Neveragains journal (+the part from the old forum)

Last week wasn’t amazing.
Was sick and hence weak. Relapsed a few times.
But I will be back on track soon.

I feel like reducing computer usage is a huge thing and really difficult for me to do. But if I can manage to not waste my time on the computer I think i will reduce the number of relapses by a huge amount. Most relapses happen because I do unnecessary stuff on the computer instead of doing the things I should or like to do.

The trick with the 6 things on the todo list works really well. I guess I can move that to my accomplishments.

In general, life is becoming really great. I will start another new task. Probably equally large and important as the computer usage. Being more energetic.
I think that if I managed these two things, it could be that I wouldn’t relapse anymore.

Streak: 0 Weeks

Goals:

  • Computer usage

    • Check the Forum only ONCE per day. Only in the evening 30 min before I go to bed
    • use the computer only for work or hobbies. not for time wasting activities
    • Right after coming home go for a quick meditation session.
    • After each meditation think about the next 2 or 3 things you are going to do
    • Again after meditation, think about your next 3 tasks.
  • no porn / no pictures

    • Keep phone at the entrance all the time
  • being more energetic
    this is a new goal. I don’t have it sorted out completely yet. So, figuring out what I wanna do is one part of this weeks challenge. Also, I will just check which things are easier or harder to adopt and then next week I will focus more on this one Sure parts are:

    • waking up earlier at a fixed time
    • letting light in directly after waking up
    • Getting a list of about 3 different possible breakfasts so that I always have an option if I don’t wanna take the one I eat most of the times
    • acting energetic. Do some fast movement exercises, listen to energetic music, imagine an energetic picture
    • going to bed at 11.30 pm every day
  • next things to do (not yet)

    • pomodore technique: study for 30-40min. 5 min break afterwards
    • After something like 3 sessions I spend a 15min break meditating

Accomplishments:

  • I finish one whole task before I start a new one
  • Every evening, write a list of 6 things I need to do the next day and sort them by importance
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thanks for you comment and ideas. I thought a lot about these things before. Some thoughts:

  • keeping myself busy all the time: I don’t think that it is too wise. In a normal life there are times where you are bored, times where you are stressed and everything in between. If I Keep myself completely busy I would just get a new addiction. I would like to be able to handle boredome equally well as stress.
    I try to incorporate a healthy mixture between free time where I also have time to just sit around and times where i work completely focused on my Hobbies or studies. If I have many days in a row where I never have time to sit down and just relax and doing nothing, I start to feel really bad

  • phone only for calls/texting is what I do. Really helps a lot. Typically I have something like 20min Smartphone usage per day. I would go further and would say that you shouldn’t use your Computer for anything which is just time waste. (scanning through Websites, and YouTube just because you don’t have anything better to do)

  • I’m not really a fan of regular gyms. I go climbing 2 or 3 times a week. Since it is a very high intensity Training, the other days of the week are typically rest days.or if I feel well enough I continue my handstand program.

  • Music is a very important part of my life. Listening but also playing the piano

  • It’s an interesting thought about the Body.

In General, during the last weeks i felt, the better my life gets (due to new healthy habits) the easier it gets to control urges.

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The last 10 days worked out really well. I relapsed once. My Laptop got stolen and I was in huge fear. How should I pay for a new one? what about all my data?

Hence, I’m not too hard with myself for this relapse. the other 9 days were amazing. no urges and in general i felt just great.

I’m also wasting way less time on useless activities like browsing through YouTube. But I saw that I have to reduce the number of new goals. I can’t focus on all of them

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Streak: 0 Weeks

Goals:

  • no porn / no pictures

  • Computer usage

    • Check the Forum three times a day. Morning / after lunch / after dinner (it sounds like often but it is already a huge reduction for me)
    • use the computer only for work or hobbies. not for time wasting activities
  • being more energetic
    this is a new goal. I don’t have it sorted out completely yet.

