argues that time is a compelling factor for quitting, especially for younger users.
- Users are encouraged to consider the significant amount of time spent on pornography, framing it as a precious resource.
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Viewing Pornography as a Lifetime Addiction:
- Users are prompted to view pornography as a lifelong addiction, challenging them to consider the long-term impact.
- The analogy of refusing a job offer that pays the current salary with an additional month off every year is presented.
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Financial Perspective on Destructive Habits:
- The author questions usersโ willingness to spend on destructive habits while being cautious in other areas of life.
- Users are urged to reflect on the financial cost of their addiction and its impact on overall well-being.
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Analyzing Decision-Making Processes:
- The text points out that decisions related to pornography use often lack rational analysis.
- Users are encouraged to break the chain of compulsion and addiction through thoughtful decision-making.
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Shifting Perspectives:
- Users are prompted to shift their mindset from the brainwashed perspective of a user to that of a non-user.
- The destructive nature of internet pornography is emphasized, urging users to break free from the addictive cycle.
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Anticipating Future Consequences:
- The chapter predicts a worsening situation for users as more studies on the negative effects of internet pornography emerge.
- Societal awareness is expected to increase, leading to greater consequences for users.
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Motivational Strategy for Mentoring:
- A bold strategy for mentors is introduced, using the analogy of refusing a lucrative job offer.
- This approach aims to jolt individuals into recognizing the magnitude of their addiction and the potential benefits of quitting.
Chapter 9
Health
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This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest with users โ particularly the young and single โ who think theyโre aware of the health risks but arenโt. Many kid themselves by saying theyโre prepared to accept the consequences. If your internet router had a function that played an alarm tone with a warning when you hit a ๐๐๐๐ site saying โ โUp until now youโve gotten away with it, but if you stay another minute your head will explode.โ Would you have stayed? If youโre in doubt about the answer try walking up to a cliff, standing on the edge with your eyes closed and imagining having the choice of either quitting ๐๐๐๐ or walking up blindfolded.
Thereโs no doubt what your choice would be, but by burying your head in the sand and hoping that youโll wake up one morning and not want to watch ๐๐๐๐ anymore, you accomplish nothing. Users cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks, because if they do, the addictionโs illusory enjoyment goes. This explains why shock treatments are so ineffective in the first stages of quitting: itโs only non-users who bring themselves to read about the destructive brain changes.
Take this common conversation with users, generally younger ones.
Me: โWhy do you want to stop?โ
User: โI read in a pick-up artistโs blog that itโs good to stop for four days to amp myself up.โ
Me: โArenโt you worried about the health risks?โ
User: โNo, I could step under a bus tomorrow.โ
Me: โBut would you deliberately step under a bus?โ
User: โOf course not.โ
Me: โDo you not bother to look left and right when you cross the road?โ
User: โOf course I do.โ
Exactly, they go through a lot of trouble not to step under a bus and the odds are thousands to one against it happening. Yet the user risks the near-certainty of being crippled by their addiction and appears to be completely oblivious. Such is the power of the brainwashing; internet ๐๐๐๐ is a wolf in sheepโs clothing. Isnโt it strange that if we felt there were the slightest fault in an airplane we wouldnโt go up in it โ even though the risks are millions to one โ yet we take more than a one-in-four certainty with ๐๐๐๐ and are apparently oblivious to it? What does the user get out of this? Absolutely nothing!
Another common myth is depression or peevishness. Many younger people arenโt worried about their health because they donโt suffer any of the depression or melancholy. The depression or stress isnโt the disease, itโs a symptom. Younger people in general donโt feel the irritability or depression created due to their bodyโs natural ability to produce more dopamine. As they age or their lives encounter serious setbacks, their already depleted resources are overworked and theyโll experience full-blown symptoms. When older users feel stressed, depressed or irritated, itโs because natureโs fail-safe mechanisms are protecting the nervous system from excessive dopamine-flooding through trimming receptors. The user also develops other neurological changes that keep them in the rut.
Think of it this way, if you had a nice car and allowed it to rust without doing anything about it, that would be pretty stupid. It would quickly become an immovable heap of rust, incapable of transporting you anywhere. However, it wouldnโt be the end of the world as itโs only a question of money. But your body is the vehicle that carries you through life. We all say that our health is our greatest asset โ ask any sick millionaire. Most of us can look back on an illness or accident in our lives where we prayed to get better. By being a ๐๐๐๐ user, youโre not only letting the rust get in and doing nothing about it, youโre systematically destroying the one vehicle used to go through your entire life.
Wise up. You donโt have to do this. Remember, itโs doing absolutely nothing for you. Just for a moment, take your head out of the sand and ask yourself that if you knew with certainty that your next session would start a process that would make you utterly unresponsive to someone you deeply love, would you continue using? Speaking to the people this happens to, they certainly didnโt expect it would happen to them either, and the worst thing isnโt the disease itself but the knowledge that theyโve brought it on themselves. Try to imagine how people whoโve โhit the buttonโ feel, for them the brainwashing is ended. They spend the remainder of their lives thinking, โWhy did I kid myself for so long that I needed to masturbate to internet ๐๐๐๐? If only I had the chance to go back!โ
Stop kidding yourself, you have that chance. Itโs a chain reaction, if you engage in the next ๐๐๐๐ session, itโll lead you to the next one and the next. Itโs already happening to you. EasyPeasy promises no shock treatment so if youโve already decided that youโre going to stop, the following wonโt be shocking for you. If you havenโt, skip the remainder of this chapter and come back to it once youโve read the rest of the book.
