Fuck, cant believe I relapsed after 17 days. Once again, porn and edging prove there is no point return after you open a porn site and you are isolated, there is just way too much stimulation and dopamine for our dumb brains to handle.
So, we need to treat merely opening a porn site just as we treat relapsing, we need to look at the thought of “lets watch a vid or 2” as “if we do that, we lose, we will relapse, if you open this site, its over”.
Because once you open it, and you start at with a vid or 2, it will quickly be you just brain-deadly looking at thumnails, and than you will find that super hot girl which is just your type, and blow to her pixels, waking up the next day depressed and ashamed. And if you somehow didnt jacked off, you will end up bing watching porn for 4 hours, and than masturbate at your next urge.
So I have some keys that helped me to be succsesfull to almost 100 streak, which is another story. I am not sure this will be something new, but i am sure it will be a good memory refreshing and thought put to words for some of you.
Keys to succeed -
At ALL COSTS avoid porn, as we said, merely opening it is a guarnteed lose, dont OPEN IT.
Opening porn = relapse.
Minimum isolation, espiaclly at night, just go to sleep or something, meditate and release tensions, the worst thing you can do is lying at night, or worse lying at night with your phone.
Start each day with a short mental preparation;
If you know you have a lot of free time at night, be prepared try use it for something usefull.
If u know u tend to relapse at the shower, be prepared and make it short.
If you know you tend to jack after a night at a bar when you didnt got lucky, be prepared, avoid it.
Once you are prepared for those moments, and you dont allow the urge spark to become a flame(key numb 4), you will easily move past them.
Try and identify urges small. See their baby steps toward trying and fucking you up, and kill it.
Dont wait until you are too stimulated, kill and switch the thought once its small, and its just an early stage of urge - “amm maybe ill watch a vid…?” and not a late “ye fuck everything lets watch a vid” urge.
Another early stage classic brain lie is - “maybe i’ll search for a fettish I thought of lately, out of cURiOuSiTy”.
Kill it while its early.
Strong urge? Meditate, Go for a walk, a workout, a cold shower, sit with your family, do SOMETHING, please do SOMETHING. Staying in the same spot, having the same thoughts, will lead you to an hard, sad and miserable relapse.
When it goes down, do SOMETHING.
So I am going up to my next streak, and this is gonna be my highest streak, I will survive those 90+ days until 2021, and further more!
I need this, for myself, my family and my future.
Wishing all of you strength, brothers and
sisters, and that together we will be better human beings!