Two big lies about "porn"

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Lie #1: I’ll quit porn when I’m married - THIS IS A LIE!

When you get married you’ll be having sex for real, with a real person - your spouse. So it seems like you wouldn’t crave porn anymore.

Real sex can be wonderful and deeply gratifying. It bonds two people in a way that nothing else can.

But the lie is that real sex will somehow remove your desire to look at porn. That is false. Completely false! FALSE EVERY SINGLE TIME!

That is because at its core, real sex is nothing like porn.

Real sex is a together experience - just you and your spouse and nobody else. Porn is a screenful of novelty, one different person after another.
Real sex is about seeking your partner’s gratification before your own. But porn is all about gratifying yourself.

Real sex is about opening up yourself, heart, body, and soul to another person and cherishing the openness that she gives to you. But porn is about escaping and avoiding being open. Why else do people look at it in secret?!

Lie #2: Porn makes you better in

bed THIS IS A LIE!!! The truth is that porn destroys your ability to enjoy sex with a real person.

Porn decreases your ability to be aroused by your partner - because you’ve trained yourself to be turned on by fantasy things. A growing number of young men can’t even get hard when they try to have sex with a real person. Imagine how you’d feel trying to explain that to the girl of your dreams!

Masturbation makes you less sensitive to sexual stimulation

Porn can make you think that she likes things that she actually feels are degrading or hurtful

Porn makes you crave unrealistic or even dangerous types of sex.

The GOOD news is that you can recover from these things, but you have to quit the porn. After a few weeks of zero porn and masturbation you can begin to recondition yourself.

(Collected from “BULLDOG BLOCKER”. An app of blocking porn effectively)

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Yes, I agree that if you are addicted to PMO in a way that you like the feeling that it gives to you, engaging in real sex with your spouse will not vanish the desire of practicing PMO.

However, I would like to share something that happened to me:

I was trying to quit PMO. My streak was like 14 days or something like that. Then I had my first time with a real girl (I’m not married). And it made me see how different PMO and real sex are, in a way that made me feel disgusted about doing PMO again. Now I’m on day 386 of this same streak.

So, at least for me, starting for real a sexual life has helped me to quit PMO.

Best regards.

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Bro, how deep was your addiction before engaging in real and stopping PMO once and for all.

I mean how many years and what was your frequency of realpses per day.

Not that, you can leave pmo only if your addiction was weak, but anyone can recover from this, provided we put the required effort and show ourselves the willingness to leave the habit.

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I would say that I was in the path to be strongly addicted in a short time. I was used to do PMO daily, each day consuming content even more hardcore.

About 6 to 7 years. In the begging I used to relapse just twice a week, with “soft” ■■■■ (I mean ■■■■ videos that are not aggressive/offensive). Then the frequency increased, and the content got more hardcore.

I had tried to quit many many times. Seriously, but I couldn’t get over 7 to 15 days mark

This time, I could succeed, and I do see a correlation between being able to quit ■■■■ with losing my virginity.

During this currently strike, I have urges, but they are to have real sex, not to do PMO.

And even though I didn’t have a “second time” with a girl yet, I feel good and I have no desire to relapse.

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Nice, stick to real my friend.

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I wish you luck too =)

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Thanks mahn, i will too be free of this for a time, until my mind liberates from the corruption of Porn. And then get married soon, in sha allah.

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