Thanks for this brother 
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Day 7
Had a great start for the day until now, already done 2 hours of uninterrupted studies with 15 minutes break. Goal is to do 9 hours today with 15 minutes break after every 45 minutes. I have faced a lot of embarrassment due to not giving my 100% and procrastinating continuously, but it all changes now. Iâll do whatever is in my capacity to reach my goal and Iâll make myself proud. The best thing is that, the more determined I become, the less the urges are. Havenât felt a single urge since morning. Being productive is the best and maybe the only way to win win over PMO.
No more overconfidenceâŚ
Have a great day everyone⌠
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Just an update-
I completed the goal, it is unbelievable for me that I could concentrate well enough for so long.
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That is really great. Easy way to fight PMO and urges is occupying the mind with some productive problem solving work, which clearly shows youâve already discovered and unlocked as I read your recent posts.
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Yeah, When you stop fapping you create a void and you must fill it with something or else it will be filled by our brain arbitrarily and it will definitely fill it with urges and lustful thoughts. The inducement of superpowers and things like that does not stay for long, frankly, I didnât feel anything even after 35 days. Everything was same, only difference being I was not fapping. The urges were extremely strong because I was entertaining them as I was not filling the gap with anything else. This time its different, nofap is actually helping me in being focused. It is easier for me to pull myself out of those thoughts.
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Day 11
Though I am not very keen on counting days but it sometimes makes me happy to see that I have again come a long way after a relapse.
Days are passing by very quickly and I have immersed myself deep into my work. It is surprisingly giving me pleasure, and it is also helping a lot in getting my mind out of PMO. I have started switching off my phone while I study and only turning it on in breaks. And I have realized that it is helping me in more than one way -
- It is helping me to attain delayed gratification which is helping in rewiring my brain, which was addicted to instant gratifications.
- My power to say no to myself has increased manifold. I dont have to fight with myself to get off my mind from useless things.
- Checking phone in breaks also help in providing progressive reinforcement to the brain which allows it to refresh itself and get ready for another session of work.
Till now I am just enjoying this phase and have not registered any major urges as such.
I cannot stress enough upon two things for anyone trying to get rid of the habit of PMO, or any other bad habit-
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Get productive - Just start working on anything which you are supposed to, let it be related to work, study or just read or anything which involves applying your brain and helps as a distraction.
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DO NOT EDGE - Say no to the brain when it starts convincing you to edge and pull you towards fapping again. Act as if it is your child and you are the parent, you cant let him do whatever he wants. Its for his own good. EDGING IS A ONE WAY STREET WHICH LEADS YOU STRAIGHT TO A RELAPSE.
Thanks for reading. Now get back to work.
Stay Strong.
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Iâm following your foothpath (secretly) 
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The inducement of superpowers and things like that does not stay for long, frankly, I didnât feel anything even after 35 days. Everything was same, only difference being I was not fapping.
A good realisation to make, âsuperpowersâ are a transient phenomenon. Willpower and focus are the only true lasting abilities you gain from this and they are something you work for, not something that is given to you.
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Iâm glad someone put it out here very clearly. It is indeed the willpower and focus that we are working on here.
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And I am sure that will power and focus are not permanent even if you remain abstinent. Nofap just allows us to think about what is actually important instead of the mirage towards which we were running endlessly.
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Thanks for saying that brother but I am a rookie just trying to learn the tricks. Lets do it together instead
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The big problem, and not only with pmo, ia that people from outside to inside. And is just the opposite.
pmo is a consequence from something bigger.
Quite pmo but also work in your self to become better (i recommend you to read the 7 habits of highly effective people but only if you want to be a better person)
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You might be surprised to know that I have already read that, even some books of brian tracy, robert greene and tony robbins⌠But reading is one thing and inculcating is another.
I mentioned this in one of my older posts, now is the time to apply all that is learned. Thanks for mentioning though, i know the knowledge given by Stephen Covey is no nonsense. If followed properly it can do wonders, Iâll try to apply it brotherâŚ
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18th Day
No matter what you are doing, whether it is good or bad, you are getting better at it.
