Re-wire for health question no cumming vs no masterbation

Hello all!,

I am looking for what happens when you don’t cum vs when you stop masterbation. Also if anyone could point me to a peer review journal that surrounds Male ejaculation and cognitive behavior it would be much appreciated.

About my situation:
I have noticed that when I ejaculate I take several days to get energy back. This has been effecting my studies and health. However, I fist started masterbation because I wanted to be more prepared when I first had sex. This is because I heard that women could go long periods of time during sex before cumming. Well long story short I now take 1hour and 30 minutes to cum (via sex or masterbation) my partner can only do maximum 45 minutes (she prefers below 30)before she is to sensitive to have sex anymore. At first I thought I was fine, not cumming every time we had sex, but now I haven’t orgasmed from sex in months and just want to orgasm around the same time as her. I am almost done a week of no cuming (not masterbation) and my energy for acidemia is coming back, also foggy brain is gone. I plan on starting my second week by quitting masterbation all together.

In addition:
Also looking for a low maintenance buddy on here. I want to do more than fix my masterbation problem, I want to understand why it happened in the first place and chart my changes over time in my social, academic, and inner mind life. If anyone wants me to keep track of anything more select, so they can compare it to themselves, let me know.

Best,
Time_To_Change

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Your Cumming problem can be solved by Remaining Celibate for atleast 14 days so that your dick can repair itself.

It happened because of Over Rubbing of penis glans. In short less sensitive penis due to excessive Friction.

Porn can be another reason for this. Over flooding of dopamine, your brain in response cuts out recoptors which leaves you numb.

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Sweet then today is day one of the 14 day trial. Does this include sex ? Or just masterbation?

No Sexual Activity for 14 days.
No sex , No masturbation.
No Porn, No Soft Porn.

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Day 2 down of the nothing at all plan.

Increased focus in acidemia
So far so good, no urges
Only time I touch my member is to take a piss

I used to have the same problem as you: when I masturbated, I would just stay an hour or so touching myself before I would cum at last. It was almost painful and I wasn’t even enjoying it anymore. That’s one reason why I strated NoFap. I can guarantee you, you willwill get your sensitivity bqck it will just take some time WITHOUT ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY. Personally, when I was deep down in the addiction, I would look at really hardcore content which only aroused me a little bit. Now I’ve been doing NoFap for more than 6 months, currently on a 12 days streak and I can yell you that the longer you don’t lasturbate or have sex the more easily you will be aroused : now, I can have an erection just by looking at some random photos or even out of the blue. So just do NoFap as long as you can, and it will have the results you are waiting for. In facrçt, you might even be the first to cum after a few weeks! But if I were you, as long as you have a sex partner, I wouldn’t lasturbate anymore because it ruins the quality of sex : you choose it’s either quality or quantity not both.
Btw, the first week of NoFap is the hardest, especially days 3-4-5, so just stick to it and try to be busy during these days.
Patience will bring you what you need man.
Best of luck on your journey👍

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Thank you, I have yet to have any sexual contact for the past few days I will make it there. My first test day for when I have sex will be in 11 days.

Day 4 done, I am so focused on studying I almost forgot to check in. Best of luck to you and everyone.

Today was day 7 and I had no urges to even look at porn until day 6 when I accidentally watched a movie that had a sexy 10 second clip. Then the urge hit all at once. I held on until today when I just watched porn without touching myself. I think I will be resting my counter since I still spent time doing something as stupid as watching porn. I still plan on trying out sex again in seven days since my partner is kinda pissed that I refused to have sex but understands it’s for the best in the long run. Giving it another shot for the purely no porn lifestyle.

Also I feel as though my feeling is coming back, my dick was throbbing and even the side of my pants was getting me going. In seven days I will be ready to exploded probably. Lol, remember everyone feeling down about falling off the wagon is counter productive, keep yourself happy and up beat, this is a positive change and a positive struggle.

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Be careful with porn. Sure, physical numbness is really annoying and that was your main problem, but there is also mental numbness that can be caused by watching porn. If you really want to have incredible sex, you should also stop watching porn: in sex, both body and mund are involved
Keep going man,
Btw, only two weeks is a bit short, if your gf is upset, try to show her all your efforts to stay faithful to her and show her that you do all this for her sake. She should appreciate it.
Good luck

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Thanks mate, she understands just the timeing was a bit off and for some reason when I am horny she isn’t and when she’s horny I am not. I wonder if there’s a reason why but first step is to get to two weeks without any stimulation whatsoever, then test the results.

Broke today, this time I did cum though. It’s no excuse but my emotions have been up and down, aggressive and passive, are these common withdrawal symptoms. Just to be clear nothing happened it’s just I got extremely irritated over something that never used to bother me and then tried to cool down just with mind meditation and then my friend told me that her family is going to put her dog down. I usually am there for her both physically and emotionally but even though I was saying the right things I could not have given less of a crap, I absolutely did not care and I knew I should have felt like shit for feeling that way but gave absolutely zero fucks. Then I was questioning everything in my life and then a few hours ago I just gave in and was thinking that this was stupid and why did it matter anyway. I woke up from a nap and then all the feelings hit me at once. That was the first time I felt like an emotionless zombie in 6+years, I did not enjoy it whatsoever. Has anyone had anything similar happen to them? Does it end? I really don’t want to have my personality change because of no fap I just want to enjoy sex again. Thank you!

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Then you are on the wrong train man. NoFap is going to change you for the better. Btw, the emotional swings get away if you keep trying for a longer time. This will make an experience for you of how much you feel crap when you relapse. So now you can motivate yourself with this. Just go NoFap for a little longer, you will start seeing the other benefits appearing.
Go go go man🔥

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