My real struggling time starts from yesterday. Help Me!

I am currently on day 85, and from yesterday my real struggling time has started. Maybe because I broke my P-Subs(Porn-Substitutes) streak of 41days yesterday. It’s getting really tough now. It feels like I may relapse in the next 10days. I don’t know when this phase will end. Controlling myself from searching for P-Subs while using a laptop is really a big challenge for me. I have to give some practice tests online. So avoiding laptop is not an option. I don’t have any problem with smartphones. I have only one thing to do and that is study. I can’t go for a walk, or listen to music etc. otherwise nofap might be way easier for me. I now do workout once in three days unlike earlier when I used to do it daily. To save some time to study. And that’s why meditation is also not an option and also I live with my family so there is no place to meditate. So if anyone who had overcame such situations then please give me some tips.
P.S. I take cold showers daily.

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I am totally agree with @Adioz

These 2 points are the most important one.

Brother… I do not know how much time you give in your studies. But I am sure… I have done that much study in a day whatever hours you are studying right now.

Bcoz there were days when I target to study 15 hours a day and 6 hours of sleep and only 3 hours for other daily routine work. You won’t believe that but I had achieved this schedule around 15 days in a month(not continuously becoz of MO addiction).
So I can understand it… brother try to reserve n1 hour daily for exercise (not so intense… Only that much is good that gives you sweat… according to ayurvedha this is one rule that one should do that kuch physical work daily that he get sweat due to that work to stay healthy.)

I cannot tell you my whole past but in short I want to say only studying and doing nothing but that will affect your health very badly(both physically and MENTALLY)

I HAVE EXPERIENCED THAT MENTAL AFFECT TOO AND WASTED MY WHOLE YEAR OF PREPARATION. (BECOZ OF THAT SCHEDULE AND MASTURBATION)

You will find, some people say that study whole daynto crack exams like IAS or JEE etc but BROTHER I HAVE DONE THIS MISTAKE… WHEN I FOLLOWED IT FOR 1 YEAR THEN IT DOESN’T AFFECTED ME THAT MUCH AND I PERFORMED WELL BUT IN NEXT YEAR… MY PERFORMANCE DEGRADED EVEN AFTER I HAD MORE KNOWLEDGE AND GRIP ON CONCEPTS)

remember brother… Swasth shareer me hi swasth mastikhsha ka vikas hota h

These saying by our ancestors are always correct. This routine like exercise… Meditation… yoga etc are like our shields which help us to fight urges and put us on right track.

So do some exercise (soft), 10 min meditation etc… it would take hardly 1 hour…then you can study whole day.

All the best brother… I can surely say you will do great in your life

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I have broke my streak at the day of 333
I recently relapsed again at the day of 22
I am now at day of 28

I am struggling from last 6 years & I have to work on PC continuously.

If I can do this you can do it too

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Since I watched those P-Subs, I think now I am in a ‘Chaser effect of p-subs’( I dont know if that thing even exist ). I can’t stop myself from searching for P-Subs. Today I was very very close to edging or masturbation. But didn’t did that. Now I will try my method of not seeing anything erotic for the next 7 days. Let’s see if it works on 84days + . If I know that this temptation will end after ‘y’ many days. Then maybe it will be easier for me. But for now I am walking in a dark tunnel. Don’t know when will this end. I don’t want to loose this streak. I fear that in future I might not be able to achieve it again.

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Hii friend I can understand what do you feeling…I had suffered from this time what my biggest regret is that I lost…:disappointed:but you always remember that you have taken a big target of 1000 days and many of your followers have proud on you…you have gone so far that if you lose now…you can’t even come back here your confidence would badly hurt…instead if you now control yourself it will help a lot to improve your confidence and to better perform in your exams…I am also preparing for an exam and I am also at home but before sleeping when everybody sleeps I do meditation…I do not go for walking but I simply play any game with my mom and brother for mind refreshment…hope you will counter these days bravely

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@Brahmachari_17 You need to count those P-subs as PORN and leave them behind in the same way. Anything that causes that reaction in you is porn, regardless of what form it comes in. There are brothers on here who only relapse to non-nudes, or pictures of clothed actresses, or even audio clips and erotic stories.

You can most definitely have a chaser effect for P-subs, they are PORN.

You have been strong, don’t be afraid. Expand your strategy to include these P-subs as well and continue. You will make it out of this brother. Put nothing erotic in front of your eyes, remind yourself daily how far you’ve come and how badly you want a better life, and keep working on self-improvement. Don’t fall back after going so far.

We are with you.

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Yes I have to consider every erotic thing as porn. The symptoms are similar to chaser effect, like I can’t concentrate now on studies since I watched those erotic things, and I am having very high urges to watch P-Subs and Masturbate. Generally a chaser effect ends within 4-5 days. I hope I will be fine after that.

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Any erotic content is P-Subs. From photos of half naked women to erotic videos on youtube to erotic scenes in movies.

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Yeah brother… even I try to not see any movies trailer… because in movies trailer, there is strong probability that it definitely contain an erotic scene.

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Brother @Brahmachari_17 I believe porn-subs are very dangerous brother as @Forerunner said, you should strictly avoid it and consider it as porn. It will slow down our rewiring as well. You are a strong man. Take a decision today that porn-sub is also a poison like porn and Iam not going to watch it atleast untill I complete my rewiring. You have strong will power. Your streak explains that. SO KEEP GOING STRONG. You are one of the strong companions I have. Be a role model for our brothers who are starting this journey. Bring out the beast.

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Bro I watched three movies today ,that were having good message about no pmo but had erotic contents, in one movie my dick got erection in one scene, but controlled it.
The two movies had enormous amount of erotic contents but not feeling a urge now.

You can get out of this man. Don’t even think of having an option to do pmo. Pmo is not an option man. Do anything but pmo.

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86th Day of No PMO

Day 1/7 ( To not watch P-Subs )

Didn’t watched any p-subs today. I did got urges to watch it around 4-5 times today. But I didn’t watched it. Today I did so much exercise. And took bath 2 times today.

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87th day of No PMO

Day 2/7 ( To not watch P-Subs )

Got urges to watch P-Subs around 2-3 times. But I didn’t watch it. Also I used youtube ( the only source for my entertainment ) only once today. Also I saw that p-sub on youtube. So I am also quiting it from tommorow till, I don’t know maybe around 2-3 months.

One of my companion on nofap.com relapsed after completing 90days. But then relapsed and got caught by chaser effect and ended up PMOing 8 times on the same day. This incident is really horrifying for me. This gave me another reason to not relapse now. I learned from him that our chaser effect grows along with us. Higher the streak stronger will be your chaser effect if you relapse.

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You are doing really great @Brahmachari_17, don’t fall now, you have come too far to fail (almost 3 months without PMO!! It’s really amazing) and you are an inspiration for a lot of people here, including me!!
I fell from my streak last time and it literally took me 2 months to get back on track, I felt like all my superpowers are gone and I became lonely, sad and depressed again…
Remember brother, The greater the height of fall, the harder it hurts, don’t lose momentum now, remember your reasons to quit, stay strong brother, :+1::100:
YOU CAN DO IT!!

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Strong words @selfconqurer . Reading your messages is very inspiring.
@Brahmachari_17 remember the amount of urges you had to conquer to reach this many days. Remember the struggles you had to go through. Remember the pain you went through. If you relapse all those things will come back with double strength. Keep going. Your streak is an inspiration for all of us. Never stop untill you reach 1000 days.

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