Hello out there,
I need your advice and your thoughts on my problem.
Please excuse my English, it is not my first language.
My problem is: I am 21 (male) and still a virgin.
I have never really been in a relationship, kissed a girl or had sex.
Now I am at a point where I am really frustated because of my virginity.
I don’t understand it.
I will tell you something about my life:
-I am studying at a university right now.
-I am studying interesting subjects
-I play in two bands as a drummer
-i work hard on my goals every day
-I am learning multiple languages
-I am intelligent and interested
-I travelled a lot
-I don’t take drugs
-I am disciplined
-I wake up early every day
-I once reached 365 days of NoFap until I relapsed
-I still do NoFap
-I have great friends
-I also have a lot of female friends
-I am always nice to women
-I laugh much
-I love dancing in discos etc.
But also, i am very very hard to myself.
i don’t understand, why I NEVER EVER managed to get a girlfriend even though I have a good social life and social skills?!
In general, I am confident when it comes to talking and approaching people.
But when it comes to my sexual interest/ desire I have for certain women, I am shy and insecure as hell. When I want to really have a relationship with a girl I fail to show my physical interest.
I never had more than one date with the same women.
Women always consider myself as a nice friend, but nothing more.
It frustrates me.
I set myself under pressure because of this.
I feel ashamed for being a virgin at 21 years.
i want to change this but I DON’T KNOW HOW!!
Please, are there any men or women here that can help me and give me advice??
Or did you experienced a similar situation in your life?
Please, I need your help, I don’t know what to do…
P.S.: We are a great community!