You’re right! I will stop worrying about this…
Yea man, I’m gonna be harsh with my words. You’re 20. Fucking 20 dude. You’re practically a kid. You talk as if you are gonna die tomorrow. You have years ahead of you.
" Oh no, I’m 20 years old and I’m a virgin and I’ll die alone!" Stfu! You’re only 20. Losing your virginity shouldn’t be your hallmark for success with ladies. Hell, Barney Stinson lost his virginity when he was 23 and look how he turned out. He did all the hot girls in new York city and beyond.
Dude just because you’re a virgin doesn’t mean you will be one all your life. If you being a virgin is a problem for the girls you date then you need to find someone else. Or you can always lie about losing virginity if the girl is hot.
The point being, there’s literally nothing in your list of insecurities that can’t be changed with effort. You have control over every aspect of yourself. If you don’t like it, get your shit together, man up and do something about it. If you need help with any problem you think you have, I’ll help as much as I can. You need to stop sulking like a bitch and work on yourself.
Yes, this isn’t harsh words it’s just the truth… and I agree with every single thing that you said… thank you for that, I needed to hear it
I’m pretty sure there are many ladies like this. And you have really good chances to become great guy, friend and boyfriend!
Yeah, I’ll do my best to make this happen and if I’m lucky I’ll find a nice woman too…
Ok then, now that you have heard it, what are you gonna do about it?
I’ll take a time tonight and I’ll write down everything that I want to achieve (set goals) and I’ll write how I can achieve them. And also you’ll try to forget about this “20 yo virgin”, I know that’s gonna be hard, but I know that I can forget it. I will be so occupied trying to achieve my goals that I will not have time to think about it…
Will you share your goals with us tomorrow?
I don’t know, I think it’s something personal… maybe I share it, I don’t know
Lesson 1 - Dream out loud but make plans in private. Good luck!
Yes, my uncle always says that to me…
Don’t waste your goal for a hole
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That’s actually very nice!
You’ve got a lootttt of time and a long life ahead , don’t let your friends make you feel any less about yourself . Stop putting sex on pedestal and just focus on the woman and having quality time , things will automatically fall into place. Being virgin at 20 is very normal !
But also porn is not reality (you already know that) just don’t learn “sex” from porn becuz it’s notcreally pleasurable to girls .
Focus on yourself and focus on being a better person , being a gentleman ! While talking to any woman dont think you’re talking to the opposite sex , they are just humans ! If you communicate just for the sake of socialising without any hidden sexual agenda the girl will sense it and automatically be friendlier with you .
23 year old here
Kissless virgin too
Had my share of simping for women.
Never again. I’m willing to die a kissless virgin, but I will never ever sell my self respect again. These things don’t make much big of a deal.
Yes, I’m starting to do it, just talking with girls without the intention to have sex with them… once a girl fell in love with me in a camp when I was a scout boy (she was a scout girl), unfortunately she’s from another city. But shr started to like me for who I was I didn’t pretend somone else to impress her I wasn’t even teying to impress her…
Reading all comment here, I realized that sex isn’t that important…
Hello brother, I’m not that active here so I’m replying late, but I thought it was important. I know exactly how you’re feeling. I have nearly the same life experience as you, if not worse. What’s different is that I’m about 5 years older than you. I never think that I’ll get anything either. Its certainly kinda late, however what you must know is that its not really as rare as you might think. A lot of guys go around their entire lives without getting it and still do great things. Guys like Nicola Tesla, Isaac Newton, etc are there. But if you continue wasting your time like this, you’ll not get anything and yes it may turn much worse than now. You are here at the right point in your life, you must know that none of those people care for you. Its only you who can help yourself. You can do anything in your life right now and you must act, because after few years you won’t be able to change much. Concepts like love and relationships don’t hold much value now. Especially things like faithfullness and trust are the sweet words limited to some dreamy romantic movies. If you’re successfull, if you have money, and if you can keep up, you’ll eventually get laid without anybody ever caring whether you’re a virgin or an incel. If you aren’t, you’ll never really get anything, no matter how much you cry over it. Specially the women you jack off to .
Wow… Just wooowww. Why would you give such bullshit advice to someone. If you believe it then fine. But don’t suggest this kinda shit to another person. Love, relationships, trust and faithfulness are all core aspects of marriage and the essence of its sanctity. Sure not all marriages are successful and there are many degenerate people out there who doesn’t value their partners love and trust. But that doesn’t mean we have to be one to. It’s not something you just see in movies. I see it everyday. In the lives of my parents. My relatives. My neighbors. It exists and it’s definitely something worth living for.
Well the supply of piping hot bullshit seems endless. Success is important, definitely. But it’s not everything. The women who chase rich people are called a certain name and for a good reason. They don’t care about anything else. And the relationship as a result is called a toxic relationship. You might as well hire a hooker. When you date women, you shouldn’t do it just for the sex. You should be looking for meaningful relationships. Unless you are just looking for sex which is also fine. But if you ever wanna get married and have a family, then you should find women who has value and those not after your money. Reading this kinda messages in a support group is truly depressing
Soooooo true!!! Might be this person just had similar hurtful experience…