This is how it’s been going for me yesterday. Tommorow I will explain more about how it went for me today as day 5
Check in day 34
Daily task
- Meditation
- Watched motivational video
- Exercise
- Study
- No trigger from screen
Yes I know the post relapse emotional roller coaster. I’m experiencing it now a days. It’s a dangerous thing to mental health.
Realization
I realized I’m dealing with a 12 year long addiction. It took me 12 years to Make it this strong. I can never break free from ordinary measures. I must employ extra ordinary measures and make drastic changes to succeed. I’m beginning to see what it will really take to break free.
Keep trying brother, you will win one day …
24 January check-in
Day 73
No urges
Couldn’t do anything as i was deeply busy in something else
So hope from tomorrow i will start
I think i need to set with myself for a while
To know where i am going in my life and see how will i react to the new era
Also i want to renew my eagerness
As i have lost inspiration in my academic study
And thank you for your support
Restarting my check in cause i endup fapping at day 33
Check in day 1
Im going to reach 90 day streak
Daily task
- Meditation
- Watched motivational video
- Exercise
- Study
- No trigger from screen
Just completed 2 days and yeah going on the journey .
Did Yoga today ( and yesterday as well ).
Didn’t study .
But yeah I’ll not give up come what may .
Come tomorrow with great fire and energy .
I felt an emptiness this morning and that caused a relapse.
Search for the reason and eliminate it
It’s as simple as these words believe me bro
25 January check-in
Day 74
Some urges
Didn’t do much in this day
Just some exercise
The whole day i was busy in another things
The reason for the emptiness was a lack of dopamine. I had felt anger and annoyed and anxious the night before.
Then after 7 hours of sleep, I was looking for a dopamine fullfilment.
Sorry guys i failed.Same reason for failure.Instant
Happiness of doing that bcoz of dopamine
I was sick yesterday so I will changed my no-fap.
Day 5 no-fap. Its been alright. Don’t worry I haven’t fapped.
I will do the no-fap like always on day 6 and I mean my checkings.
I feel like I’m a totally different personality before and after a relapse. Before relapse, I want to lust. I feel no guilt or shame. After relapse, all I feel is guilt and shame.
This other person inside me, this person’s wants to lust, the only way is to weaken him by not listening to him. I should let the other person more control. Soon it will grow stronger and my life would be happy.
Day 3. Completed my working workout. After my job i will hit the gym and i will spoil myself with some books🔥
There’re some points which I have observed and tried in the past and following nowadays as well [ you might have read them somewhere as well so take them as reminders ] -
• Attach a reward and punishment system to your new habit
For ex - U might have decided to exercise regularly but you end up doing it for a week only now here , don’t beat up yourself think in this way - oo…i went for a week not for a day or a couple of days only but for a week god 7 days !! , means I can go for 15 days as well ( the key is make your achievement of going for a week as big as possible in your mind and then give yourself a reward for it )
The reward can be a piece or two of chips or a piece of chocolate or scrolling through insta or watching an episode of your favourite webseries and on the day when u didn’t do so , punish yourself by not giving the reward .
{ We criticise ourselves a lot but rarely validate or appreciate ourselves ; give yourself that appreciation because you deserve it . )
• Do ‘Chin Lock’ - a yogic practice which is very helpful in breaking an addiction . It gives you instant gratification naturally . You can follow up the Chin Lock with Bee Breath or the Brahmari Pranayama if you wish so ( trust me you will get peace instantly . ){ I will share a link of the video later ) .
• Hold yourself accountable to someone be it your friend , your girlfriend ( tell them daily or alternate days about your habit ) .
{ I will share some points related specifically to no fap , sex and masturbation, the mesg is already very long so share later till then Have an awesome day )
Fire
I have reached a decision. It’s time to give my all.
I have destroyed my life. But I still have time to rebuild it. I have to take drastic actions and make real sacrifices. Actually, I’m so attached to my comfort zone that living like a normal Human being like our ancestors seems like a challenge.
I’m scared of the future discomfort right now. The discomfort I will bring myself. But on the other side of pain lies freedom.I’m ready to sacrifice to get that freedom.
I’m going on a transformation journey like a hero in a movie or a super op Mc in an anime that started as a weak charater. I will share my training regimen later.
It’s gonna be exciting. I’m gonna go through lots of pain to change myself. I’m ready.