I finally have time to answer. Thanks a lot for all the comments!
This is the thing I really feared will happen. I think it is very important to make clear where this addiction is coming from. When did it start and what was the reason.
Also showing her that I have a plan. That I work hard on this and that I really wanna quit.
complete agree with that. When I told her, we talked for about 2hrs. Also this weekend I started again to talk with her about it. I felt that there is tension. Not between us but inside her. I guess another huge problems is that she asks herself why I didn’t told her earlier and she blames herself for not being able to figure out that I have such a huge problem. Talking really is the key.
For everyone who wants to tell it his girlfriend: Don’t just toss it at her and leave her alone with it!
So true. Nothing is harder than having to tell her that I relapsed again. I guess once I have urges again, this will be the thing that keeps me from relapsing.
Also, I think that it is important that she knows that we still can relapse and that we can tell her that.
I know that all too well
It just seems to be a never ending task After my first long streak I realized how many problems there are inside. So, I partially quit this nofap journey (or at least it wasn’t my main concern) for some months and focused on the other problems. It’s just so hard to fix your brain and habits. i really have to learn to relax more. (working efficiently for some hours then relax to be efficient again the next day -> having a healthy balance. Currently I have a black or white way of thinking. During the exams I mustn’t do anything but learning. Now I have holidays and I mustn’t do anything for school. Sure, it does sound really stupid but that’s how my brain worked for so many years. But I’m really close to fix this way of thinking).
It’s also one of my main goals in this forum to raise awareness to the deeper problems, which is sometimes hard since it seems that many are just focused on powering through their urges. I just don’t believe that it is possible to quit this addiction only by not fapping for a certain time.
It’s great to see that there are people around with the same problems and the same experiences. It shows me that I am on the right track.
@Veritas312 thanks a lot. I’m glad when I can help others to maybe make their journey a little bit shorter or easier