Seeing the situation of most of the people here. Let’s begin a chatting group.
I decided to create a topic like this because I saw many people relapsing because they come to this forum during urges and nobody is there for them. If there are some they are unknown to them. So they could not talk to anyone and choose the wrong track.
Some people have started sexting other people for their dopamine requirements.
Some have quit the forum as nobody gave them a helping hand.
Most important one— During urges generally motivation does not work that’s why we all relapse. During urges it is advised to redirect the brain to do something else that could be timewasting but at least saves your streak and protect you from chaser effect:( lasts for a few weeks) more time wasting.
Feel free to advice for more good changes
RULES.
You can chat about anything, any topic of the world but that must not be triggering. Topics like (no pmo, tourism, science facts, your family, lifestyle, food, situation of life, pets, Intesting facts, motivation, moral stories, reforms and revolutions ( green revolution)) are appreciated. Feel free to chat about other non triggering topics.
You can post any non triggering image or videos ( no pmo, places you want to visit, pet animals, non triggering comedy, moments of life, food, life sciences or anything non triggering.)
You are free to talk to anyone and even post jokes or make fun of him till he does not mention it. Your freedom of speech is very valid till you respect others and their rights as well.
Your country or culture or religion does not matter still you can talk with everyone here.
Definitely join here to keep this topic active most of the time.
Don’t forget to start by giving your introduction ( hobbies, like, dislike, aim, choice of people, ) this will help others to take care of you and to respect you.
Maintain proper discipline here else action could be taken.
Don’t let this topic be inactive.
You can talk about spirituality as well.
We can modify the rules any time:innocent:
Thanks for reading it all. And if you have come this far why don’t you reply with your introduction.
Friends I believe that you all might have heard this story.
In the 19th century. A father has four sons. He wanted to give his property to one son only so he decided to give them a puzzle and whoever solves it will get the entire property.
He gave on his sons a certain amount of rupees and asked them to fill their house which has four rooms with anything but no place in the house should be empty.
One of his son brought foam but it didn’t worked.
Some one brought grains. Some one brought. Grass etc but each of them failed.
The younger son was intelligent he brought four candles and lit the candles in the four rooms and showed his father that now the rooms are completely filled with light.
He won and got all the property.
What would a 21 century son or daughter do…post your answers and answers could vary don’t worry…
There could be more then one answer as well. I have decided mine you tell yours first.
Your answer is also correct…even I also had this in my mind. But another thing which came to my mind was
He will switch on the router and all the rooms will get filled with WiFi since I use wifi to access here…
There could be more answers…I thought most will answer the use of led bulbs.
@Pandeybro Bro ! You mentioned a very good point.
In the 1st Post, that during urges motivation fades at that time you should do something unproductive. I myself found this to be true after experiencing few urges and dealing with them.
But still nothing last in front of strong urge you have to do what you are addicted to more, that’s why I have started playing games that are very addictive .
I uploaded that post of 1000 days in my forum then after 1 or 2 hour, a very strong urge came I was about to see but survived.
Well keep up the good work. Bro
The doors and windows even after closing won’t let the water stay inside for long…(a bit tough thing)
good attempt brother you can think of more like …
He burnt some wood:fire: in all the rooms and filled them with smoke:smoking:.
We are looking for intelligent cheap tricks
Well…i guess the room is already filled with air and mobile signal
Still if being asked to fill it with something for sometime , I will bring my friends there , will party hard there and will fill it with happiness
Brother @nofapstar123 generally the first streak of ours is longer then the subsequent ones. Because we have gained a lot of motivation by watching lots of videos. And we are excited to do no pmo…
Slowly the motivation is lost and we relapse…after few days we start again but loose soon…general case
Because this time we did not recieve a good motivation and also we are not excited as well.
What I want to say is…the during your entire no pmo journey we should keep watching videos related to no pmo specially after relapse…which we do not do.
That’s why we start with half minded…
So therefore it’s just an advice to you and everyone to keep watching no pmo videos or images…to maintain a good pace…you could also repeat a video…
Suppose you are watching Charlie Chaplin shows on YouTube. You forgot the rest world. You forgot no pmo and pmo both. About the end of the show video link pops up for relevent videos in which one of the thumbnails has a naked triggering image:woman:. Seeing this you closed the video at once.
Looked for other videos…then kept it down and went away.
You returned to have a glimpse of what you rejected a while ago. But God is with you, and an urgent piece of work comes and you couldn’t get the glimpse.
The urgent work is done and you are free to do anything.
I am able to control my mind and I consider the scenario in this way:
I want to go to the temple ultimately and have to stay there
Case 1: I directly go there.
Case 2: I will first go there but will change my direction then to Jail.
Resultant: I couldn’t stay in the temple.
If I practice what I do in case 2 more, I will wire my brain to work in that way. i.e. first go to the temple and then to the jail.
The more I do it, the more footprints I make in that direction and my brain will definitely follow just the footprints the next time.
So I make sure the impact of the footprints is more in the direction I want and I need.
I told myself that ------ I’m not here on the earth to take that glimpse. I opened rewire app instead of YouTube after the urge of getting glimpse was gone.
I also reminded me that I’ve spent years doing all this and have got nothing beneficial. Rather it took away my every valuable thing.
And this urge to get a glimpse will persist forever if you loose in front of it. Within all these years of addiction there was always an urge to have a glimpse…
I realized that for me recovery was just a wishful thinking. Time to take some action. I cleaned my laptop’s and phone’s browsing history and bookmarks. I will make a schedule for me using internet. In the evening I will stop using internet. I have a locker with a timer to help me. I installed this app and the count has started. I know I am not living fully and I am going to change it.
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