I am in need of your assistance. I am currently in a relationship with my girlfriend for two months. At first, this gave me a huge boost in my motivation to quit porn and masturbation. Where I used to have streaks of 4 or 5 days max, I was now able to pull of 27 days. I felt incredible. However as time passed by, having a girlfriend gave me a whole new set of problems.
I am having problems with sexual fantasies. Every day i am fantasizing about having sex with my girlfriend and it is killing me. There are days where I cannot think of anything else for the entire day and I am becoming mad crazy. I am having this problem mostly when I am in bed or on the toilet.
I tried wearing pants when sleeping and going to the toilet without my phone, but to no avail. When sleeping with pants i start masturbation through my pants and my imagination follows me to the toilet.
Do any of you have any tips or tricks I can do or exercises I can perform to freeze the thoughts and maken them go away?
Bro. I don’t understand this. Sexual fantasies about girlfriend.???
It means you don’t know her. You just talk to her.
Solution is talk to her more . (deeply)
Sorry @_TIGER for opposite solution.
If she’s your girlfriend then ask if she wants to go bang. If she does, your problem is solved. If she doesn’t, tell her your problem, she’ll be more helpful. Don’t tell her that I can’t stop objectifying you or something. If the fantasy is some what weird then tell you can’t stop thinking about her sexually. Be sly about it. Tell her the truth but not the whole truth. If your fantasies are vulgar then she’ll get creeped out. Better, to tell I can’t stop thinking about you or wish you were here. Be smooth about it. Either way it’s a win win for you. Now don’t ghost her for 90 days, that’s some dumbass advice. You ignore her for that long, then you’ll have to find another girlfriend. communication is key bro. Getting a girlfriend is easy, maintaining a relationship is tough as fuck. Don’t make it worse for yourself
hey there the situation as you tell it sounds really tough.
i would support @pingpong1 suggestion.
also i would like to point out that it is great that you stay away from Porn and that you relate to your gf.
that is a good sign considering your rewirng success.
i would also suggest that you consider why your urges hit as in does it depend on flirting and body contact etc as triggers for urges or is it that you feel stressed and hence the urges and you use your gf instead of p?
Does she tease you sexually? Because obviously you’ll fantasize then. Make it clear with her about what you want and what are you upto.
Having and maintaining a woman sucks up a lot of energy. That’s the bitter truth whether you like it or not.