    • at a fixed time every day (8.30am at the Moment)
    • letting light in directly after waking up
    • Getting a list of about 3 different possible breakfasts
  • next things to do (not yet)

    • pomodore technique: study for 30-40min. 5 min break afterwards
    • After something like 3 sessions I spend a 15min break meditating
    • Right after coming home go for a quick meditation session.
    • After each meditation think about the next 2 or 3 things you are going to do
    • waking up earlier until I can wake up at 7am
    • acting energetic. Do some fast movement exercises, listen to energetic music, imagine an energetic Picture
    • going to bed at 11.30 pm every day

Accomplishments:

  • I finish one whole task before I start a new one
  • Every evening, write a list of 6 things I need to do the next day and sort them by importance
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Similar to last week. On most days I feel great. it’s becoming really easy to get a 1 week streak. It’s typically one day per week where I feel down.
It’s typically when I neglected to go out for a walk or didn’t have time for meditation for a few days.

On monday my holidays are over. I think I’m looking forward to it. I feel much better if I have a well defined schedule for the day. So, maybe I will be able to make my next huge nofap leap.
So far, It feels good. I feel like I’m on the right track.
I have to take it day after day.

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Streak: 1 Weeks

Goals:

  • no porn / no pictures

  • Computer usage

    • keep the phone at one defined spot in the house. Don’t carry it with you to every place.
    • Don’t answer in any forum topic except my diary and the new guide. Every time I reply somewhere I feel like I have to check if someone answered or liked.
    • use the computer only for work or hobbies. not for time wasting activities
  • being more energetic
    this is a new goal. I don’t have it sorted out completely yet.

    • at a fixed time every day (8.30am at the Moment)
    • letting light in directly after waking up
    • Getting a list of about 3 different possible breakfasts
  • next things to do (not yet)

    • pomodore technique: study for 30-40min. 5 min break afterwards
    • After something like 3 sessions I spend a 15min break meditating
    • Right after coming home go for a quick meditation session.
    • After each meditation think about the next 2 or 3 things you are going to do
    • waking up earlier until I can wake up at 7am
    • acting energetic. Do some fast movement exercises, listen to energetic music, imagine an energetic Picture
    • going to bed at 11.30 pm every day

Accomplishments:

  • I finish one whole task before I start a new one
  • Every evening, write a list of 6 things I need to do the next day and sort them by importance
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Thanks for this.
I like how you organise your thoughts and time.
That last point about making a list in the evening for the next day is an obvious but great point / practice.

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damn relaps.
what was wrong?
everything was pretty much perfect until 9pm.
came home and forgot to place my phone in the living room. i then watched football but really half hearted. i got bored and instead of turning off i took my phone.

so two things stick better to your rules for new habits and learn to turn off tv if bored which relates to mindfulness

sorry guys for falling before my goal. but i’m getting better and stronger

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Reached about 8 days this time.
What could I have done better? I thought that I have a lot to do. Things I didn’t wanna do. I knew I should have gone for a walk but I didn’t because I thought I don’t have the time for that. Instead I wasted 1hr with computer games and 2 with porn. -> It would have been worth going out for a walk.

Besides that, I feared that the thoughts that hit me today wouldn’t go away. I wanted the clean feeling I had during the first 7 days back.

But now I also know how bad this habit is for me.
I have huge troubles with my stomach (often after eating I feel like I have to vomit). And now I think i have the prove that a lot of it comes from tension and stress. let it be real stress like exams or tension for example during edging. I ate something after my relapse and I feel like I have to vomit. So, doing nofap could also improve my stomach situation. I should always keep that in mind. I struggled with my digestive system for so long without knowing what it is. Now, I could have the solution for it. I just have to commit. Next time remember what feels better: The instantaneous pleasure or having a healthy stomach all the time?

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Streak: 0 Weeks

starting two new goals this time. I really like to keep my phone in one place, helps me a lot to forget it and all the porn i have accessible there.
Also I like the rule to not answer on any post except this and the guide. I think I did cut down my forum usage.

Goals:

  • no porn / no pictures

  • Computer usage

    • keep the phone at one defined spot in the house. Don’t carry it with you to every place.
    • Don’t answer in any forum topic except my diary and the new guide. Every time I reply somewhere I feel like I have to check if someone answered or liked.
    • Before using the computer, write down what I will do with it, for how long and what I will do afterwards. Hence, i wanna allow myself to play games and go to youtube, but only if I’m aware of it. So it could look like: Playing game xyz, 30min, homework afterwards
  • After coming home, sit on the couch for at least 15 min and do something relaxing (without phone or computer)

  • being more energetic
    this is a new goal. I don’t have it sorted out completely yet.

