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Well said bro.

To control my emotions, I try to anchor myself to the present moment: I try to focus on the sounds, on what I see, on what I smell, I focus on every little detail in the present moment. This helps me relax and realize that all the emotions are only in my head, and I don’t need to react to them.

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Yo @Shining_Fate I always wanted to say this… I’m tracking ur journey. U r going really good. Keep posting, I want u to succeed. U acts as an inspiration to change. :heart:

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Thanks brother

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March 15 :white_check_mark:

It was a great day. My productivity was good and overall I feel better than in previous days.

I also noticed that in my case the urges are strongest in the morning and first half of the day. Usually in the evening the urges are weak. This means that the most important thing is to survive the first half of the day, then it will get easier.

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March 16 :white_check_mark:

Today I am firmly convinced that in order to quit PMO, you need to consider yourself as a person who does not have this habit.

You need to stop identifying yourself with this bad habit. You need to start seeing yourself as a person who does not need to watch p*rn, and who does not even think about such nonsense.

However, such a mindset is very difficult to achieve. At least for me it is really difficult. A small part of my subconscious still thinks that I need to watch PMO. But I will keep trying.

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March 17 :x:

It is so sad to say this, but today I relapsed.

I had strong urges, and I also felt really stressed out today. I relapsed, because deep down in my head I still thought that pmo is a good stress reliever.

Right now I feel terrible. I feel like all the progress I made is lost.

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It’s not true bro, u know this. It’s just ur brain fooling u to keep fapping. Don’t worry if u relapsed once, start again right now. I know what u r capable of, one relapse doesn’t define u :fire:

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Don’t worry about relapse brother you made a progress and it will not get away like that now you need to ask yourself like is pmo worth it ? it was never a stress booster or something this was made to harm and will harm in future. here a mindset shift is needed. I know that thing is within you.

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You may feel terrible but remember this emotion. When you want to fail again that emotion is a reminder. This relapse is just a setback progress is never lost. Progress makes patience. Patience makes greatness. So just be patient with yourself and watch what you are doing next. Hope that you feel better soon brother!

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Thank you guys!

You are all right. I just need to learn from this setback and move forward.

I’m defintely not gonna give up. Expect great results from me. This time I will do whatever it takes to not relapse.

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You are falling again and again. I think you need help from a real person.

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Actually, I already told my good friend about my problem, and he supported me. Since then I’m doing a bit better at nofap. Although, I still have things to improve :smiling_face_with_tear:

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Yes that’s a good choice you have made. But maybe someone that could really lead you, someone like a counselor or I don’t know what that’s called.

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Yeah, I think I can go to a psychiatrist with this issue, they specialize on addictions.

Ok, that’s settled. If I relapse one more time - I will seek therapy.

I’m serious.

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You better keep your word.

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How many times you’re relapsing per month i mean average ? I mean message us to prevent a relapse we are here to help.

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I think on average I relapse 5 times per month

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You shouldn’t have answered that it will be a trauma for you now

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I don’t really understand…
What do you mean?

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:sparkles: Day 1 :white_check_mark: :sparkles:

A new journey begins.

I have made a firm decision that I will never watch p*rn. No matter how bad I feel or how strong the urge is, I will never watch p*rn again. This shit is 100% bad. There are literally no positive sides, only bad. I need to remember this because my brain will most likely tell me lies: β€œit won’t hurt to watch a little”, β€œyou deserve to watch this to relieve stress”, etc. Every time these thoughts come, I need to remember that these are all lies.

This time, I will rely on 5 strategies and techniques to defeat the urges and achieve complete recovery. I will just list them now and in later days I will discuss them.

  1. Symbolic reprogramming technique. I will discuss it tomorrow.
  2. I will meditate 3 times a day: morning, afternoon and evening. Each session will be 10-15 minutes.
  3. Dealing with negative thoughts. When the negative thoughts will arrive, I will observe them, without judgement, and let them pass. The most important thing is not to react to them.
  4. Reminding myself, that I will never watch p*rn again. 3 times a day I will use affirmations from the book β€œEasy Peasy”. I will tell myself that I do not need to watch p*rn anymore and that I am free from this addiction.
  5. I will try to have as much fun as possible. Socializing more, doing my hobbies, cooking, watching good movies, playing videogames, etc. I will try to make every day fun and memorable.

And finally, yesterday I made a promise, that if I relapse again, I will go to a professional psychiatrist, and discuss my problem with him. I’m 100% serious. I promise, that I will do that.

That’s all I have to say for now :slight_smile: I will do whatever it takes to make this my last battle. I will fight as if my happy future depends on it (which is true).

To my future self: Don’t relapse. It’s not worth it, and it never was. Just calm down. Remember why you are fighting and what goals you want to achieve. You got this.

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