Volumes upon volumes of research have already been written about the damage internet ๐๐๐๐ causes to our sex lives and mental well-being. The trouble is that until deciding to stop they donโt want to know. Forums and mentor groups are a waste of time because ๐๐๐๐ puts the blinders on. If inadvertently read, the first thing they do is to open their favorite tube site. ๐ฏ๐๐๐ users tend to think of the happiness, stress and sex hazards as a hit-and-miss affair, like stepping on a land mine.
Get it into your head, itโs already happening. Every single time you open your ๐๐๐๐ site youโre triggering dopamine-flooding and opioids getting to work. The neural water slides are greased and the ride takes you smoothly through the next steps, your brain having already given in to the script. The nervous system is now flooded by dopamine and since itโs the umpteenth time, dopamine receptors close up and the little monster uses this slight dip in pleasure compared to the last time to drive you further over the red line to more-shocking ๐๐๐๐ or behaviour in order to release more dopamine. More novelty, more dopamine and the little monster tells you to keep going. So many pictures and videos in a single session triggers a supernormal stimulus, injecting more chemicals into the brain and driving you to continue.
The entire time, your receptors are receiving information to shut down in response to the flooding. Orgasm only increases this effect and leads to withdrawal. Youโre in denial since the little monster craves for its fix with no real pain and discomfort. The threat of having erectile dysfunction terrifies many, which is why they block it from their mind and overshadow it with the fear of stopping. Itโs not that the fear is greater, but quitting today is immediate. Why look on the negative side? Perhaps it wonโt happen, having bound to have quit by then anyway.
We tend to think of ๐๐๐๐ as a tug-of-war: on one side is fear, โItโs unhealthy, filthy and enslaving.โ On the other side, the positives: โItโs my pleasure, my friend, my crutch.โ It never seems to occur to us this side is also fear; itโs not that we enjoy ๐๐๐๐, itโs that we tend to be miserable without it. Heroin addicts deprived of heroin go through misery, but picture the utter joy when theyโre finally allowed to plunge a needle into their vein and end that terrible craving. Try to imagine how anyone could actually believe they get pleasure from sticking a hypodermic syringe into a vein. Non-heroin addicts donโt suffer that panic feeling and heroin doesnโt relieve the feeling, it causes it.
Non-users donโt feel miserable if they arenโt allowed to use ๐๐๐๐ โ itโs only users that suffer that feeling. Internet ๐๐๐๐ doesnโt relieve the feeling, it causes it. The fear of the negative consequences doesnโt help users quit, because they liken the feeling to walking through a minefield. If you get away with it, fine, but if you were unlucky you stepped on a mine and faced the consequences. If you knew the risks and were prepared to take them, what did it have to do with anyone else? Addicts in this state typically develop the following evasive tactics.
โYouโll eventually get old and lose your sexual prowess anywayโฆโ
Of course you do, but sexual prowess isnโt the point โ weโre talking slavery here. Even if thatโs the case, is that a logical reason for deliberately cutting yourself short?
โQuality of life is more important than just living.โ
Precisely! Are you suggesting that the quality of life of an addict is greater than someone who isnโt addicted? Do you really believe the quality of a userโs life is better than a non-userโs? A life spent covering their head in the sand and being miserable doesnโt sound like a pleasant one.
โIโm single and not planning to settle down in the future, so why not?โ
Even if that were true, is that a logical reason for playing with neurological impulse-control mechanisms? Can you possibly conceive of anyone being stupid enough to strip naked whenever theyโre alone, regardless of how sure they arenโt expecting anyone? Thatโs what ๐๐๐๐ users effectively do!
Progressive gunging-up of our reward circuits with excessive stimulation, and making them incapable of handling normal stresses of life doesnโt help in enjoying your life with enthusiasm and vigour. ๐ฏ๐๐๐ and masturbation has replaced the natural sexual appetite, like a chocolate bar replacing real food. Unsurprisingly, many doctors and psychologists are now relating various mental-health problems to physiological causes. The mainstream medical community has laboured that ๐๐๐๐ has never been scientifically proven to be the direct cause of the issues reported by self-confessing individuals, but admitting oneโs sexual inability in public is such a shame-triggering event, so why would anyone do so unless they were really concerned, having found the cause and eliminated it from their own lives?
EasyPeasy will help you rid yourself of ๐๐๐๐ and become a happy ex-user. No ๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐-aided masturbation or unnecessary orgasms. The only aid will be the touch, sight and scent of your partner. Like wholegrain bread after a well developed appetite, youโll no longer want the high-fructose corn syrup of internet ๐๐๐๐. Evidence so overwhelming needs no proof; when I bang my thumb with a hammer and it hurts, it need not be proven. The stress of internet ๐๐๐๐ has flow-on effects onto other aspects of the userโs life, predisposing many to turn to drugs such as cigarettes and alcohol to cope, and in some instances even turning the host to consider suicide.
Users also suffer illusions that the ill effects of ๐๐๐๐ are overstated. The reverse is the case, thereโs no doubt that internet ๐๐๐๐ is the major cause of sexual dysfunction and many other problems. How many divorces have been caused by ๐๐๐๐? There are no reliable ways to know, but searches of online communities suggest the number is growing exponentially.
Thereโs an episode of Friends where the guys, who were receiving continuous free ๐๐๐๐ on TV, started to wonder why the pizza delivery girl didnโt ask to check out their โbig bedroomโ. When youโre addicted, you invariably project ๐๐๐๐ fantasies on real women. Imagine what careless or even accidental ๐๐๐๐ exposure on the darker sides of the internet might do to someone already at a tipping point in their life. Fighting against these ๐๐๐๐-induced thoughts will be a major drain on their mental health.