    • at a fixed time every day (8.30am at the Moment)
    • letting light in directly after waking up
    • Getting a list of about 3 different possible breakfasts
  • next things to do (not yet)

    • pomodore technique: study for 30-40min. 5 min break afterwards
    • After something like 3 sessions I spend a 15min break meditating
    • Right after coming home go for a quick meditation session.
    • After each meditation think about the next 2 or 3 things you are going to do
    • waking up earlier until I can wake up at 7am
    • acting energetic. Do some fast movement exercises, listen to energetic music, imagine an energetic Picture
    • going to bed at 11.30 pm every day

Accomplishments:

  • I finish one whole task before I start a new one
  • Every evening, write a list of 6 things I need to do the next day and sort them by importance
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I think this will be a longer entry.

For the last 4 months I focused on improving my life. And hell yea, it did.
My theory worked and I can now easily have a week without a single urge. I am extremely happy most of the time, I have a good work-life-balance, I’m interacting more with people and care less about the opinion of others about me (I don’t have to show off all the time).
But also for the last 3 months I always relapsed after 6-8 days. never before and never after.

Here is how it always goes:

  • 6 days without a single urge. Feeling great
  • Day 7: Feeling a bit uncomfortable -> I start playing computer games or watch youtube.
    I pre-relapse. Either watching hot youtube videos or even opening porn. But something in my head is resisting. Knowing that I shouldn’t and I close them again.
  • Next day urges come again, same opening hot youtube videos and resisting it. But at some point something inside snaps and I realize that I relapsed. I don’t resist the temptation anymore and fully relapse.

and the whole journey repeats.

The problem is, that I forgot how to resist my urges, since I have them so rarely. And basically as soon as I have them, I just give in.

So, that is what I wanna learn again.
What I’m currently trying is that I won’t snap. I will always resist the temptation. Even if I watched porn for 1hr I won’t admit that I relapsed and that I lost. Quitting a porn after an hour is still better than quitting after 2 hrs. As long as I’m not accepting a relapse I will not binge and not orgasm. This now leads to almost daily urges. And with that, I have many opportunities to learn to life with them. It will give me more experience and knowledge

This is how the last 5 days worked out:
Tuesday: I briefly watched hot youtube
Wednesday: Resisted every single urge and manage to not use my computer or smartphone at all! (Only for whatsapp and email)
Thursday: Again 10min of hot youtube
Friday and Saturday: no computer at all
Today: Huge binging of porn.

But I don’t give up. I won’t cum and give in to the temptation. I know that if I give in, I again won’t have any urges for a week. But I will never learn how to resist.

10 days ago I started a 30-day meditation program from Headspace “Urges and cravings” which is absolutely amazing and basically shows you how you can note urges, you see them, accept them and refocus your mind on the previous task.

I think this is what will lead me to the next step. Once I’m able to resist the occasional urges I will come so much farther.
(it’s not really fighting an urges but noting it and refocus, because as soon as you start a fight you are doomed to loose. You can’t fight a temptation. The more you resist the harder it hits you.)

My goal is to not use my computer again. (Only thing allowed is Email, whatsapp, google for studies and maybe web-radio and Lastweektonight). Hence no computer games, no twitch, no youtube
I will probably write down each day how well it went just to get some long-term-control.

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I’m completely on the ground. I can’t do it anymore. I tried so much. Tried so hard. I talked with my girlfriend about my addiction, gave advice to everyone else. I feel amazing during times without urges and relapse as soon as I have them. I’m trapped in this habit. My life improved so much and still, my addiction is as strong as on day 0.

I just don’t know what to do. For the first time in my life I fail, and I can’t do anything about it. I hate myself. I hate myself to cheating over and over again. This moment after a relapse, when you sit there, you know that you just wasted 3hrs and the deadlines for my studies came even further. I know that I put so much stress on my intestines that I won’t be able to eat a normal amount the next days without feeling horrible. The knowledge, that my brain tricked my one more time. In the same way as it did last time, and the time before, and all the 100 times before that.

It feels so pointless. Sure, my rational mind came back after relapsing, telling that this was the last time, it won’t happen again because next time I will be strong. But I don’t believe this voice anymore. It always just tells me what i wanna hear. It feels so pointless to set goals for tomorrow because I know, either they will work out perfectly because my porn-mind stays quiet or it won’t work out at all because my porn-mind tells me what to do.

