I am new here (for few minutes) and i am glad some app like this exists.
I suspect I am perverted cause of porn. I like for example femdom stuffs. But my tastes are weirder and wierder. Egh…
I am starting to have problem in my relationship. I dont like usual sex too much. Fantasies are better…
So, i am perverted cause of porn? Or this is just me? Perverted cause of nature.
I tried no fap a few times. But i relapsed in few days. It was not so important for me. But maybe is this more important that i mean…
So PLEASE, is here anybody with similar story (like femdom stuffs, weird fantasies, edging e.g. 1 per week for 3 hours, no interested too much in sex with partners…)? And REAL experience? Helps no faping to you a lot?
Because… It maybe will cost a lot of effort. Maybe help from GF. And i need know, if its pays off to me. And if this is not some other fanatic nonsense.
I won’t link the sources as I don’t have them by me at the moment but basically the consumption of ■■■■ alters your brain. Your brain changes in a way that makes you crave more ■■■■ and, most importantly, more “extreme” things in ■■■■ so you create a sense of novelty. A brain damaged by ■■■■ usage needs something “new” regularly, otherwise it gets boring. So you might feel “drawn” to more extreme stuff, like a***, p***, whatever dirty thing a sick mind could possibly think of. That’s why in the ■■■■ industry, over the years, the “baseline” of what is “normal” ■■■■ gets more hardcore over time. A woman joining the industry that doesn’t do a*** won’t make it in the industry. Years ago, that was the expection.
It’s important that you realize that feeling drawn to the sick stuff and less drawn to actual human beings is not “you”. It’s your addiction talking here. Keep that in mind. Abstaining will help you become more human again.
Important thing to me is you wrote thats not me. I believe in “abnormal stimul”. I just saw some video (TEDx), this man talk about this…
I didnt know about “physical changes”.
So, i am in. I will try at least 1 month, but propably more, because i am going to read more in this app.
Thanks for document, but my english is not so good. Only writing and reading.
And still will be glad for other similar story to me.
Hey, I’m on day 4 of my current streak, but I’ve done a ton of research on this exact same effect, because i was in this exact same shit too. I had been so much engrossed into porn that I needed new stuff every week or so. It’s just like an addict, starting off on weaker drugs and then moving on to worse substances. Brother, this is not you, infact this isn’t any of us. Our poor brain enslaved by porn has no choice but seek more hardcore stuff because all the dopamine receptors have become desensitised and their numbers have reduced. Those are the physical changes actually happening in the brain.
Also, the prefrontal cortex, the region which controls willpower, gets weaker, and actually becomes smaller and smaller in fappers. This is why it is so fucking hard for real long term fappers, to quit.
There are other many other physical changes in the brain that I don’t know of, but I’m trying to learn as much as possible. I recommend reading “Your Brain On Porn” by Gary Wilson. It’s heavily recomended by many advocates of NoFap. It’s the next on my reading list, and I hope to have more info from it.
Bottom line is, don’t take it too hard on yourself. Self judgement and hate doesn’t do you any good. This is a common enemy all of us are fighting. If you get to the stage of being disgusted by what you see, it’s a good thing. Use it to fight the thing that’s enslaving your brain. Everything else you stated checks out too porn has been scientifically proven to reduce attraction to real women, because the real world or real sex isn’t as colourful as porn makes you believe and the brain doesn’t get as much dopamine from it. Never give up on yourself. Know that we are here to help, anytime you want. We are all in this together, we go through the same shit everyday, and we WILL get through. One day at a time.
I was only interested that this is not any other overacted topic (you know, like Christians).
I tried e.g. paleo / keto diet. Its great, but for long therm is overacted i think.
On the other side, i quit smoking and that was great decision. Porn and fap looks similar.
It seems to be very dangerous for society.
So here i am. I need rescue myself and then i gonna rescue everybody else.
Too many questions… But it will be better to try in my own.
Keep checking this app/forum regularly whenever you feel urges… It might help you to be accountable
Same Things happened to me… But I joined this forum and then various groups are here to help you
@Hit.Neon It’s true, as porn addict you always search for a novelty that gives you a kick to come - and the required dosis gets higher and higher. At the end I was watching mostly videos where girls where whipped real hard, gangbanged, fisted or even laying alien eggs (don’t Google that now) and what not… And I needed 30 mins plus, watching several videos till I found one that made me come.
With my wife in bed I had to force myself to think about such stuff to even being able to come. At the beginning of the year I nearly had a divorce - main reason was a new man.
Now after about 10 days no-fap (I started a bit before I found the app) the benefit is unbelievable already. Even after the first round with my wife I stay rock hard. My wife really turns me on. I feel so much better.
Also I can learn much better (currently leaning for algorithm interviews) - I realized half of the time sitting in my home office I was fapping instead of learning. And I lost all my energy there, making the rest of the time less effective. - Now I recognize that moment where I normally switched to porn (so much easier and immediate benefit compared to learning) and a few minutes later the urge has gone.
But the main reason I think is not PMO, it’s the high speed internet video porn that fucks you off so badly.
So I would say join and stay till you win the battle.
Hey buddy
I face similar problems like u
It’s like femdom cuck and sissy stuffs
Though I have no plan to have sex before marriage
But when I watch porn and mastrubate
I lose the interest to speak to my gf
Which pisses off her and me too and then again i watch and mastrubate
This is just a devil’s cycle to keep addicts addicted
And femdom and all these stuffs are abnormal to me
If u want to know are they normal or abnormal for u
Just think of ur childhood when u used to watch some romantic movie before u started watching porn
What did u think at that time ?
If u were thinking about stuffs like femdom at that time
Then u are in for it
But if not then it’s time for u to come out of this
I’ll tell u I have been researching very much in these topics
It’s like there are only 2 % of women (approx I guess even these 2 percent is more )
Involved in femdom stuffs with their partner
Atleast in india where we are bought up by our mothers watching tv serials which depict love like a taboo so no girl ever wants to be like a femdom 24/7
What we have seen in porn videos and stories
It’s just fictional
Just think
Which wife would want to cuck her husband (exceptional not included )
It’s just that the porn is corrupting every 1 s mind
These stuffs are good for 1 time roleplay but not as a part of life unless this is what both of u agree to
But actually
We can enjoy many stuffs out of these shitty stuffs
So my suggestion is just try to overcome
Which is absolutely possible
I was into these things
But I’m trying nofap from about half a month
And now I hate these things
I feel more good to speak to my gf
I can do multi tasking like study while talking to her which I was not able to do earlier
Bow she cant find out that I’m se studying while talking to her coz I’m giving proper attention to both due to excess mastrubation the thing are near male part had turned black
Now I can see that slowly they are coming to my skin colour
More energy and all
Go for nofap
Hi! Thanks for ans. I have not so much time to be here, because i do stuffs.
I no fap for 5 days. Its small - i did this unknowingly few times before… But now I “know about that”. Thats difference (and little bit harder).
And its great!!!
After that i feel more “normal”. Like this wasnt me, just my perverted part in the past. And i start looking forward to sex with my GF. Maybe I feel greater need to talk with people arround me. And start thinking about girl like no only sexual object (but its harder, cause i like them much more now).