I couldnât have ever done it without the trigger which I got from my last relapse. I had a fake sense of satisfaction maybe due to fapping. Even if I was failing my exams there was a sense of satisfaction in my mind, there was no scarcity, no haste of anything. Although I knew what was wrong and what was right but I didnât have an urge to accomplish anything. Things turned upside down after refraining from PMO. I felt incomplete. The feeling of discomfort arose, I started thinking about the goals I set for myself and how far they still are and by the speed with which I was moving towards them I would have never reached there as the speed was negative. I was moving father away from it. I was about to compromise and leave it. But now there is this sense of urgency, a desire to achieve, and it might be all due to because I got time to make a choice. My mind got clear and a space cleared in order to contemplate. After the relapse I realized that the things which needs to my priority are no where in my mind and other junk keeps running in it. I set some priorities and corrected myself every time my mind swayed away from them. First few daysz were difficult, my cravings to check my phone, craving to search some bullshit thing on google which was fulfilled earlier instantly etc were at peak. But after suppressing them for a few more times curbed those cravings. My online time was down now. And my productive time rose to 6-7 hours a day. And I am still improving upon it. For a little bit âshow-offâ thereâs a screenshot of today, I completed almost 8 hours today. Maybe now my efforts will bear fruit.
Got a serious urge today, but I know it was my fault because I entertained the thought. But I moved away from it and concentrated on work instead.
So now I have a benchmark of today and Iâll beat this tomorrow. I now know how actual happiness feels like. One can only feel this good if he is productive and adding value to his/her life.
I hope I will hold my ground firm and will not bow down to the urges and temptations.
Thanks for reading. Thanks for making me feel accountable.
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What app is this ?
Engross ?
And AIR 1 in which exam ?
Yeah its Engross and I am in CS Professional level. Have my exams in June.
And you better get back to studying bro. Donât waste your time here right now. I repeat, these things will be here after your exam tomorrow but your exam wonât be. You will have to spend all this time again. Not worth it bro. Get your ass back to studying.
Itâs 5 min break bro.
And I completed more syllabus in last two hours than I did in last two days.
Thanks to your motivation.
Really Moved !
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Thatâs great, keep going and all the best.
DAY 24
I got so busy in my work that I couldnât find time to write anything here, days were passing like a breeze and I have been enjoying it a lot lately. I have been working out and studying honestly, I am getting a good diet with a bit of pilfering here and there. I even started feeling somewhat indifferent towards women, I dont get that much lustful thoughts when I see one. I used to get a lot of urges after seeing this particular girl who lives just in front of my home but yesterday I realized that I was able to pull myself away from those thoughts the moment they started gathering when I saw her.
Something went wrong today.
I was following my daily schedule as it is but I felt frustrated in the afternoon because I wasnât able to grasp a concept and it was too long but still I carried on. Now, I felt a bit tired and lazy as my whole body is aching due to mornings workout so I skipped the evening cardio excercise and didnât take cold shower and took a nap instead. Thatâs where things went south, as I woke up I didnât leave the bed and after a while I found myself edging(without porn), I dont even remember why did I start doing it, I just know that I started it without giving any second thoughts to it. As soon as I realized what am I doing I just ejected myself out of my bed like a fighter pilot ejects himself from the jet and went straight out to walk my dog.
I somehow managed to escape the inevitable relapse today. But I am feeling guilty now, I shouldnât have slipped from my schedule, thatâs what keeps me on track and the moment I deviated I was close to relapsing.
This maybe a red alert I need to be extremely self aware from now on, I know the next time maybe I will not be able to stop myself and that is why whatever maybe the situation I will not deviate from the schedule. I felt like this is it, I will again relapse because I am so weak that I cant even stay away from such a miserable act, but I think I needed this to remind myself that I shouldnât take things for granted and should respect the fact that my discipline has what brought me this far and if I start cutting corners now I will only be left with a relapse and regret in the end.
I am also going to try to improve my sleeping pattern from now on so that I recover well and donât get tired like today.
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