I came to the conclusion, that professional help is the only way I can get out of this whole mess. I’m too deep in it and can see now way out. There is no way which I can go alone. Luckily, in two weeks I have an appointment with a psychologist because of my problems with the intestines (stress induced). This will be the chance to meet a therapist without my parents knowing the true reason.

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There is one last thing i’ve never tried. I always hated this method and thought it stupid because it doesn’t reflect a normal day.
But I know that my life is good enough. It is amazing. I improved in every possible view. I don’t need the addiction anymore. The problem is, that it is an extremely strong habit. It is something my mind thinks is normal.

The next two weeks I will try the last thing I haven’t tried.
I will write a time table each evening for the next day. I will plane it through and through and not let any time undefined. This could show my mind what to do in the times where it doesn’t function rational.

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The problem is, the relapse doesn’t start the moment where you open a porn or start to jerk off. A relapse starts way earlier.
It’s the moment where you start a youtube tab without wanting to.
The moment where you think, I will just play some music on youtube during my dinner.
The moment where you take the phone to the bathroom because you wanna finish an interesting show you are watching

There is this moment where my mind starts to sell irrational things as rational. It absolutely makes sense to take the phone to the bath right now. I know that usually I shouldn’t but this time is different. What happens if you are on the toilet and the show ends? Since you are on the toilet and you have nothing better to do it only makes sense to start a new show.
And so on.
My problem is not so much about porn. Porn is where it leads to. I have to cut these irrational thought chains. I have to learn to make rational decisions which make objectively sense

Arrrgh man!
You need to stop doing what you think is rational, seriously. Forget all nonsense about rationality, relapses and Black & White thinking.

You might say “how do I act irrational?” :roll_eyes:
“Do something crazy, like crap on the floor?” :face_with_raised_eyebrow:

And so this kind of rationalising carries on, and on, and on. The mind taking control, deconstructing everything.

Yes, you need to do the thing you never do.
That’s something worth rationalising.

When was the last time you did something you’ve never done?

Sometimes I’ll purposefully be messy just to teach my mind a lesson, and say “why not?”
“I am the boss”
Don’t argue. I’m making a choice.
“Mr.Mind, go and sit over there,
Mrs.Active-Choices is taking charge today”


Use K9, only Google, making loads of blocks to search engines, make a forgettable password and hide it somewhere, I’m doing this at the moment.

Since now having a studio setup with a new PC, from just having a smartphone and a laptop on temperamental wifi, it’s obvious the more restrictions you have the better without a shred of doubt.

It’s so easy for me to get hooked since the change, and now with the added bonus of a nice big monitor (that I actually don’t need)
The novelty of it really takes a hold. It couldn’t be more obvious, I was better off sitting on my bed looking at ■■■■ on my phone, watching my data usage decrease, struggling with WiFi, having to declutter cookies and the like, instead of having mental battles, using up my attention.
Yes, I’d rather my data usage was depleted on ■■■■, instead of spending my vibrancy on a hidden personal fight, that conflates natural sexual desire with simple indecisiveness.


Forget what you currently think the habit is;
Do I actually consent to let novelty (that part of my mind that is curious) take control?
Really?..?
Dominated by nihilistic thinking?

By that I mean, the lazy, life-is-easy state that leads to a “what’s the point?” mindset.
“does is it matter?”
If so, you might as well admit ;
“situations are my master”
“My decisions are of no value” :skull_and_crossbones:


All these Mental cognitions,
“this time, I’ll do it” :fist:
“if only I do xyz” :muscle:
“I need to make a new plan” :nerd_face: yada yada…

Put it all in a basket and burn it :fire:

Actions speak louder.

You are not just your mind.

When your thoughts, feelings and actions start to agree with each other you’ll be laughing.

caring for your well-being.
“■■■■, Insta, x Youtube vids?
Why the f*@k do I wanna look at that?”
:roll_eyes:

Stop going to your thinking, neglecting simple actions, and how you truly deeply feel in your heart of hearts.

Stop arguing, your mind trying to take president over the whole situation yet again.


Good on you for seeking a therapist.
A leap of faith into the unknown, or simply just going on autopilot!


So currently I have an easy password for k9, just while I unemotionally sit back, take it slowly, and add those little gateways, one by one, to be blocked. No search engines, just Google.