(Hereโs another thought experiment: letโs say someone comes to you and says they donโt necessarily want an orgasm but very much want to make love, even penetratively. They want to do it for as long and as far as you can go without an orgasm โ but if it happens then itโs fine. I assure you of a phenomenal new sexual experience far better than any other, if you ever get that offer. Try it.)
Effects of the brainwashing make us tend to think like the man who, having fallen off a 100-storey building, is quoted saying as he whizzes past the fiftieth floor, โSo far, so good!โ We think that as weโve gotten away with it so far, one more ๐๐๐๐ session wonโt make the difference. See it another way: the โhabitโ is a continuous chain for life with each session creating the need for the next. When you start the habit, you light a fuse. The trouble is, you donโt know how long the fuse is. Every time you give in to a ๐๐๐๐ session youโre one step closer to the bomb exploding. HOW WILL YOU KNOW IF ITโS THE NEXT ONE?
9.1 Sinister Black Shadows
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Users find it very difficult to believe that internet ๐๐๐๐ actually causes those insecure feelings when youโre out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-users donโt suffer from that feeling, itโs ๐๐๐๐ that causes it.
Another of the great joys of quitting ๐๐๐๐ is the freedom from the sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All users know theyโre fools to close their minds from the ill effects of pornography. For most of our lives itโs automatic, but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just below the surface. Several of the marvellous benefits of quitting are conscious, such as the ending of the waste of time and of the sheer stupidity of making love to a two-dimensional image.
The last chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-user, but in the interest of fairness itโs necessary to give a balanced account. Therefore, the next chapter lists the advantages of being a user.
Summarization 9:
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Brainwashing Effect:
- Users, especially the young and single, often underestimate the health risks of internet pornography due to a powerful brainwashing effect.
- Many users believe they are prepared to accept consequences and may ignore warnings about the potential harm.
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Comparison to Risk Perception:
- The chapter compares usersโ approach to internet ๐๐๐๐ risks to their cautious behavior in other aspects of life, highlighting the disconnect in risk perception.
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Depression as a Symptom:
- Depression or peevishness is not the disease itself but a symptom, particularly in older users.
- Younger users may not feel immediate negative effects due to their bodiesโ natural ability to produce more dopamine.
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Analogies to Neglecting Health:
- Users are encouraged to view neglecting their health, in the face of addiction, as akin to allowing a vehicle to rust without maintenance.
- The text emphasizes the importance of recognizing oneโs health as a crucial asset.
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Evasive Tactics:
- Common evasive tactics used by addicts, such as justifications based on aging or prioritizing quality of life, are challenged.
- The author argues that addiction leads to a life of misery, and users are encouraged to question the logic behind their decisions.
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Physiological Aspects of Addiction:
- Each ๐๐๐๐ session triggers dopamine release, reinforcing the addiction and negatively impacting reward circuits.
- Stress coping mechanisms are compromised, and the text suggests that internet ๐๐๐๐ is a major cause of sexual dysfunction and mental health problems.
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Continuous Chain Reaction:
- Users are urged to recognize the continuous chain reaction created by each ๐๐๐๐ session, likened to lighting a fuse with an uncertain length.
- The chapter challenges users to consider potential consequences, as the cumulative effects may lead to a critical point.
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Appeal for Recognition and Change:
- The chapter concludes by emphasizing the need for users to recognize the destructive nature of their behavior and consider the long-term consequences.
- Users are urged to reflect on the impact of each session and the uncertainty of when cumulative effects may become critical.
9.1 Sinester Black Shadows
Key Points from Section 9.1 - โSinister Black Shadowsโ
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Psychological Impact on Users:
- Users often struggle to believe that internet ๐๐๐๐ is the cause of insecure feelings, especially when out late at night after a stressful day.
- Non-users donโt experience these feelings, suggesting that ๐๐๐๐ itself is responsible for such emotional states.
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Freedom from Subconscious Fears:
- Quitting ๐๐๐๐ brings the joy of freedom from the โsinister black shadowsโ that linger in the subconscious minds of users.
- Users are aware, on some level, of the ill effects of pornography, and these subconscious fears are a constant presence below the surface.
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Conscious Benefits of Quitting:
- Quitting ๐๐๐๐ results in conscious benefits, including the end of wasted time and the realization of the absurdity of engaging with two-dimensional images.
- The text implies that users may not fully acknowledge these conscious benefits until they decide to quit.
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Balanced Account:
- While the previous chapters focused on the advantages of being a non-user, thereโs an acknowledgment of the need for a balanced account.
- The upcoming chapter is mentioned, which will list the advantages of being a user, ensuring fairness in the discussion.
Chapter 11
The Willpower Method
Reading Time: 15.5 minutes
Itโs an accepted fact in society that itโs very difficult to stop ๐๐๐๐. Books and forums advising you on how to stop usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that itโs ridiculously easy. Itโs understandable to question that statement, but first just consider it. If your aim is running a mile in four minutes, thatโs difficult and youโll have to undergo years of hard training, and even then possibly being physically incapable.
However, all you have to do to stop ๐๐๐๐ is to not watch it and/or masturbate anymore. Nobody forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or water, it isnโt needed for survival. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isnโt. Itโs users who make it difficult for themselves through use of willpower or any method that forces the user to feel like theyโre making some sort of sacrifice. Letโs consider these methods.
We donโt decide to become users, we merely experiment with ๐๐๐๐ magazines or websites and because theyโre awful (thatโs right, awful), apart from our desired clip, weโre convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. At first, we watch those first few clips when we want to and on special occasions. Before we realise it, weโre not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to โ weโre masturbating to them daily. ๐ฏ๐๐๐ has become a part of our lives, ensuring we require an internet connection wherever we go. We then believe weโre entitled to love, sex, orgasm and the stress-relieving properties of ๐๐๐๐. It doesnโt seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors donโt provide us with the same degree of arousal and we begin fighting against the red line to avoid โbad ๐๐๐๐โ. In fact, masturbation and internet ๐๐๐๐ neither improves our sex lives nor reduces stress, itโs merely that users believe they canโt enjoy life or handle stress without it.
