I am 23 year old male who has been single and I have finally just went YOLO and put myself out there to online Christian dating. I was always shy and isolated as my past and relationship wasn’t that good but that was ages ago. It’s time to get out of my turtle shell meaning no more living in the comfortable zone. Granted it may feel good but without risk they can not be reward. So hopefully a girl swings by for a chat and let’s see how it goes.
A big part of this isolation is no thanks to pmo. I thought to myself yes its good to work on yourself but let’s be honest we always work on ourselves to better improve just providing an excuse to not get out of the comfort zone. I believe to quit pmo to keep doing this app but also live your life try and get a GF/BF as this community and finding relationships will help. Just like anything we got to be careful.
Stay STRONG Everyone and hope l find love or at least get to chat to turn this shy guy to a person that wants to keep chatting with others
Since l am not that great at relationship which l try to improve along the way l have come up with courage to talk about it with my parents. Super weird and awkward for me but glad l told them so l could hear their thoughts on online dating and giving me advice and stuff. I feel much freer like my isolated chains that shackle me down are starting to weaken
Not the best in this in terms of promoting myself but hey its progress. Anyways l keep you updated as it helps me get it off my chest relieving pressure here then to fap off to anxiety or whatever
Today very recently finally a Christian girl hit me up with a message. We chatted for just a bit before she had to go. Who knows this might lead to something but either way keeping an open mind on how things turn out . Mitchy is a bit excited lol let’s gooooo
Today i had a long conversation with this lovely Christian girl to get to know her a bit better and all. We both agreed on things here and there so everything is going well. As a Christian i believe it was right to tell her all my problems now then later on. This way if she accepts it now l know that she has good character and all. Anyways a took a leap of faith and told her about how l conquered porn but working on masturbation problems. Also told her my medical condition. Basically so far so good and she is cool with it but still open mind taking it slow and seeing what happens.
What l said in one of the messages
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As a young teen I was a porn addict with a lot of help l got out of it. All that’s left is defeat my desire for masturbation and be one with God to be pure. So if you’re a loving woman Christian who is kind, understands, forgiving and honest then you are AMAZING
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I be praying to God - is she the one. Only time will tell and please pray for me as well that would help a lot. I will keep you updated how it goes but not to the point where its like her privacy out the window. It just be how i think the relationship goes without details from now on
So me and her chatted some more and i have completely been open and honest to her. It’s been like 2 days of texting no meet up yet and she talks about stockmarket or what not ldk an app called bog or something. Anyways she wants me to take over because her internet connection is not good.
I denied her request because it’s weird and i respect privacy as i would find it not appropriate going on someone else’s account let alone when it has something to do with money.
This was the second time she brought it up and the second time l said no and now I’m confused.
I sadly don’t think she is the one. She understands my medical condition and my masturbation issues and she could of left me at any time but when i said l won’t help her with this one thing because to me its inappropriate she doubts me and doesn’t know if she wants to continue. She left and says she needs to think about it.
Open mind and all but i like to be the guy who at least gives things a shot until l actually see her that way i can decide properly. It seems like maybe not in the case. Everything was going so well. Maybe back on the dating app for me.
If that’s the case that’s so sad. Anyways thanks been going thru a lot. It’s just been a terrible day for me from one thing to another. Always good to have some support. Anyways stay AWESOME
Update: still looking for a Godly lovely girlfriend with little to no success. I have multiple dating app to get myself out there and this one app is promising yet also annoying. This app i got 3 matches - were i like their profile and vice versa. Anyways you do get the occasional scammers that post
onlyfans links
asking for sex
show me pictures of boobs
All of them get blocked but that’s so cruel especially for us men being highly sexual and also very visual beings of desires and all. If only they knew what damage they do to us men - not saying men are perfect as well as some send non consensual dick pics and all which is a BIG NO.
Anyways either way i keep on searching for potential girls and see where it goes.
