Hey everyone!
So I’ve been trying to find a good time to approach my younger cousin about PMO. We are very close, basically brothers. We grew up together and I am someone he looks up to.
I’ve been wanting to talk to him about it upfront and just ask the question. I know it would be awkward, but I’ve had deep conversations with him before and have helped him with things before so I know how to navigate it.
However, I think if I were to do it that way, we should be pretty much alone, as I don’t want him to be embarrassed or worried someone is going to overhear. I want him to be able to be completely honest, and not worry about someone else seeing him if he gets emotional (I know at his age I cried when I finally ended up telling my mom).
But that’s the hard part, because it is really hard to get him on his own because I actually have two cousins and we always hang out all together. They come as a pair in most situations, so I can’t exactly leave one out. Plus my other cousin is super nosy and it wouldnt work out. And on top of that, it is hard to find a time where we are not in a public or person-filled room.
So I have considered the idea of just dropping a text, and then following it up with, “call me if you want to talk” or “let’s talk one on one when I see you this weekend”. But I’m not sure if that’s a good idea, if it’s too disconnected.
Additionally, I’m also worried whether i should even say anything at all yet, as I am only 17 days into my streak. I want to be completely clean for him so I can support him and give him the answers he needs. I don’t want it to end up like how I treated it with his brother, where I was no help whatsoever and relapsed sometimes more than him. And now his brother isnt even committed to it as far as I know.
But I also hate to think about him having to struggle with this any longer. Assuming he is into PMO. He’s showing odd behaviors that I did when I started, plus he’s at the age.
Sorry this was a long post to anyone who read all of it. But if anyone has an opinion on what I should do, or has had similar experience in this and wants to share some knowledge, please write below!
Thank you!