It usually takes a long time to realise that weโre hooked because we suffer from the illusion that users watch ๐๐๐๐ because they enjoy it โ and not because they need to. When weโre not โenjoyingโ ๐๐๐๐ , which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added, weโre under the illusion we can stop whenever. This is a confidence trap. โI donโt enjoy ๐๐๐๐ , so I can stop when I want toโ. Only you never seem to โwantโ to stop.
Itโs usually not until we actually try to stop that we realise a problem exists. The first attempts are generally early โ triggered by meeting a partner and noticing they arenโt โquite enoughโ after the initial dates. Another common reason is noticing health effects present in daily life.
Regardless of reason, the user always waits for a stressful situation, whether health or sex. As soon as they stop, the little monster begins to get hungry. The user then wants something to pump their dopamine, such as cigarettes, alcohol, or their favourite โ internet ๐๐๐๐ โ with their harem only a click away. The ๐๐๐๐ cache is no longer in the basement, itโs virtual and accessible from anywhere. If their partner is around or theyโre with friends, they no longer have access to their virtual harem, making them even more distressed.
If the user has come across scientific material or online communities, theyโll be having a tug-of-war in their mind, resisting temptations and feeling deprived. Their way to usually relieve stress is now unavailable, suffering a triple blow. The probable result after this period of torture is compromise โ โIโll cut downโ or โIโve picked the wrong timeโ or perhaps, โIโll wait until the stress has gone from my life.โ However, once the stress has gone thereโs no reason to stop and the user doesnโt decide to quit again until the next stressful time.
Of course, thereโs never a right time because life for most people becomes more stressful. We leave the protection of our parents, entering the world of setting up home, taking on mortgages, having children and having more responsible jobs. Regardless โ the userโs life cannot become less stressful because ๐๐๐๐ actually causes stress. The quicker the user passes on to the escalation stage, the more distressed they become and the greater the illusion of dependency grows.
In fact, itโs an illusion that life becomes more stressful and ๐๐๐๐ โ or a similar crutch โ creates that illusion. This will be discussed in greater detail later, but after these initial failures the user usually relies on the possibility that one day theyโll wake up and just not want to masturbate or use ๐๐๐๐. This hope is usually kindled by stories heard from other ex-users, โI wasnโt serious until I had a fading penetration, then I didnโt want to use ๐๐๐๐ anymore and stopped masturbating.โ
Donโt kid yourself, probe these rumours and youโll discover theyโre never quite as simple as they appear. Usually the user has already been preparing to stop and merely used the incident as a springboard. More often in the case of people who stop โjust like that,โ theyโve suffered a shock: perhaps a discovery by their partner, a self-spotting incident of accessing ๐๐๐๐ not of their normal sexual orientation or theyโve had a sexual dysfunction scare themselves. โThatโs just the sort of person I am.โ Stop kidding yourself. It wonโt happen unless you make it happen.
Letโs consider in greater detail why the willpower method is so difficult. For most of our lives we adopt the head-in-the-sand, โIโll stop tomorrowโ approach. At odd times, something will trigger off an attempt to stop. It may be concerns about health, virility or a bout of self-analysis and realising we donโt actually enjoy it. Whatever the reason, we start to weigh up the pros and cons of ๐๐๐๐ . Sex is split into tantric (touch, smell, voice) and propagative (orgasm); this is one of the major keys in opening our mind, and without this important distinction, thereโll be confusion, which leads to failure. On rational assessment we find out what weโve known our entire lives, the conclusion is a thousand times over โSTOP WATCHING IT!โ
If you were to sit down and give points to the advantages of stopping and compare them to the advantages of ๐๐๐๐ , the total point count for stopping would far outweigh any โdisadvantagesโ. If you employ Pascalโs Wager, by quitting youโre losing almost nothing, with high chances of gains and higher chances of not losing. Although the user knows that theyโll be better off as a non-user, the belief theyโre making a sacrifice trips them up. Although an illusion, itโs powerful. They donโt know why, but the user has the belief that during the good and bad times of life, the sessions appear to help. Even before starting their attempt, societal brainwashing further reinforced by the brainwashing from their own addiction is then combined with the even more powerful brainwashing of how difficult it is to โgive upโ.
Users hear stories of those whoโve stopped for many months and still desperately crave it, or of disgruntled quitters, who, having stopped, spend the rest of their lives bemoaning the fact that theyโd love to have a session. There are tales of users stopping for many months or years, living happy lives, only to have one โpeekโ at ๐๐๐๐ and are suddenly hooked again. Users probably know several in the advanced stages of the disease, visibly destroying themselves and clearly not enjoying life โ yet continuing to use. Additionally, theyโve probably suffered one or more of those experiences themselves.
So instead of starting with the feeling, โGreat! Have you heard the news? I donโt need to watch ๐๐๐๐ any more!โ, they start instead with feelings of doom and gloom โ as if trying to climb Everest โ and they falsely determine that once the little monster has its hooks into you, youโre hooked for life. Many users start the attempt by apologising to their girlfriends or wives, โLook, Iโm trying to give up ๐๐๐๐. Iโll probably be irritable for the next couple of weeks, so try to bear with me.โ Most attempts are doomed before they begin.
