Risinglion's journey to Monk mode [ 19 M ]

Thank you @Hyperion. I was not in a good situation yesterday. I will be updating my diaries from tomorrow.

The blessed lord said:

कुतस्त्वा कश्मलमिदं विषमे समुपस्थितम् ⁠। अनार्यजुष्टमस्वर्ग्यमकीर्तिकरमर्जुन ⁠।⁠।

O Arjuna whence has this loathsome stupidity has come upon you in this crisis. It is unworthy of a personage like you, it is ignoble, heaven closing and cause of much disrepute. (B.G 2.2)

क्लैब्यं मा स्म गमः पार्थ नैतत्त्वय्युपपद्यते ⁠
क्षुद्रं हृदयदौर्बल्यं त्यक्त्वोत्तिष्ठ परन्तप ⁠।⁠।

O Partha (Son of Pritha)! Yield not to unmanliness! It befits you not. Shake off this paltry faint heartedness, rise up, O dreaded hero! [B.G. 2.3]

मात्रास्पर्शास्तु कौन्तेय शीतोष्णसुखदुःखदाः ⁠। आगमापायिनोऽनित्यास्तांस्तितिक्षस्व भारत ⁠।⁠।

यं हि न व्यथयन्त्येते पुरुषं पुरुषर्षभ ⁠।
समदुःखसुखं धीरं सोऽमृतत्वाय कल्पते ⁠।⁠।

Contact of the senses with their objects generates cold and heat, pleasure and pain. They come and go, being impermanent. Forbear with
them patiently, O scion of the Bharata race!
|| B.G. 2.14 ||

The man whom these torment not, O chief of men,
balanced in pain and pleasure, steadfast, he is fitted for realising his permanence/immortality.
|| B.G. 2.15 ||

Thought u might need some dose of divine motivation

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Thank you so much @Ishant16.

Yes I really needed it. Are these quotes from Bhagavat Gita?

Yes they are from SrimadBhagwad Geeta…

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“The Master has failed more times than the beginner have ever tried”

28 August 2021
3:30 pm

With the blessings of God, I have completed my 1th day of No fap and within a few hours I will be completing the 2nd day of my No fap. So nothing special these days. After my previous relapse I took some decisions to make myself more disciplined. I took a lot of challenges in this forum so that I can keep track of those habits that I am currently doing. With the blessings of God I was able to complete majority of habits that I wished to execute yesterday.

The other things that concern me is that I am not able to study regularly these days and I am not able to wake up at 5am. I installed some night time routine in my life so that I sleep early and at the same time ensuring to have a quality sleep. And when it comes to academic point of view, I joined a challenge here whose primary objective is to reduce the social media usage of my phone and laptop. Hope that these decisions will help me to improve in all aspects of my life.

Thank you
Have a nice day

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" The tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we live"

29 August 2021
6 :20 pm

With the blessings of God, I have completed my 2nd day of No fap and within a few hours I will be completing the 3rd day of my No fap. Hopefully today was better than the previous day because I was not only able to execute the majority of my habits but also studied about 4.5 hours with decent dedication. But the night routine ended being a failure because I slept late yesterday. But I still executed it. But the good thing is I heard the alarm at 5am even though I failed to wake up that time. This is a good sign from my part as I used to never hear the alarm during that early morning. I think bathing with hot shower was responsible for this as it is scientifically proven to have a quality sleep thus making us energized even after only few hours of sleep.

So I am thinking of executing same night time routine but with the difference that I will be sleeping early this time. To be exact, 11 pm. Today, I had strong urges but was able to overcome it with the blessings of God.

I used to hear songs in Spotify during workout. But I have been hearing the same songs for years that it started to bore me hearing it. To everyone who is reading this, can anyone suggest me some workout songs so that I can hear it with more motivation? The songs that I personally hear is

English

Radioactive, Believer , Demons and Thunder ( Imagine Dragons)
Love me like you do and Burn ( Ellie Goulding)
Never say never and Let me love you ( Justin Bieber)
Numb and In the end ( Linkin Park )
Runnin ( I don’t remember the artist)

Hindi

Aashayein
Lo safar
Samjhawan
Ae dil hai mushkil
Phir Kabhi
Besabiriyaan

Tamil

Pougalaam
Kadhal Anukkal

Malayalam

Oru dinam

That’s all . Hope I will get some response in the form of suggestion of songs that I haven’t heard especially English songs.

Thank you

Have a nice day

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It’s been a while since the last time i use Spotify. Thanks for reminding me :laughing:.

