- After a month sex helps with rewiring
- Only hard mode
What are you asking brother?
The decision to remain intimate with your wife/girlfriend/partner on this NoPMO journey is a personal decision you have to make based on your knowledge and understanding of yourself.
Many people say that having sexual intercourse triggers them and leads to a chaser effect and them wanting to seek out porn afterwards. Many others say that sexual intercourse doesn’t affect them at all in this way; they are just triggered by flashbacks and sexual images and video thumbnails.
Everyone has different goals on this journey. Some are dedicated to complete semen retention and want to eliminate even wet dreams, others are continuing to sleep with their wives and girlfriends and want to stop watching porn and masturbating, others just want to stop watching pornography. Everyone has to decide for themselves what is best for their sexual health and self-improvement.
I don’t think this is the kind of decision that a poll can answer. Most people on this forum are going for hard mode anyway, so the results will already be biased.
I think that since you are trying to escape pornography, your brain needs time to create new healthy neuro pathways towards other stuff. If you battle your urges with sex, then you are just using your girlfriend to satisfy you, when sex it is about giving, not taking.
There are many stories of guys who thought that when they got married, they would end their pornography addiction because they would be able to have sex. But that is just a lie, it never works out.
Imagine there is a couple, whose husband struggles with porn and they would have sex in order to satisfy his urges. Imagine that the woman get pregnant and, therefore, they can’t have sex. The urges will come and where do you think he will go? Pornography, obviously, because he didn’t master his body, he is still a slave of his desires.
What I’m trying to say is that it is very healthful for the couple to abstain themselves from sex at least for 3 months or even more. Some say that 9 months is enough time to escape from pornography. During this time, you can learn new ways to demonstrate your love to your partner. Make a meal, hold each other hands, be charming. I sure that this won’t be in vain. I can guarantee that it will be worth it. The sex after these month will be the best you guys will ever experience. It will be worth it