Assume that the user survives a few days without a session. Theyโre getting back their arousal and are starting to recover. They havenโt opened their favourite tube sites and are consequently getting aroused by normal stimuli theyโd previously zoned out at. The reasons they decided to stop in the first place are rapidly disappearing from their thoughts, like seeing a bad road accident whilst driving. Itโll slow you down for a while, but you stomp your foot on the throttle the next time youโre late for an appointment.
On the other side of the war is the little monster who still hasnโt had its fix. Thereโs no physical pain โ if you had the same feeling because of a cold, you wouldnโt stop working or get depressed, youโd laugh it off. All the user knows is they want to visit their harem. The little monster knows this, and starts up the big brainwashing monster, causing the same person who was a few hours or days earlier listing all of the reasons to stop, to now desperately search for any excuse to start again. They begin saying things like:
- โLife is too short, a bomb could go off, I could step under a bus tomorrow. Iโve left it too late. They tell you everything gives you an addiction nowadays.โ
- โIโve picked the wrong time.โ
- โI should have waited until after Christmas, after my holidays/tests, after this stressful event in my life.โ
- โI canโt concentrate, Iโm getting irritable and bad-tempered, I canโt even do my job properly.โ
- โMy family and friends wonโt love me. Letโs face it, for everybodyโs sake I have to start again. Iโm a confirmed sex addict and thereโs no way Iโll ever be happy again without an orgasm.โ
- โNobody can survive without sex.โ (Brainwashed by well meaning people who donโt consider the distinction between the tantric and propagative parts of sex).
- โI knew this would happen, my brain is โsensitisedโ by DeltaFosB due to changes affected by dopamine surges because of my past excessive ๐๐๐๐ use. Sensitisation can โneverโ be removed from the brain.โ
At this stage, the user usually gives in. Firing up the browser, the schizophrenia increases. On one hand thereโs the tremendous relief of ending the craving as the little monster finally gets its fix; on the other hand, the orgasm is awful and the user cannot understand why theyโre doing it. This is why the user thinks they lack willpower. Itโs not in fact lack of willpower, all theyโve done is to change their mind and make a perfectly rational decision in light of the latest information.
โWhatโs the point of being healthy or rich if youโre miserable?โ
Absolutely none! Far better to have a shorter enjoyable life than a lengthy miserable one. Fortunately, this is untrue for the non-user, as life is infinitely more enjoyable. The misery the user is suffering isnโt due to withdrawal pangs โ though itโs initially triggered by them โ the actual agony is the tug-of-war in the mind caused by doubt and uncertainty. Because the user starts by feeling theyโre making a sacrifice, they then begin to feel deprived, which is a form of stress.
One of these stressful times is when the brain tells them to โhave a peekโ, wanting to backtrack as soon as they stop. But because theyโve stopped, they canโt and this makes them even more depressed and sets the trigger off again. Another factor making quitting so difficult is waiting for something to happen. If your objective is passing a driving test, as soon as youโve passed the test itโs certain whether youโve achieved your objective. Under the willpower method the internal narrative is โ โIf I can go long enough without internet ๐๐๐๐, the urge to watch it will eventually go.โ You can see this in practice in online forums where addicts talk about their streaks or days of abstinence.
As said above, the agony the user undergoes is mental and caused by uncertainty. Although thereโs no physical pain, it still has powerful effects. Now miserable and insecure, the user is far from forgetting, now full of doubts and fears.
- โHow long will the craving last?โ
- โWill I ever be happy again?โ
- โWill I ever want to get up in the morning?โ
- โHow will I ever cope with stress in future?โ
The user is waiting for things to improve but while theyโre still moping, the โharemโ is becoming ever more precious. In fact, something is happening but unconsciously, if they can survive weeks without opening the browser, the craving for the little monster disappears. However, as stated previously the pangs of withdrawal from dopamine and opioids are so mild that the user isnโt even aware of them. At this time, many users sense theyโve โkicked itโ and so take a peek to prove it, sending them back down the water slide. Having supplied dopamine to the body, thereโs now a little voice at the back of their mind saying โYou want another one.โ In fact, theyโd kicked it, but have hooked themselves again.
As a child you watched cartoons and as per neuroscience you formed neural pathways (DeltaFosB) for them. If you wanted to discourage a child from watching, youโd study if those pathways still existed and survey adults on why they donโt like to watch their favourite childhood cartoons anymore. For one, thereโs better entertainment available and secondly, the cartoons just donโt hold the magic anymore. With the willpower method youโre just denying the child the cartoon, but with EasyPeasy youโre also making sure they see no value in it. Which is better?
The user wonโt usually get into another session immediately, thinking โI donโt want to get hooked again!โ and allows a safe period of hours, days or even weeks to pass. The ex-user can then say, โWell, I didnโt get hooked, so I can safely have another session.โ Theyโve fallen back into the same trap as when they first started and are already on the slippery slope.
Users who succeed using the willpower method tend to find it long and difficult because the primary problem is the brainwashing. Long after the physical addiction has died, the user is still moping around, miserable. Eventually, after surviving this long term torture, it begins to dawn on them that they arenโt going to give in, stopping the moping and accepting that life goes on and is enjoyable without ๐๐๐๐. There are significantly more failures than successes, because some who succeed go through their lives in a vulnerable state, left with a certain amount of brainwashing telling them that ๐๐๐๐ does in fact give them a boost. This explains why many users whoโve stopped for long periods end up starting again later on.
Many ex-users will have the occasional session as a โspecial treatโ or to convince themselves how strong their self-control is. It does exactly that โ but as soon as their session ends the dopamine starts to leave and a little voice at the back of their mind begins driving them towards another one. If they decide to partake, it still seems to be under control, no shocks, escalation or novelty-seeking, so they say, โMarvellous! While Iโm not really enjoying it, I wonโt get hooked. After Christmas / this holiday / this trauma, Iโll stop.โ Little do they know that the water slides of their brain have been greased even more.
