I looked at porn and fapped all week! Last night I got into a huge fight with my fiance and I was talking to her about how I am not capable of quitting and telling her we should break up. I’m lost right now. We didn’t wind up breaking up but it was too close! I find I don’t care anymore and I feel like porn has finally destroyed me emotionally inside. Guys I need help! Please
Hey there my friend below is from another user it help me alot, find out the triggers mine are usually fighting with my girlfriend or drinking, depression,bored keeping your brain active also helps. goodluck
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This is one of the hardest addiction to get rid of. Before I had my girlfriend I always thought that it is normal and that it will go away as soon as I have girlfriend. But that is not the case since this is an addiction!
- You have to figure out why you are doing it (you are probably not doing it just because it feels good because most often it feels horrible)
- When/Where are you doing it
With these two points you can create a strategy of avoiding triggers and working on your problems. But it takes a lot of time and effort.
No one is weak because he fails. The only one who is weak is the one who doesn’t stand up again.
I relapsed countless times but each time you can learn from your relapse and you can get better.
I wish you all the strength needed!
(meditation is always a good starting point)
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(I looked at porn and fapped all week!)
Yeah, that sucks, but it happens.
(Last night I got into a huge fight with my fiance and I was talking to her about how I am not capable of quitting and telling her we should break up.)
This sounds very emotionally charged to me (?)
(Being uncapable) are you saying it out of something else other than the unbiased truth?
Nobody knows what they’re capable of, and I’ve had my fair share of extreme dark moments and rebirths.
(Break up? But, was too close?)
This really sounds like self sabotage, and I can see why you think you might not care, but it is surface-level-talk, and I wouldn’t be making decisions with that kind of mindset.
You certainly aren’t emotionally dead inside, but sound like (from my experience) have other things other than Fap/NoFap going on in your life, and it wouldn’t go a miss to start reading into some psychology, seek a therapist, start practicing mindfulness through meditation, Tai Chi, daily prayer, exercise, long walks.
The best advice I could give would be;
Find more quiet time just for yourself.
For at least a week you need to avoid triggers, mental triggers that might get you worked up and cause any mental conflict.
It’s more important that you detox your mind for a period of time, so you can give your mind some time to rest and become clearer again.
No fights, No debates, just chill as much as possible.
You don’t need to try and fix anything right away. Now is not the time.
Put all your thoughts, ideas and emotions on the shelf for a bit, and return to them at a later date.
Get away from devices as much as possible, but make sure to keep popping into this app.
There’s no harm in being narrow-minded and avoiding difficulties.
Make a plan and stick to it.
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Thanks guys that means a lot!
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No bro don’t give up. Firstly you should find out that when you watch the porn as i am on day 21 i was watching it when i was alone in my room and use my smartphone upto 1am and then masturbate and go to sleep now i dont use my smartphone that much and started to watch TVs season, go to sleep early and wake up early. Secondly dont be alone try to give your time to your girlfriend and when you are alone and you have urge to watch go for a walk as i am jobless for the past 4 months i am using samsung health app chalenge my friends for 15k to 20k steps. The point is i walk alot now and spend time with my family and friend because of this i have maintain my streak…
Hope that you will overcome it. Thanks.
Sorry if there is any gramatical mistake my english is not that good. Peace
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