I don’t know what I did, but it’s impossible to see anything x rated in Google since messing about with SafeSearch, even when I try to turn it off, it’s still on, so I just resort to duckduckgo, or download Tor (both now a blocked in k9)
[Leaving the face your fear debate aside]


YouTube is always gonna be a gateway.

Forget NF, but Focus all of your energy and all of your might on YouTube and the Internet.
Your boredom and Youtube usage need serious addressing.

Actually ask yourself serious questions about it.

“what am I actually watching?”…
“what’s it’s true value?”…
“why? why? why?”…
Be brutal with yourself.
Brutal like you are with NF.

“Can I actually give it up for 60, 30, or even 5 days?”… ???

Instead of responding, sit back and look at what’s going on as a 3rd party.

You’ll probably find the moment coming when the thoughts say… “oh, but its the habit…” etcetera

Quickly followed by your ideas, and your mind getting booted up, making up BS, having a field day, literally taking the piss out of you.
Dominated once again by your mind in all situations. A slave to your surroundings.
Nothing timelessly true.

Ask yourself…
“Errrr, excuse me, What’s going on?
Is this actually helping? Or is useful?”

Perhaps you are just bored, and enjoy the mental journey, as most do.
The mind yearning to solve problems, even creating them, just to be No.1

Leave it. You’re mind is not gonna save you.
You ARE fine as you are. Leave it.

“Oh what a kill joy” :roll_eyes::smile:

“I want mental activity,…
without my mind I can’t win”

Okay, good luck with that.

Stuff WILL fix itself once you allow it.
Over feeding the plants will drown them.

Concentrate on loving now.
Tomorrow will sort itself.
It always does and always will.

There’s nothing to fix, your mind is a tool.
You don’t need your Philips screwdriver every second, but when a few screws need tightening.

Why not join my Daily Check-in diary?
just to keep committed and active here, without a need to start making up or listing problems, though you can, and I think many will benefit from your pragmatism.


If your life is so good, why aren’t you concerning yourself more often with helping others on a daily basis, rather than being idleminded messing about on YouTube to avoid boredom?
Do you cook? Clean? Do the shopping? Volunteer? Pick up dog poo?
Ask how can you offer your help?
Or even think about how you can aid others?


You know the things you’ve gotta be getting on with.
You know to brush your teeth,
Do your studies, keep the tank topped up :fuelpump:etcetera.

Love what you are doing.
If you’re not loving, what is going on?
Without love, it’s one-sided.

Keep your thoughts hovering over the ultimate goals, aiming for something of value in your life, something you’d like to be and do.

What kind of person do you actually want to be?
What do you think an awesome person looks like?


Don’t waste time on sitting on the fence, waiting to have a debate or become slothful when your mind wonders.
Make that choice. Make a decision.
Emotions, arguments, chattering mind on the shelf.

Honour your choice,
Make those harsh restrictions, no loftiness.
Habits will die hard! (end of story)

We ALL know; start meditating amongst many other things. But is the meditation actually helping to go any deeper? calming the mind?
Or is it just fruitless routine?


Let go of outcomes, gladly accept failure.

Stop wanting, start rejoicing in possibilities.

Don’t you want to be that cool guy that is like ;
“■■■■?.. Nah, it’s not my cup of tea”


Challenge yourself to give up YouTube.
And don’t be so organised.
Have a poo in the kitchen or something :poop::joy:
Or put salt in someone’s coffee.
Do something stupid.
Why not? It’s not gonna kill you.

Peace

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Your mind is not your body. You can still stop your thoughts before acting on them. They will keep appearing, but you can stop them by distracting yourself.

Do what you should do, fill your routine, do everything what you can to not worrying about recovery.

Good luck, stay strong and keep grinding!

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Thanks a lot!! Your message helped me a lot and got new energy and motivation. Found the drive to go forward and continue my progress.

@anon67854825 You comment is amazing. It is spot on.
It helped me a lot to show what i do wrong. You are right, that I have to DO things differently and just acting the way I wanna. My plans can be nifty and perfect but there is no use if I don’t act differently.