Too late, theyโre already hooked! The trap they managed to claw themselves out of has claimed its victim again.
As said previously, enjoyment doesnโt come into it. It never did! If we watched because of enjoyment, nobody would stay on the tube sites for longer than it takes to finish the deed. Regardless, a better way to self-pleasure is from memories. We assume we enjoy internet ๐๐๐๐ only because we canโt believe weโd be stupid enough to get addicted if we didnโt enjoy it. Most users donโt have any idea about supernormal stimulus, novelty or shock-seeking and even after reading about it, they donโt believe their use is motivated by evolutionary reward-circuit wiring. Thatโs why so much of ๐๐๐๐ is subconscious โ if you were aware of the neurological changes and had to justify it costing you money in the future, even the illusion of enjoyment would go.
When we try to block our minds to the bad side, we feel stupid. If we had to face it, that would be intolerable! If you watch a user in action, youโll see theyโre happy only when unaware theyโre using. Once aware, they tend to be uncomfortable and apologetic. ๐ฏ๐๐๐ feeds the little monster so upon purging it from your body along with the brainwashing (big monster), youโll have neither need nor desire to watch!
Summarization 11:
- Society often views quitting ๐๐๐๐ and masturbation as difficult, but the author argues itโs easy if one chooses not to engage in these activities.
- The difficulty arises from users imposing willpower or sacrifices on themselves, leading to a sense of deprivation.
- Users typically start with casual exploration but eventually become regular consumers, convinced they need it for love, sex, and stress relief.
- Users often realize the problem only when faced with stress triggers, such as health concerns or relationship issues.
- Attempts to quit are often prompted by external stress, but cravings intensify, making it challenging to resist.
- The belief that one can quit at any time is a confidence trap, as users often struggle when attempting to stop.
- Users may hear stories of sudden quitting, but these instances are often more complex and involve prior preparation.
- The willpower method becomes difficult due to societal conditioning, the illusion of sacrifice, and the fear of missing out on perceived benefits.
- Users weigh the pros and cons, but the illusion of sacrifice and societal brainwashing make quitting seem daunting.
- Users frequently apologize to partners before attempting to quit, setting a negative tone for their efforts.
- If users manage to abstain for a while, cravings diminish, but the little monster (desire for ๐๐๐๐) still lingers.
- Doubt and uncertainty plague users attempting to quit, leading to mental agony and stress.
- The willpower method involves waiting for the craving to subside, creating a continuous cycle of uncertainty.
- Users who succeed may still struggle with brainwashing, and some eventually relapse into old habits.
- Ex-users may justify occasional sessions as special treats or tests of self-control, leading to potential relapse.
- Enjoyment is not the primary motivator for watching ๐๐๐๐; users may not even be aware of subconscious factors driving their behavior.
- Overcoming the willpower method involves dispelling illusions about the benefits of ๐๐๐๐ and recognizing that life can be enjoyable without it.
Chapter 12
Beware of Cutting Down
Reading Time: 6 minutes
Many users resort to cutting down as a stepping-stone towards stopping, or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a โ๐๐๐๐ dietโ as a pick-me-up. Using cutting down as a stepping stone to stopping is fatal. Itโs these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped for the remainder of our lives. Generally, cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the user says something like:
โI canโt face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on Iโll just use ๐๐๐๐ once in four days or purge my collection of โbad ๐๐๐๐โ. If I can follow this ๐๐๐๐ diet, I can either hold it there or cut down even further.โ
Certain terrible things now happen:
- Theyโre stuck with the worst of all worlds, still addicted to internet ๐๐๐๐ and keeping the monster alive not only in their body, but in their mind.
- Wishing their life away waiting for the next session.
- Prior to cutting down, whenever they wanted to visit their harem theyโd fire up their browser and at least partially relieve their withdrawal pangs. Now in addition to the normal stresses of life, theyโre causing themselves to suffer the withdrawal pangs for most of their lives, which makes them even more miserable and bad-tempered.
- Whilst indulging, they neither enjoyed most of the sessions nor realised they were using a supernormal stimulus. It was automatic, the only harem visit that was enjoyed was one after a period of abstinence. Now that they wait an extra hour for each harem visit, they โenjoyโ each one. The longer waited, the more โenjoyableโ each session appears to become, because the โenjoymentโ in a session isnโt the session itself โ itโs the ending of the agitation caused by the craving โ whether slight physical craving or mental moping. The longer the suffering, the more โenjoyableโ each session becomes.
The primary difficulty in stopping isnโt the neurological addiction, which is easy. Users will stop without difficulty on various occasions โ the death of a loved one, family or work affairs, etc. Theyโll go, say, ten days without access and it doesnโt bother them. But if they went the same ten days when they couldโve had access to ๐๐๐๐, theyโd be tearing their hair out.
Many users will get chances during their work day and abstain, or theyโll pass through Victoriaโs Secret or swimming pools and so on without undue inconvenience. Many will abstain if they have to sleep on the couch temporarily to make space for a visitor, or are themselves visiting. Even in Go-Go bars or nudist beaches there have been no riots. Users are almost pleased for someone or something to say they cannot view ๐๐๐๐. In fact, users who want to quit get a secret pleasure out of going for long periods without harem visits, giving them hope that perhaps one day theyโll never want it.
The real problem when stopping is brainwashing, an illusion of entitlement that internet ๐๐๐๐ is some sort of prop or reward and life will never be the same without it. Far from turning you off internet ๐๐๐๐, all that cutting down accomplishes is leaving you feeling insecure and miserable, convincing you that the most precious thing on this earth is the new clip you missed, that thereโs no way youโll be happy again without seeing it.