I’m not indian but some of the music i often listen back then was
:notes:Shiva Tandava Stotram (best trance)

Others
(Music no vocal)
:notes:Shiro Sagisu-Lucifer Dance (Rayden Remix)
:notes:Rayden-Valiance[Epix Breakbeat] (ps: this is my all-time favourite)
:notes:Libera Me From Hell[Drum and Bass](rayden remix)

(:joy:i can share more but idk your preferences so this is my general list i guess you might like it)

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Thank you so much @Hyperion . I will be looking at these songs tomorrow :slightly_smiling_face: :slightly_smiling_face:

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Till i collapse - Eminem
Nirvana Shatakam - sounds of isha
Adiyoginam pranmamyham - sounds of isha
Chhalla (main Lad Jana) - Uri the surgical strike
Katravai Pattravai - Kaala
Ziddi Dil - Mary Kom
Dangal Title Track
Aao Na - Haider

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Thank you @Ishant16 for your suggestions

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Relapsed. So I am taking a new step. I allow myself to M by not watching p just as @NeverGiveup420 has done. He has mentioned about it in his post

My Easy Method- ONLY RELAPSERS / CHASER EFFECTED READ THIS

Anyway I am a man with nothing to lose. So I am going to try this method.

@NeverGiveup420 Could you please express your views about this method? Also, Could you please tell about the frequency of M those days?

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" Every great story on the planet happened when someone decided not to give up and kept going no matter what "

30 August 2021
2 : 40 pm

I have relapsed a few hours ago because of
chaser effect. But more than that I am happy to say that today I believe I found out one of the best method to succeed in my no fap journey. I wish it should also work for you because I understood from this forum that my pattern of relapse was way different from many of you.

Some of you have succeeded in your No Fap journey by downloading Porn Blockers and various other apps that filter adult content. I tried this this method but didn’t work. Currently I am reading Easy peasy book along with this, so that’s also a good sign by the way. After the relapse, I was researching myself a lot about the pattern of relapses and found the following.

My reasons for relapse are

1: Lack of willpower
2: Lack of necessary steps after failure
3: My Extreme behaviour
4 : Being manipulated by thoughts

While analysing those mistakes, I found out that I was focusing more on mistake 1, 3 and 4. Later I found that it’s not my lack of willpower, but the fact that I used willpower in a wrong time. Once should not use a physical force for a mental game. It is also mentioned in easy peasy book that willpower decreases with increase in streak ( Chapter 2). Why? Because the no fap game changes from physical game ( by providing you strong urges) to mental game ( mind tricks to watch porn) as we progress towards the streak.

Yes, I am calling willpower ( also motivation) as a physical one than a mental one because it also decreases for a period of time like the strength of the muscles decrease during muscle cramps. The muscles cramps for willpower is generally flatline or the times you feel low.

I will also give the same explanation for my mistake 4 as lack of willpower means allowing yourself to get manipulated.

When it comes to mistake 3 , I accept the fact that I show extreme behaviour sometimes and also know the fact that I should avoid it. But when it comes to No fap journey, I should be in a position that the chances of happening such a situation is minimum as possible.

This leads me to mistake 2. I should take many step possible for me in order to prevent my attempt from watching porn. According to me, fighting PMO is like fighting Loki. Yes , Loki from MCU. Loki is has shown physical prowess in one of the scenes of Thor Ragnarok and also known for creating illusions like a sorcerer.

So you have to use willpower to overcome physical urges and take necessary steps to overcome mind games. Because mind games can never be fought, it must be avoided or dodged.

Earlier I have mentioned to the @Forerunner that its easy for me to overcome my urge to M but not P. Thank you Forerunner for the book. Along with that I understood that I relapse because of the mind games the mind is providing me.

I also found the primary reason for 80% relapse is that I am a night owl. I tried to become a morning bird but that was a desperate attempt. But still I have a lot of work to do and due to this reason there are times where I spent couple of extra hours after sleeping time.

So I took some steps to succeed in this journey by still being a night owl. I understood that my gadgets for relapse are my phone and laptop. Took the following steps.

  1. Downloaded Blocksite and Cold Turkey Blocker on my phone and laptop respectively in order to filter adult content.

  2. Also I understood the fact that my initial steps for relapse are using the minute version of porn. Yes, this is the reason for my each and every relapse. Unlike others I don’t jump into porn directly. I start to consume minute version of it and when I become horny enough, I jump to porn. The problem is minute version is so minute enough that it’s not adult content due to which blockers fail to block it.

