Chapter 28
The Final Visit
Reading Time: 8.5 minutes
Having decided on timing, youโre now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials.
- Do you feel certain of success?
- Do you have a feeling of doom and gloom, or a sense of excitement that youโre about to achieve something marvellous?
If you have any doubts, re-read the book first. Remember that you never decided to fall into the ๐๐๐๐ trap, but the trap is designed to enslave you for life. In order to escape, you need to make the positive decision that youโre about to stop and to make your final visit.
Remember, the only reason youโve read this book so far is because youโd dearly love to escape. So make that positive decision now, making a solemn vow that when you close your private browser window, whether finding it easy or difficult, youโll never visit your harem again. Perhaps youโre worried that youโve made this vow several times in the past and are still failing, or that youโll have to go through awful trauma. Have no fear, the worst thing that can possibly happen is that you fail, so therefore you have absolutely nothing to lose and so much to gain.
But stop even thinking about failure โ the beautiful truth is that itโs not only ridiculously easy to quit, you can actually enjoy the process. This time youโre going to use EasyPeasy! All you need to do is follow the simple instructions about to be given.
- Make the solemn vow now and mean it.
- Browse the pictures and clips on your favorite tube site consciously, looking at the desperate attempts by the site administrators, actors and even amateurs to amplify the shock, novelty and supernormal nature of their wares and ask yourself where the pleasure is.
- When you finally close the browser, donโt do so with a feeling of โI must never visit another online harem againโ or โIโm not allowed to visit anotherโ but instead with a feeling of freedom, like โIsnโt it great? Iโm free! Iโm no longer a slave to ๐๐๐๐! I donโt ever have to visit these filthy sites in my life again.โ
- Be aware that for a few days, thereโll be a little ๐๐๐๐ saboteur inside your stomach. You might only be aware of the feeling of wanting a session. The little ๐๐๐๐ monster has been referred to as the slight physical craving for dopamine. Strictly speaking this is incorrect, and itโs important to understand why. Because it takes up to three weeks for that little monster to die, ex-users believe the little monster will continue to crave after the final online harem visit, and therefore they must use willpower to resist the temptation during this period. This isnโt so, the body doesnโt crave ๐๐๐๐-triggered dopamine; only the brain craves.
If you do get that feeling of wanting a peek over the next few days, your brain has a simple choice. It can either interpret that feeling for what it actually is โ an empty, insecure feeling started by the first visit to an online ๐๐๐๐ site and further perpetuated by each subsequent one, and saying to yourself โYIPPEE! IโM A NON-USER!โ
Or, you can start craving for ๐๐๐๐ and suffer for the remainder of your life. Just think for a moment, wouldnโt that be an incredibly stupid thing to do? To say, โI never want to watch โ โ โ โ againโ and then spending the rest of your life saying โIโd love a visitโ? Thatโs what those using the willpower method do, and itโs no wonder they feel so miserable. Spending the rest of their lives desperately moping for something they desperately hope theyโll never have. No wonder that so few succeed and the few that do never feel completely free.
โGet this mental picture clearly in your mind, for it can be quite helpful in overcoming the power of external stimuli to disturb you. See yourself sitting quietly, letting the phone ring, ignoring its signal, unmoved by its command. Although you are aware of it, you no longer mind or obey it. Also, get clearly in your mind the fact that the outside signal in itself has no power over you, no power to move you. In the past you have obeyed it, responded to it, purely out of habit. You can, if you wish, form a new habit of not responding.
โAlso notice that your failure to respond does not consist in doing something, or making an effort, or resisting or fighting, but in doing nothing โ in relaxation from doing. You merely relax, ignore the signal, and let its summons go unheeded. The telephone ringing is a symbolic analogy to any and every other outside stimulus you might habitually give control over to and now choose to very intentionally alter that habit.โ
โ Maxwell Maltz, The New Psycho Cybernetics Ch. 12.
Itโs only doubting and waiting that makes it difficult to quit, so never doubt your decision because you know itโs the correct one. If you begin to doubt it, youโll put yourself in a no-win situation. Miserable while craving a visit, but unable to have one. No matter what system you are using, what are you trying to achieve when quitting ๐๐๐๐? Never to watch again? No! Many ex-users do that but go through the rest of their lives feeling deprived.
Whatโs the difference between users and non-users? Non-users havenโt any need, nor desire to watch ๐๐๐๐, theyโre without craving and donโt need to exercise willpower in order to not watch it. Thatโs what youโre trying to achieve and itโs completely within your power to do so. You donโt have to wait to stop craving ๐๐๐๐ or become a non-user, itโs completed the moment you close that final browser window, cutting off the supply of dopamine. YOU ARE ALREADY A HAPPY NON-USER!
Youโll remain a happy non-user provided:
- You never doubt your decision.
- You donโt wait to become a non-user. If you do, youโll merely be waiting for nothing to happen and creating a phobia.
- You donโt try not to think about ๐๐๐๐ or wait for the โmoment of revelationโ to come, creating a phobia.
- You donโt use substitutes.
- You see all the other users as they really are and pity them rather than envying them.
Whether theyโre good or bad days, donโt change your life just because youโve quit. If you do, youโll be making a genuine sacrifice when thereโs no need to. Remember, you havenโt given up living. You havenโt given up anything. On the contrary, youโve cured yourself from an awful disease and escaped from an insidious prison. As days pass and your health โ both physically and mentally โ improves, the highs will appear higher and the lows less low than when you were a user. Whenever you think about ๐๐๐๐ during the next few days or the rest of your life, think:
โYIPPEE! IโM A NON-USER!โ