There is nothing more pathetic than the user whoโs been trying to cut down, suffering from the delusion that the less ๐๐๐๐ they watch, the less theyโll want to visit their online harem. The reverse is true โ the less they watch ๐๐๐๐, the longer they suffer withdrawal pangs and the more they โenjoyโ the relief of relieving them. However, theyโll notice their favourite genre isnโt hitting the spot. But that wonโt stop them: if the tube sites were dedicated to only one star or one genre, no user would ever go more than once.
Difficult to believe? Whatโs the worst moment of self-control one feels? Waiting for four days and then having a climax. Then, whatโs the most precious moment for most users on a four-day ๐๐๐๐ diet? Thatโs right, the same climax after waiting for four days! Do you really believe that youโre masturbating to enjoy the orgasm, or the more rational explanation that you need to relieve withdrawal pangs under the illusion that youโre entitled to?
Removal of the brainwashing is essential to remove illusions about ๐๐๐๐ before you extinguish that final session. Unless youโve removed the illusion that you enjoy it before you close that window, thereโs no way you can prove it afterwards without getting hooked again. When hovering over bookmarks and saved pictures, ask yourself where the glory in this action is. Perhaps you believe that only certain clips are of good taste, like ones on habitual or favourite themes. If so, why bother to watch other videos or themes? Because you got into the habit? Why would anyone habitually mess up their brain and waste themselves? Nothing is different after a month, so why should a ๐๐๐๐ clip be any different?
You can test this yourself. Find that hot clip from last month to prove itโs different. Then, set a reminder and watch the same clip after a month without ๐๐๐๐. It will hit (almost) the same spots as it did last month. The same clip will be different after a social event where youโre turned down or tested by a potential partner. The reason being that the addict can never be fully happy if the little monster remains unsatisfied.
Where does satisfaction come into it? Itโs just that theyโre miserable if they canโt relieve their withdrawal symptoms. The difference between watching ๐๐๐๐ and not is the difference between being happy and miserable. Thatโs why internet ๐๐๐๐ appears to be better. Users who get on their sites first thing in the morning for ๐๐๐๐ are miserable whether watching it or not.
Cutting down not only doesnโt work, but is the worst form of torture. It doesnโt work because initially the user hopes that by getting into the habit less and less, theyโll reduce their desire to watch ๐๐๐๐. Itโs not a habit, itโs addiction. The nature of any addiction is wanting more and more, not less and less. Therefore in order to cut down, the user has to exercise willpower and discipline for the rest of their lives. So, cutting down means willpower and discipline forever. Stopping is far easier and less painful; there are literally tens of thousands of cases in which cutting down has failed.
The problem of stopping isnโt the dopamine addiction, which is easy to cope with. Itโs the mistaken belief that ๐๐๐๐ gives you pleasure, brought about initially by brainwashing received before we started using, further reinforced by the actual addiction. All cutting down does is reinforce the fallacy further, to the extent that ๐๐๐๐ dominates their lives completely and convinces them that the most precious thing on earth is their addiction.
The handful of cases that do succeed have been achieved by a relatively short period of cutting down, followed by going โcold turkeyโ. These users stopped in spite of cutting down, not because of it. All it did was prolong the agony, failed attempts leaving users nervous wrecks and even more convinced theyโre hooked for life. This is usually enough to keep them reverting back to their online harem for pleasure and crutch, or at least for another stretch before the next attempt.
However, cutting down does help to illustrate the futility of ๐๐๐๐, clearly demonstrating that visits to the harem are not enjoyable after periods of abstinence. You have to bang your head against a brick wall (suffer withdrawal pangs) in order to make it nice upon stopping. Therefore, the choices are:
- Cutting down for life and suffering self-imposed torture, which youโll be unable to do anyway.
- Increasingly torturing yourself for life, which is pointless.
- Being nice to yourself, and cutting ๐๐๐๐ out altogether.
The other aspect that cutting down demonstrates is that thereโs no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet ๐๐๐๐ is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it.
Remember: Cutting down will drag you down.
Summarization 12:
Reading Time: 1.5 minutes
1. Introduction
- Difficulty in quitting ๐๐๐๐ is often overstated in society.
- The author asserts that quitting is actually easy โ a matter of choice.
2. Quitting ๐๐๐๐: a rational choice
- Stopping ๐๐๐๐ is as simple as choosing not to engage.
- No external force compels individuals to watch or masturbate to ๐๐๐๐.
- Pornography is not a necessity for survival, making quitting theoretically uncomplicated.
3. The Illusion of Enjoyment
- Users often believe they watch ๐๐๐๐ because they enjoy it, not because they need to.
- The progression from occasional use to regular consumption happens subtly.
- Users convince themselves they can stop whenever they want.
4. Awakening to the Problem
- Realization of addiction often occurs during attempts to quit.
- Initial attempts are triggered by external factors like health concerns or relationship issues.
5. Stress and Cravings
- Users tend to wait for stressful situations to quit.
- The craving for dopamine during stressful times leads to relapse.
- Access to the virtual harem exacerbates distress when trying to quit.
6. The Willpower Method: A Mental Tug-of-War
- Brainwashing contributes to the perception of quitting as a sacrifice.
- Users believe in the difficulty of giving up, reinforced by societal norms.
- Stories of long-term quitters facing persistent cravings add to the challenge.
7. Internal Dialogue During Quitting Attempts
- Users experience doubt and uncertainty during attempts to quit.
- Various justifications for relapse, such as life being too short or the wrong timing.
8. The Trap of Relapse
- Users may succeed initially but often relapse due to internal conflicts.
- A sense of sacrifice and deprivation leads to a mental struggle.