  3. For the phone I took a different strategy

I downloaded 2 apps from Play store one is Stay Focused and the other is Your Slice.
I used Stay Focused to permanently block apps while I used Your Slice which works in such a manner that you can use a particular app on specific mentioned timing.
I deleted social media like Instagram, Twitter , Facebook etc. Now the only source of social media I cant delete is You Tube.

I used Stay Focused to block you tube.
The good thing about Your Slice app is that it can block itself. So here it as follows

  1. Used Stay Focused to Block You Tube
  2. Used Your Slice to block Stay Focused and Your Slice ( I did this to so that I can prevent myself from unblocking You Tube when my urge is bad.)

Now Your Slice will ask you to specify the time interval to use a particular app. I typed the following
Starts: 5 am
Ends : 5 am
By doing this you are blocking Your Slice and Stay Focused permanently. The only method from this is to delete the app. So but I made the process of deletion super complicated that our urge would have gone by that.

For laptop, Cold Turkey blocker does the job of blocking porn as well as blocking the app I want. But in addition it can also block the search if you search a particular word that is given as a demand not to search. For example, if you tell the app to block the search involving the word " hot" . Then you cannot type "hot girls " on YouTube or Google .

After doing all the blocking, delete this app. Yes, delete this app. Because this app is saved as an extension in Chrome. I also blocked the link for the Chrome extension so it cannot be removed.

This is the strategy I am going to follow after about 7 hours of researching myself.

Hope it will work

Thank you

Have a nice day

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From tomorrow onwards I won’t be able to Express my daily activities and emotions here. I have restricted the usage of this app to 30 min. So I won’t be able to write everything in detail. But I will be updating all my habits that are successful for tomorrow onwards

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31 August 2021 update

Social media detox on phone successful
Vegetarian lifestyle ( egg allowed) successful
No fap ( Day 1 ) successful
Exercise 30 minutes successful
Walking 30 minutes successful
Reading 30 minutes successful
Practice classical music 15 minutes successful
Keep laptop stationary successful
Eat 10 almonds successful
Hair care successful
Read Srimad Bhagavat Geeta 1 page successful
Restricted laptop usage successful
Cold shower in morning successful
Hot shower in evening successful

Always Thank God for everything ( Jai Sree Krishna )

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1 September 2021 update

Social media detox on phone successful
Vegetarian lifestyle ( egg allowed) successful
No fap ( Day 2 ) successful
Exercise 30 minutes successful
Walking 30 minutes successful
Reading 30 minutes successful
Practice classical music 15 minutes successful
Keep laptop stationary successful
Eat 10 almonds successful
Hair care successful
Read Srimad Bhagavat Geeta 1 page successful
Restricted laptop usage successful
Cold shower in morning successful
Hot shower in evening successful
Pranayama 5 min successful
Meditation 10 min successful

Always Thank God for everything ( Jai Sree Krishna )

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You have done so many things today keep it up

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Thank you @Hyperion for the motivation. I was lazy this morning. Your words started my day😃

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2 September 2021 update

Social media detox on phone successful
Vegetarian lifestyle ( egg allowed) successful
No fap ( Day 3 ) successful
Exercise 30 minutes successful
Walking 30 minutes successful
Reading 30 minutes successful
Practice classical music 15 minutes successful
Keep laptop stationary successful
Eat 10 almonds successful
Hair care successful
Read Srimad Bhagavat Geeta 1 page successful
Restricted laptop usage successful
Cold shower in morning successful
Hot shower in evening successful
Pranayama 5 min successful
Meditation 10 min successful

Always Thank God for everything ( Jai Sree Krishna )

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U r going great…though one suggestion i wanted to give it is ok if u won’t do it…instead of reading one page of bhagwad geeta listen to chant/pronounciation of shlokas any 2 shlokas per day…and try to memorize them through chanting and at the end u will be abke to grasp the crux of those shlokas and also u will be able to apply them when urges come initially it maybe a bit difficult. Also when u will end ur chanting u will see ur surroundings will become very very silent and for atleast 2 minutes or maybe much more than that u will be able to do dhyana/meditation, automatically it will come to u…u can do it before sleeping or on any time u have fixed u can start from the shloma krishna start or any two shloka that u want urself to be remembered or embibe upon…i do it daily and in my early days i also started like u i mean reading a page but i saw i was not able to grasp or implement it in my near life but if it works for u it’s okay don’t waste too muchh time though, 20 mins are enough…so that was a kind suggestion…

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Thank you @Ishant16 for your suggestion. I will be surely thinking about it.