Chapter 19
Can I Compartmentalise?
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This myth is primarily spread by users attempting to stop on the willpower method, who perform mental gymnastics and begin a Jekyll-and-Hyde routine: βPoππ is for my alter ego and real-life romance is for my relationship side.β Nothing is further from the truth β the ππππ water slides, DeltaFosB and neurological changes are going to overrun the real-life romance, making it less desirable. Mr Hyde is definitely going to overrule Dr Jekyllβs instructions.
If you use internet ππππ, youβre training yourself for the role of voyeur, or requiring the option of clicking to something more arousing at the slightest drop in dopamine levels. Or, the continual search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Additionally, you might be masturbating in a hunched-over position or watching your smartphone in bed on the nightly, eventually desiring those cues more than real-life stimuli. Sex goes against nearly every aspect of the online harem, so it stands no chance when compared. The memories created when youβre young are powerful and long-lasting, so breaking down those pornographic water slides and rewiring or creating new ones takes longer. However, thatβs not to say itβs any more difficult.
Every time you ride on the βππππ water slideβ youβre greasing it, keeping the nerves fresh and ready to fire. When parking next to a fast-food restaurant, the smell of the fryer floats into your nostrils and the sale is already made. Likewise, the ππππ water slides in your brain are ready for you to get sucked in and are open twenty-four hours a day. Each cue or trigger lights up your reward circuit with the promise of sex β only it isnβt sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use ππππ, the stronger the nerve connections become. The end result is that you might ultimately need to be a voyeur, needing to click to ever-escalating and novel material, needing ππππ to get to sleep, or needing to search for the perfect ending to get the job done.
As with any substance or behavioral drug, the body builds tolerance and the drug ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as the ππππ user closes a session, they want another one, and quickly, the permanent hunger remaining unsatisfied. The natural inclination is escalation, to get the dopamine rush. However, most users are prevented from doing this for either or both of the following reasons.
Money: They canβt afford to subscribe to paid ππππ sites.
Health: Thereβs only so much the body can take, either the dopamine surges or orgasms. Plus, orgasms actually trigger chemicals in order to cut down the dopamine flush. It has to, thatβs just the way the body works.
Once the little monster leaves your body, the awful feeling of insecurity ends. Your confidence returns, along with a marvellous feeling of self-respect, obtaining the assurance to take control of your life and using it as a springboard to tackle other problems. This is one of the many great advantages of breaking free from any addiction.
The compartmentalisation myth is one of many tricks that the little monster plays with your mind. These tricks make it harder to stop β due to the impossible satisfaction of the permanent hunger β causing many users to turn to cigarettes, heavy drinking, or even harder drugs to satisfy the void.
Humans are rating animals, both to ourselves and others. Watching ππππ with your partner is unsatisfying, as you both rate each otherβs performance against the narrative. Do you want Brad Pitt in your bedroom, even if heβs on a poster? No one person can match a harem where each βexperienceβ is acted, scripted, directed by professionals and immediately available twenty-four hours a day.