- Relapse is common when users believe they can control their consumption.
9. Long-Term Effects of the Willpower Method
- Users who succeed often go through long-term mental torture.
- Moping and misery continue even after physical addiction diminishes.
- Successful quitters eventually realize life is enjoyable without ๐๐๐๐.
10. Contrasting Approaches: Willpower vs. EasyPeasy
- The willpower method relies on denying access, creating a feeling of deprivation.
- EasyPeasy aims to eliminate the desire for ๐๐๐๐ by changing its perceived value.
- The importance of addressing subconscious motivations for using ๐๐๐๐.
11. Conclusion
- Users suffer from an illusion of enjoyment and dependency on ๐๐๐๐.
- Overcoming the willpower method requires changing perspectives and eliminating subconscious motivations.
Chapter 13
Just One Peek
Reading Time: 3.5 minutes
โJust one peekโ is a myth that you must remove from your mind:
- Itโs just one peek that gets us started in the first place.
- Itโs just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.
- Itโs just one peek that after having succeeded in breaking the addiction, sends us back into the trap. Sometimes itโs just to confirm they donโt need ๐๐๐๐ anymore and one harem visit does just that.
The aftereffects of ๐๐๐๐ will be horrible and convince the user theyโll never become hooked again โ but they already are. The user feels that something making them so miserable and guilty shouldnโt have made them do it, yet it did.
Itโs the thought of โone special sessionโ that often prevents users from stopping, the one after your long conference trip, hard day at work, fight with the kids, or incident where your partner rejects you for sex. Get it firmly in your mind that thereโs no such thing as โjust one peekโ. Itโs a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless broken. The myth about the odd, special occasion keeps users moping after stopping. Get into the habit of never seeing the โno big dealโ session, itโs fantasy. Whenever you think about ๐๐๐๐, see a filthy lifetime of spending eons behind a screen for the privilege of destroying yourself mentally and physically โ a lifetime of slavery and hopelessness. It isnโt a crime if your erections are unreliable, but it is when you could be happier long-term but instead choose to sacrifice that for short term โpleasureโ.
Itโs okay we canโt always come up with โsomething to doโ for the void; doing that isnโt realistically possible in every instance for our entire lives. We can plan for most of them, but sometimes it just happens. Good and bad times also happen, irrespective of ๐๐๐๐. But get it clearly into your mind, the ๐๐๐๐ isnโt it. Youโre stuck with either a lifetime of misery or none at all. You wouldnโt dream of taking cyanide just because you liked the taste of almonds, so stop punishing yourself with the occasional โno-big-dealโ session. Ask a user with issues, โIf you had the opportunity to go back to the time before you became hooked, would you have become a user?โ The answer is inevitably, โYouโve got to be joking!โ Yet every user has that choice every day of their lives, so why donโt they opt for it? The answer is fear, the fear that they canโt stop or that life wonโt be the same without it.
Stop kidding yourself! You can do it, anybody can. Itโs ridiculously easy but in order to make it so, there are certain fundamentals to get clear in your mind.
- Thereโs nothing to give up, only marvellous positive gains to achieve.
- Never convince yourself of the odd โno-big-dealโ or โjust-one-peekโ session. It doesnโt exist. Thereโs only a lifetime of filth and slavery.
- Thereโs nothing different about you; any user can find it easy to stop.
Many users believe that theyโre confirmed addicts or have addictive personalities. This usually happens as a result of reading excessive amounts of shocking neuroscience. Thereโs no such thing, nobody is born with the need to masturbate to video clips before they became hooked. Itโs the drug that hooks you, not the nature of your character or personality. The nature of addictive supernormal stimulus makes you believe this is the case. However, itโs essential to remove this belief because if you believe youโre addicted, you will be, even after the little monster in your body is long dead. Itโs essential to remove all of this brainwashing.
Summarization 13:
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1. Myth of โJust One Peekโ
- The belief that โjust one peekโ is harmless is debunked.
- Itโs emphasized that a single peek often initiates or derails attempts to quit.
- Users convince themselves they can control it with the idea of a special occasion.
2. Aftereffects and Guilt
- After a session, the user experiences horrible aftereffects.
- Despite feeling miserable and guilty, users find themselves trapped again.
- The illusion that one special session wonโt lead to addiction is debunked.
3. Preventing Users from Quitting
- The thought of one special session often prevents users from quitting.
- Users mope after stopping, driven by the myth of occasional, no-big-deal sessions.
- The idea of a special occasion is portrayed as a chain reaction lasting a lifetime.
4. Breaking the Myth
- Users are urged to firmly reject the concept of โjust one peek.โ
- The myth is described as fantasy, leading to a lifetime of slavery and hopelessness.
- Choosing short-term pleasure sacrifices long-term happiness.
5. Clear Fundamentals for Success
- Key principles to understand for successful quitting are outlined.
- Thereโs nothing to give up; instead, there are positive gains to achieve.
- Users are warned against convincing themselves of the harmlessness of occasional sessions.
6. Common Beliefs and Addictive Personalities
- Users often believe in having addictive personalities or being confirmed addicts.
- The nature of addiction is attributed to the drug, not inherent personality traits.
- Itโs crucial to dispel the belief in being addicted to avoid perpetuating it.
7. Removing Brainwashing
- Users are encouraged to remove the brainwashing associated with addiction.
- Believing in addiction can persist even after the physical addiction is gone.
- The necessity of clearing the mind from false beliefs to facilitate quitting.
8. Conclusion
- Quitting is depicted as easy and achievable by anyone.
- Users are reminded to focus on the positive gains and reject the myths that hinder successful quitting.
- The chapter underscores the importance of dispelling false beliefs for lasting change.