Often times, I know what my plan is. But I think c’mon, I will watch youtube one last time. I know that it let to the last relapse but this time will be different. why should it? A plan sounds like restrains. Thoughts like “just one last time” will come up. During the last 4 days I sometimes saw what you mean. A thought like “you always eat in your room, while watching youtube or doing something else, just do it like you always do it”. But some voice was like "F… it. This time you will do it completely different. Why not? This happened a few times and it felt amazing to do things differently. Not because I had a plan or set a rule but just because I felt like it

This one is so true but I never realized it. All the past years, I learned to be really good at making planes but not implementing them. Just discarding them as soon as it got tough. The last 1.5 years showed that this mentality doesn’t lead anywhere. I just have to actually DO the things differently

That’s the work of K9. It locks safe search. (I think there is an option somewhere within K9 where you can tick “lock safe search”

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The trick with removing all topics from the forum works really well. I’m spending so much less time here in the forum which feels really good. During the last 30 days I spend 3h here which I think is pretty good. before, that could have been a single day.

Right now, the exam period started again. I can feel that I have to get a good schedule again. A good balance between doing personal stuff and learning. And not wasting time on the internet.
Somehow I really have to manage to stop my internet usage. There are two different situations with completely different thoughts

  • I wanna go to youtube and watch last week tonight because I really like the show
  • I wanna go to youtube, once there I see that last week tonight is online and I watch it

Until a few days ago I didn’t made a difference between them because in the end, I do something good on youtube. But the difference is enormous.
In the second one, I only wanna flee into the digital world. It doesn’t matter what I watch. If it is a show, a documentation, a porn. I don’t care.

Currently I’m trying to counter these thoughts. The thing is, if I think, “no, i don’t go to youtube” my mind answers “okay, lets go to twitch”. I resist. It answers “you are a good one. you resist the temptation. watch some porn” and after enough time I give in to anyone of them.

Right as I’m writing this, I realize my mistake. I think “no, i don’t watch youtube” instead of “Youtube is nice, but why not ready a book? or going outside since the weather is amazing? or playing the piano?”
You can’t resist a thought. But you can guide them in a different direction if you have a good alternative

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Usually, I would write all this into my personal diary since it will get way too long. but I don’t have that with me at the moment.

The last two weeks were horrible. Tomorrow will be my first exam of the last semester. It is the hardest one and additionally the topic where I’m least interested in (and i’m bad at it). This really gave me panic and hence I watched porn all the time. I masturbated twice a day for the last two weeks. Since then, I calmed down a lot but still, I’m doing it every single day. I feel absolutely horrible

I mustn’t continue like that or I will have fapped by brain out of my body till the end of next month. I still feel, that it is less an addiction and more a coping mechanism. If I compare it to my computer addiction i had:
There, I got angry every single moment where I wasn’t able to play games. During the day, my thoughts curved around games. If I got interrupted on my way home I freaked completely out since it took away precious gaming minutes.
That’s not the case at the moment. During the day, I don’t think about porn or masturbation. I don’t get triggered by anything. If I see boobs, I just think “nice” and move on. My thoughts don’t linger or anything.

It’s almost always an acting out of an impulse. The extremely strong habit of acting in a certain way. And once, a computer game, youtube or a porn site is opened, the hormones will lead to the rest.

Another thing is, that I like to make plans and hate to stick to them. After every single relapse I think about a new plan, a new way to do it. That’s also something why I should remember Aoshigreens comment better. It’s dead simple. Make one good plan and just stick to it! Get out of this fucking habit of doing it always the same. I know what my plan should be. It involves doing things differently in a few situations.
Also, just because it doesn’t work all the time doesn’t mean that I need a new plan. So, here it is. Nothing fancy, nothing elaborate. A dead simple way and I just have to stick to it.

Every evening, plan your day through and stick to it. The problem is not so much what I do, it’s the transition between tasks. For example, when I learned for 2hrs and then wanna make a longer break. It’s these moments where I get an impulse to do the wrong things.

My plan could look something like:
08:30 morning routine
09:30 studying for 2hrs (with short water breaks in between)
11:30 prepare lunch
after lunch free time until 14:00 (free time means, I can do any of my hobbies)
and so on.
Other activities could be relaxation (including nap, headspace, going out for a walk)
or technology (gaming or TV)

The idea behind that is to bridge this moment between two activities and preventing me from doing something out of an impulse. I don’t care whether I go reading, playing the piano or draw something but it is important that I know that I focus on work until time x and after that I will do something like y.

Over the months I always came back to a method like this in different forms. And so far, this is the most promising as long as I stick to it. So, no new plans, new rules or what so ever. I stick to this until I really find a flaw in the plan which I will then fix.

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