I am a newbie here and today was my 4th day on streak
today i went to school after many days and after coming back i was studying (as my exam is on the day after tomorrow) later on i just started talking about my streak with my friend on whatsapp and i told him that how horny i was feeling but i am on a streak. he told me to masturbate but i boldly said i wont but after just few minutes my hands almost on their own searched for porn eventhough my mind was saying to stop but i couldnt (I assume i felt horny because probably i saw girls at school after many days and i have a crush on some girls as well and also my friend shared an image of a girl in manga which aroused me more)
Can you tell me in my scenario what could have gone wrong as in past 3 days i didnt felt like masturbating for even a single time but suddenly?
and where should i work on and what to do to avoid this?
You were badly triggered. If you didn’t feel sexually aroused for 3 days then you were going in the right path. Lust never leaves our body as it is a human attribute, even if you abstain for 40 years. Triggers will work on even the greatest of Brahmacharis , let alone newbies like you and me. Do not communicate your sexual thoughts with your friends as most people don’t realize the significance of a path of discipline(because above all nofap is an act of discipline). Also don’t watch other girls in your school with sexual thoughts in your mind. I also have crush on a girl for 4 years but never ever even once did I think about her sexually. U want to ask something more?
Oh boy , you are too young so its so difficult to control urges . Best of luck
Thanks brother for ur valuable advice
But the thing is i dont want to think about them sexually but somehow my mind automatically starts developing fantasies how to control them?
Apart from this i wanted to know Whats your longest streak ?
how much time and how many relapses did it take you to reach there?
And what to do at that “peak” moment when the urges are very strong like inevitable to resist what to do at that time?
I am sharing a post I had written
Sexual urges and desires are like fire. You can never suppress fire , nor can you control it. It will burn your hands and spread more and more. If we do not realize the danger and keep feeding it fuel it will increase even more. However can you not extinguish fire ? Pour water over it and extinguish it while it is still small. The core nucleus of the bonfire if disturbed the fire doesn’t burn for long. This is what I have learnt in the last 25 days. In the last 1 year I have tried NoFap many times. Tried to suppress my urges to watch porn and masturbate forcefully. The result had been relapsing again and again. And even when the streak was a week long(which had been my maximum before this) I grew restless, feeling the fire in my groins and genitals burning me from inside out. Such is the power of sexual fire. However this time I tried something new. I desensitized myself about sexual thoughts. They don’t excite me anymore. They dont cause erections in me anymore. and even when I have erections I no more feel the fire in my sexual organ. No more urges to masturbate. How I did desensitized myself:-
1)Keep a feeling of disgust about sex in your mind . Even the thought of something sexual will cause a feeling of nausea.
2) Keep yourselves a hell busy. My exams are in the month of April. The thought of doing sums excites me more than the idea of watching porn, masturbating or even truly exciting activities like going out with friends. Such is the power of staying busy.
3)Never feel superior to anyone else regarding Nofap. We are not doing something superior than others here. We were derailed from our ideals of life, we followed the path of indiscipline, we are now just getting back on track. Good day to you. Dont suppress , only extinguish. Because when you suppress a disease it may come back in a stronger form . You just have to throw it out of your body AT ONCE. How to do it? I just mentioned it above.
While fantasizing think if someone(some other man,outsider) fantasized like that about any of your female relatives. You will feel like vomiting and the urge will go away. Read my post and you will understand it better
My current streak is 25.
And what to do at that “peak” moment when the urges are very strong like inevitable to resist what to do at
Chant the name of Lord Krishna. If you have love in your heart for any girl then you can nurture it. No one is stopping you from that. I won’t say that lust is a sin and all that stuff. Lust is not a sin. However in the teenage puberty period when the hormones are raging and urges are strong and even masturbation by fantasizing about girls can be considered normal. It is biological. I have seen my friends fantasize a lot. HOWEVER if at this stage of life you learn how to control that urge to masturbate, to watch porn and to fantasize, then you will be nurturing self discipline and control within yourself which will last all your life and it will change your outlook towards girls. Where in our country feminine forms of goddesses are worshipped. And even if you are unable to see girls in your school as sisters(which is difficult I admit) appreciate their BEAUTY, NOT HOW SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE THEY ARE. Hope yoh understand the difference. If u want to ask anything else yoh may do it.
All the things you’ve mentioned here called triggers.
Stay the fuck away from triggers.
In your case your triggers are:
- Your friend
- The girl you saw in school
- The conversation
- The image you’ve been shown.
Stay away from these or you’ll keep fighting with urges and end up relapsing.
@SattwikGhosh ghosh has explained quite well as well. Extinguish the fire.
Well , don’t talk about your streak with anyone who doesn’t support the concept of no fap
Got you
Thank you sattwik from the core of my heart
You dont know how helpful this was for me
I got you. I need to stop this at once by simply extingushing the fire otherwise if i will try to supress it by stopping urges or staying away from triggers it will lead me to frequent relapses
Makes sense!
Thanks now i have a path to follow
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